Almost a year ago, I (F24) matched with an attractive Asian guy named Tomohiro (M29) on Tinder. He's from Japan, I'm from Kentucky, US, so we're very far from each other, but since I'm someone who adores Japanese culture and the language itself, I deicded to give him a chance. I also want to help him find a new job because he got dropped from being a waitor at an izakaya a few weeks ago.
Tomohiro and I have been getting along well, but he actually wants me to come to Japan to see him. That's not the problem. The problem is that Tomohiro lives with his schizophrenic mom who intentionally almost killed his dad, and I'm not okay with staying around her for too long like that. He tells me that she's very interested in meeting me, which is fine, but he ALSO tells that she's off her meds, which is NOT fine. Apparently, she's doing better, but she's still schizophrenic and had attempted to murder someone, so I can't say that I'm comfortable.
Another thing I'm hesitant about is Tomohiro meeting my parents because... they're both very racist, unfortunately. They have no idea that I'm in a distant relationship with a Japanese guy, nor does Tomohiro know that my parents have no idea that he exists, let alone that I'm traveling to Japan to hit it off with him. Plus, Tomohiro is kinda lazy, so my parents would still disapprove of him, even if he was white.
I really don't want to mess things up wuth Tomohiro because I love Asian men, and this is my first time being an actual relationship with one. I don't care if he's considered a bum, I still love him.
