He's 25 going on 26 and im almost 24 and we've worked together here and there a year and played video games together once, he's really easygoing and laidback but a kind hearted guy although back in April he said he wasn't looking for anything and he's never had a girlfriend i still have this crush on him i just dont wanna get my hopes up but he mentioned to me we can do something soon.. i just dont know if it's too soon or pushy to ask him on a date and tell him the truth that i find him really cute and if he'd like to see if there's anything more. Thoughts?
OK first thing, be very very careful before you entertain the thoughts of dating a coworker. Remember, the odds statistically speaking are pretty remote that this is going to be the person that you end up settling down with for good. And that means more likely than not, you all will probably break up especially since you said that this guy has never had a girlfriend? And he’s almost 26? It’s going to be a little bit rocky even if you do date for a while. My point being as if it goes sideways it’s really hard to have to see and work with an ex every single day. It’s hard to have closure if you can’t have space. The second thing is this, I would give it a little more time before actually making a move. Hang out a little longer and try a little more flirting and see how they respond. You don’t want to lose a good friendship by going to fast. It doesn’t sound like he’s done anything overtly flirtatious just yet although he does sound like he enjoys your company. Just be patient for a little while longer while you hang out and see if he gives you any more indications or if he responds more affirmatively to some of your subtle hints. Good luck!
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Okay well first things first he said what he said okay and he wasn't looking for anything so you have to hear that but he did not say he wasn't looking for a good friend to hang out with if you ask him out ask him not out on a date ask him to let's go out and do whatever the moment you bring up Crush you're going to make him run you're going to make him think too deep if you guys go out you have fun you're doing it as friends and then say hey we should do this again sometime but if you mention the word Crush he's going to see you being an aggressive Maybe but also he might feel that you're trying to push him into something that he's not ready for just yet look at if you guys go out and he has a good time there you go that just means another another night or day you guys can go out and do something as friends let him make that choice you already know what you like you already know what you're in it for let him make up his mind what he's in it for is that makes sense that I can't tell you what to do when you do what you think is right
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It sounds like he doesn't want to be in a relationship. If he said he's not looking for something and never been in a relationship.
Maybe you're setting yourself up for disappointment if he only wants to hookup and you want something more. And that could make it strange at work.You should try to see how he feels about you. You have known each other for a year so if you want him try and so him that and see what type of response you get from him. You probably want to act soon than latter because you might friend zone each other by becoming close frinds, but not too fast otherwise it might get weird.
You might as well try so long as he’s single. How long is he gonna be available?
You know. If he’s attractive. He could just ask someone else if someone else doesn’t ask him.
How’s your chance.It's not too soon. Give it a try and see what happens.
Its not too soon. Go for it. Let us know how it goes.
if you hang out do it in a group setting like after work drinks to unwind.
Keep hanging out with the guy. Don’t force things just yet
Coworker?
Bad idea.Absolutely notbgo for it girl and good luck
dont date co workers... ut won't last
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