What's wrong with having a dating preference?

[cth2188]

Why do some people think their entitled to you because of same race? I'm the type of woman whose open to a lot of races of men and don't limit myself to my race, but the men who are my race don't understand that. I don't owe them an explanation, but they come in my DM asking me why I don't date them or still try to make passes despite they see I'm open to all races of men on my dating profile. I'm doing what makes me happy and I don't feel I need to explain myself to them. Who goes around policing what others do? We like what we like and that's noone's business.

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Would I be wrong if I ignored them?

[DaveJord]

Well if you are open to different races then why specific it on your dating profile, unless you are specifically trying to deter same race men from connecting with you?

Sounds like you are making an issue of it when it does have to be... it tells me that you put some type of race requirement on men.. and yeah there is some thing of a race component involved we feel that it needs to be stated.

Just the other day I was looking at a women and she was ranked high on the compatibility scale like the highest I have seen, but in her profile she specifically said she was looking for "black man". Now I am glad she said it, because I would not want to date someone with such a narrow perspective. But at the same time I don't put on my profile white women only, because that's racist right?

I am open to other races, but again no need to specify that on a dating profile, because I consider the individual merits of each and everyone of the women I connect with, and can sort through the ones I like and don't like with out making a statement about it.

[cth2188]

My race of men come in my inbox when they see I date out it's on my profile written. Unless they can't read or have poor comprehension. I don't want my race of men contacting me why would they? I domt date them amd their only waiting their time approaching me when I have no interest in them.

[cth2188]

I like what I like and if I date out that's my business. Clearly I'm use to dating out and have kids outside my race. What I will start doing is blocking anyone who doesn't match my dating requirements and preferences or ignore them when they message me. If I see that a non black men only prefers his race of women why would I message him if I'm a different race?

[DaveJord]

Just saying if you don't like then contacting you just take it out of your profile you can sort out the ones you don't like. I mean regardless if its your own race or not, you are putting a racial component on it and that is racist, and you are advertising it to the world.

So you are making it an offensive thing, by downing on your own race. I like having anal sex with women, but I don't put it on my profile page because i don't want to be offensive. By making it a deal you are being offensive.

There is nothing wrong with liking what you like, and wanting what you want... but why make it an issue for someone else by being offensive?

[cth2188]

So why keep messaging me if you see I date outside my race? Why waste your time it's annoying 😒

[DaveJord]

Because its offensive to people, why don't you just block them, or set up your filters so they can't see you profile... there just so many things you could do better to avoid the annoyance. Every time get someone that messages me that I am not interested I block them or discard the message.

[cth2188]

I don't control my dating profile why I wrote it on there. I dont care what is offensive. My race of men dates out all the time and idc.. I don't police them.. no I won't change my filter to please someone else. Half of the time I don't even respond to them because it's a waste of time. We're in 2022 and people should get over race.

[cth2188]

If anything it's aggravating to keep rejecting someone you know you're not interested in.

[cth2188]

That's what I do. I don't want them messaging me at all. It's pointless. It takes 2 minutes to read someone's profile, but it ain't even online it's in person too the harassment and stalking too. I get it 10 times worse online sadly.

[DaveJord]

Well I am just saying if you think these guys are the problem, then maybe you should look at yourself... I mean you want to come on here and complain about it, but you are unwilling to do anything or change anything about your approach. So obviously it snot really that big of deal is it? I will assume on level you like doing what you are doing, so dealing with these loser must be entertaining to you.

[cth2188]

They are the problem they disrespect their own race of women why I don't deal with them.

[cth2188]

I'm not complaining merely trying to get to a solution to this situation. Everyone on the board gets and understands it ( friends by the way ) why don't you get it?

[DaveJord]

I gave you an easy solution and you rejected it and it is like the easiest thing you could do, so obviously its not just them being the problem.

[cth2188]

I'm made up just block 🚫 them and ignore them

[Avicenna]

Nothing of course, unless we're talking about something other than single adults dating each other, which isn't the case here.

I think what it is is that they feel personal rejection more than anything else.

[cth2188]

Right

[SeriouslyFunny00]

There's nothing wrong with having preferences, as long as it's realistic. Also, interracial dating is totally normal nowadays. You do not owe anyone an explanation. 💁🏻‍♀️

[Summeroflove]

It’s kind of the same thing with standards. Sometimes people get bitter and think someone’s trash for not fitting their standards. When in reality. It’s nothing personal it’s just not meant to be.

Im about average height. I don’t hate women who would rule me out. There are women who don’t care about height as much or whatever. As long as they don’t see me as lesser of a person.

There is some women though. Who think someone’s trash because she isn’t attracted or men who think a woman’s trash because of it.

There are women who I wouldn’t date. But don’t dislike them as people. Just ain’t into them

[Lliam]

There's nothing wrong with it at all. It's normal.
People who tell you what you are idiots.

[cth2188]

Thanks

[Sixgunsound]

It isn’t anyone else’s business who you date. Jealousy is always a popular motivating factor for dating police.

[cth2188]

I thought it was an insecurity problem

[cth2188]

Agreed

[Zolly99999]

Nothing is wrong with it all. We all have preferences

[cth2188]

Agreed its getting on my nerves

[Zolly99999]

I don't blame you at all. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone... you do what makes you happy... end of story.

[cth2188]

Agreed

[RangerBlue22]

Attraction isn’t a choice. Respect is a choice but attraction isn’t. And some people are more attracted to certain racial looks and characteristics and not as much to others. It’s whatever.

[BJP21]

Nothing but, I like having a selection. Just because it give me more opportunity to meet others and stepping out of my comfort zone which is the most healthiest thing you can do socially.

[cth2188]

Agreed

[Berethor]

Men of your race feel like they own you.

[cth2188]

They don't they need to get over themselves asap

[cth2188]

I know they get on my nerves

[TroyDT2]

Do what you want. You do not owe anyone an explanation.

[cth2188]

Thanks

[CharlieDMX]

There's nothing wrong with having a preference. It becomes wrong when you look down on other people because of race and use that as an excuse to reject people. I think this is not your case

[crmoore]

I completely agree.