I’ve never been in relationship and the loneliness is getting to me. How do you get over bitterness when you don’t know what else to do?

[Anonymous]

First of all I’m fairly attractive young smart my biggest issue is I’m a slow relationship mover, I overthink, get mad when I can’t read people and I don’t like the guys that approach me. I like quiet nerdy introverts, guys with lots of hobbies. And the men who approach me have no interests, or hobbies and don’t value the same things as me they also always want to move super fast. When I approach guys they’re always confusing and seem to enjoy my company but never talk to me on their own. I radiate as much positive energy as I can but love just find people and shit and it won’t find me. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong I try focus on myself and talk to people and nothing comes. I hate feeling desperate but I feel so screwed over and bitter right now what else do you even do at this point?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

You have to accept that holding on to that bitterness won’t help you, trust me.


1st, I think you should just a take a deep breath and relax for a moment. You’re going to be fine, you’re young and you have plenty of time to find the right person for you. It’s not easy to search for the right person but it’s absolutely essential that you do the process correctly. Rushing through things and being desperate will lead to mistakes and overlooking something that could be disastrous in the future.


2nd, you seem to like men with hobbies or nerdy men, that’s a good thing. You know what you want and that’s incredibly helpful. Search for a man in those interests such as hangouts for those hobbies or participating in those hobbies like a club or a social event to network. You may not find the exact man you know but broadening your social circle helps you cover more ground at a faster pace.


You’re gonna do just fine , hang in there champ

[melanieeeB]

Well maybe not give relationships such a big meaning, people come and go, I think it's more important that you build a good relationship with yourself and loved ones and work towards a good future or focus on whatever is your hobby and/or makes you happy

[jini1]

you're young. Give it time. Plus, your concern is my concern. But you'll find someone who will trully cherish you and love you. Hold onto that one. You dont need many.