After we had sex a few times I mentioned that I was feeling guilty for having sex without a commitment, he started pulling away. Should I let him go?

[Anonymous]

He stopped talking to me. He claimed it was something that I posted on Instagram. We started talking again recently but he does initiate dates even though he says he wants to only meet out in public. Well that hasn’t been the case, we been hanging at his house per my request. He doesn’t text or call me at all since he and I had a falling out, I always reach out. But he doesn’t want me talking to other men. He told his friend that he likes me but “she doesn't know what she wants” and that I don’t let things happen naturally. We got into an argument over another situation through Text (long story). We made up by me reaching out. I decided to have sex w him bc I didn’t want to put too much pressure on having a relationship anymore. I felt I was shooting myself in the foot looking for it. But i worry because he doesn’t ask to hang out anymore. Did he lose interest

[Anonymous]

You are wasting your time. If you want him to want you, you have to want you first. When you do, then you will create strict boundaries and enforce them. But beware... the longer you continue to have 'casual' sex, the more difficult everything will become and eventually you will not be able to bond anyway.

[Honest-Matt]

Sounds like neither of you know what you want and aren't tip top on communication. Figure out what you want, be real with yourself and tell him. If you don't know or don't want to plan your future right now, tell him that.

[Anonymous]

Classic mistake. You can't go back and fix it now. The best thing you can do is stop caring about and showing interest in him. If he values you then he'll be back. If he doesn't come back then you'll know you did the right thing.

Next time you meet a guy you are interested in, don't sleep with him until you have some sense of commitment from him, or chances are it'll be deja vu all over again.

Men don't value or respect easy women. It's just a fact of male nature.

[Ash6373]

The best thing to do is TALK... LOTS. OF GENUINE AND OPEN TALK.

Depending on the results after a while you should decide (together if possible) what future holds.

If you think he is just after sex or not interested... JUST LET GO... its okay and time heals all, you will find someone better cuz there are many (a lot!) better... all the best

[loveslongnails]

He changed completely from the moment you mentioned the word "commitment". You have your answer. Time to cut bait and find a guy who wants one.

[FilmGuy93]

Kind of. It's less that he's losing interest, and more that you are asking more from him than he knows if he wants to give you.

[genericname85]

well obviously he's not interested in being as attached as you want to be. so what's the point in running after him?

[Guy13]

You have to now...

[Asker]

Why so? Just curious?

[Guy13]

Judging from his behavior, he seemed to be after one thing from the beginning

[AviatorTom]

Depends... do you want him to go?

[Asker]

No I don’t. But I want him to treat me like he wants me.

[AviatorTom]

Then let him know that... and remember that you cannot change another person, but you can give them reasons to change themselves.

[boobliker]

if you enjoyed the sex then NO!!

[nawtee_me]

yes let him go... You deserve better...