Why do I cry over my crush?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had this crush on xxx for a few months now. We’re classmates. I sit behind him and yes, we talk in class. Whenever there’s a free period, he turns and we talk. But recently I found out that he has another person (sort of) he said that he’s not sure if he likes her or not. And after hearing my heart sank. And ever since then, I’ve been crying most days. I always look at my phone to check if he texted. But of course, he doesn’t text. I’ve had crushes before, but I never really cry over them. In fact I’ve never cried over my crush. NEVER. But I really don’t understand what is different this time….. it’s really exhausting and it really hurts. I am a teenager. I know that it might be because of hormones but I don’t understand….. I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE PLEASE HELP. I’m stressing because of this and it so tiring because in front of him, I gotta act like everything is fine (he has no idea that I like him) dreaming about him most nights is not helping me to get over him as well…. I’m so lost….

[SueShe]

Your crush is anchored deeper than the previous ones in your heart. You are a teenager and you experience your first true emotions of caring for someone more than just a friend or buddy.

Yes, those feelings do hurt when you realize that they are not reciprocated or that your crush cares for someone else. All the words will not help you get over him but you must realize that in life, there are times where things don't go the way we want.

Your best option is to try to avoid him as much as possible. If you can, sit elsewhere in class. Best would be somewhere in front of him and as far as possible so that you are not tempted to look at him.

You need to concentrate on the real important things in life and right now, your studies, your school do have this priority. By letting yourself go, by crying and the constant thinking of your crush, you only make it so much harder to concentrate at school. Give yourself a break and remove everything that could remind you of him. The less you see things that remind you of him, the easier it is to move on. Good luck.

[Asker]

THANKKK YOUUU SO MUCHHH!! I REALLY APPRECIATE IT <<33

[SueShe]

You are welcome. All the best :-)

[PrettyPriya]

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. That is so tough when you are young and really having those feelings for the first time. We have all been there at one point. It is not fun.

It is never easy to see someone that you like more than just a friend have feelings for another person. I can tell you with confidence, it doesn't get any easier when you are older. That is just a fact of life.

As to what to do? My best advice is keep yourself busy. Exercise is my go to activity when I need to keep my mind off something. Another thing you can do is meditation. It isn't the easiest of disciplines to learn but there are some great YouTube videos that help teach those techniques.

Other than those two things, I would lean on family and friends for support. It is an emotional time for you and the people closest to you will be there to help you through it. All of these suggestions are helpful, but the one true thing that will heal this is time... and that is the hardest part. Best of luck to you.

[Asker]

THANK YOUUU SO MUCHH <<33

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂

[boobliker]

emotions Interest, Joy, Surprise, Sadness, Anger, Disgust, Fear, Shame, Shyness, and Guilt, most of these will make us humans cry it's OK to cry

[Guy13]

Because you can not have him and it upsets yiu

[Anonymous]

Nothing you can really do unless he’s free