Guys, will an older woman who’s still a virgin drive you away or scare/turn you off?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Yes, at my age that would be Red Flag to me. Means she's made it to 33 without being a serious committed romantic relationship or sexual relationship... so she had no experience with those these. Sexual relationship changes the dynamics of any relationships... and usually people her age has been through it a few times and have acquired a level of emotional maturity that has equipped her with better knowledge in how best to approach these types of relationships.

See there is a difference between knowledge and wisdom... you can acquire knowledge through all types of means, reading, learning, training... but wisdom can only be achieved when you apply knowledge with practical experience. So, a 33-year-old virgin lacks any practical experience and to less degree any true wisdom when it comes to sexual relationships.

It also can be indicator of possible "RED FLAGS", because there is a higher probability that she has elevated levels of insecurities when comes to sex, that usually stem from some level of miss trust, doubt and confidence. They will hide behind things like their fair or values... but even 90% of Christen women with high level of self-esteem have meet men, married or had sex by 33, so it's a RED FLAG to me. At my age and with my experience I find women with these types of issues exhausting.

Xtendable · Accepted Answer

Gotta play catch-up

devilish-cutie · Accepted Answer

some will have issue with it and some will not, it really depends on the guy

and if a guy would mind it then she is not a girl for him, not saying that the guy is in the wrong but that guy probably isn't for her and she is not for him

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

They rarely shy from opportunities like that.

Avicenna · Answer

Guys would not be bothered about that at all- only if she says she'll never have sex

ManOnFire · Answer

That actually sounds really hot.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It all depends on her attitude with me. I tend to go for non-virgins, because they tend to be slightly less likely to be completely stuck-up, delusional, and self-righteous.

Non-virgins are also less likely to get easily weirded out by every little thing, see predation where none exists, and be lying little cowards.

I also realize that unless she's a total nerd, she probably has no idea what a machinomic is, and won't understand my passion for making them.

However, non-virgins can accept that you are passionate about a craft they didn't know existed. They don't automatically try to convince everyone that you're Patrick Bateman, out to eat their brains or whatever, just because they don't understand your hobbies.

A few too many virgins have been the types to act like if I don't eat at Buffalo Wild Wings every freakin' Saturday and have a ginormous 4k TV for watching the NFL with, that this somehow means I'm some bush jumper. It's pretty pathetic.

If you had to shop for a Blu-ray player, but got treated like you're Harvey Weinstein if you take just one second too long analyzing the package of a potential purchase to see what features that model supports (like 3D), and this happened every single freaking time you entered Wal-Mart, before you even got to finish reading the menu to find what you're looking for, you'd get pretty sick of being treated that way, right?

That's when I'd be more inclined to take my chances with whatever the hell Goodwill has in stock. It might just need to be dusted. It might be a disaster piece. It may be traumatized from playing Frozen for the little brats too many times. But if it will play my Doomsday Preppers season 4 DVDs, it's good.

Similar thing with women. That analogy makes sense, right?

NathanDavis · Answer

it all depends... in the very first thing that I ever learn from someone or they tell me about this

" I am a virgin, problem or not? "

then that might be an issue... lol

it will make me think and wonder about what are the reasons, or ideas, or beliefs and all these things can be a distraction from other things that are more important to me like your personality or your character or many other things that to me, are more significant and meaningful to someone as they person they truly are, lol

Summeroflove · Answer

Virginity is something that should be valued. I’m someone who believes in waiting until marriage. So, I would have no problem with it.

I think it says. She has morals. Obviously she’s a beautiful woman. So. She has dignity and self respect as well as respect for the man who she will be with.

I think. The type of men who just like to have sex. If they were given the opportunity they would take it. The problem is. If they aren’t given it. They’re gone pretty fast…

ZackBan · Answer

With respect: this woman is coping.

No one is "scared" and shaking in a corner because she's a virgin.
She's just unattractive and I would assume her personality is not too much better so men stay away. She says they are scared.

I used to have that problem, I had 0 social skills and would always say "oh women are intimidated by my intensity and are afraid they can't handle me" but the truth is I just didn't know what women wanted and how social interactions are supposed to go.
And when I learned that, me, the same person managed to become very good with women, objectively good.

Realistic07 · Answer

Neither option.

Who am I to say how another person lives their life. Virginity, non-virginity.
Who cares as long as they’re living their best life, and moving forward.

We are all different and have different points of views, lifestyles, or events that even occurred in our lives. Who am I to judge anyone for their path in life, The time it takes to walk that path, and should one not want to be judged maybe one should practice the same which is why I really don’t judge others.

Oh well that’s my two cents in it. Hopefully it has contributed something to the topic.

OpenClose · Answer

I'm not sure I've heard of virginity being a turn-off in women. I mean I could imagine some overanalyzing it as some red flag, or I guess in myself I could picture it being an asexual relationship because she is probably against premarital sex. Something easily overcome with just a quick conversation or her wanting to hit the bedroom.

As a guy, I'm more worried about how I would be perceived being a virgin who recently passed 30. I feel like there's more riding on it, because I don't think people really care about a woman's "skill" or "stamina" in bed, but it is ALWAYS called into question with men. And I feel like this is a strong red flag for women, who seem to hold more weight on a man's reputation with other women. Sort of "I can't accept him because other women must have deemd him unacceptable" or something.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Big turn-off! There’s no substitute for experience, especially regarding sex. Have SOME idea how to please me, or know EVERYTHING i need to know about pleasing you, preferably both! I ain’t got time and energy to train a new kid on everything! Ell oh ell!

SoIcyGang · Answer

She must have very strange beliefs or emotional problems. I've dated plenty of girls with really fucked up beliefs. Like emotional baggage is one things. Beliefs about relationships, sex, men and women qua men and women. I've had to dump girls because they believe the most ridiculous shit.

This woman would be an immediate next. I'm not unpacking all that bullshit for her. Her mind must be a whirlwind of madness.

Berethor · Answer

I prefer a virgin, and men are scared because of her age, not virginity, he is hitting the wall. :)

Adam1978 · Answer

Depends on if I find it likely to be true or just one of those who think they can declare themselves virgins again. It's really not a merit at that age. There is very few paths that leads women to be virgins at this age and most signal that she is a bad pick. So yeah if you have better options you probably go for them than gamble with this one.

mickmrly · Answer

35 isn’t really old, but to answer the question, no I opulent be turned off. Sometimes it takes a while to find someone you feel like being intimate with. Doing a quickie with some random person just to say you’ve lost your virginity is rather pointless in the scheme of things.

Angelo75 · Answer

I'd say... it's more than a logical part of our brains that will tell us:
"Well... if she's been alone so long, then probably no one has met her super high standards?"
And then we'd say: "Nahhh! Leave me alone. I got better things to do with my time than fight super hard to your high standards."

But maybe it's just me.

king34 · Answer

Yeah because it's either one of 3 things, 1 she's waiting for marriage or the right man, and has curved hundreds if not thousands of men over the course of decades, which means her standards must be high as fuck and I'm just going to be next on the choping block. 2 she just can't find a relationship because she's crazy, or 3 she's just lying
Any way you cut it it isn't a good look, I do condone waiting until marriage tho

pizzalovershouse · Answer

I would have to date till she felt comfortable which if it's a yr before fooling around then I have to say ater a few months I can't be your guy sex isn't everything but if your into each other an feel love for one another or really care for themit isn't going to work out sense they can't trust you to make love to them eve though you use protection an are std free there's no real trust an no relationship

normalice · Answer

Yes. I would have to conclude sex just isn't a priority for her. Though, maybe if it's just because she really likes anal it could certianly work out, but there's no way to know that just by knowing she is a virgin.

Heolurt · Answer

Guys aren't afraid they just don't believe most females especially ones of slightly advanced age are virgins, they might also wonder what's wrong with her that she's still a virgin at that age when 99% of females are all about that hot girl summer shit.

MrPickles13 · Answer

I wouldn't have an issue with that as long as I liked her. I don't see why it would matter if you like and care for them this is a part of that. If you wished to have a sex life and they were a virgin for a reason then its just maybe not ment to be but I wouldn't class that as scaring then off for that reason.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Drives me away, scares, turns me off... can i use all 3? As seriously i had to "deal" with virgin's before, and nooo way! Had enough! Too much work, too much convincing, freaking out after not being a virgin nomore... nah, not for me, Thanks!

chicosuave · Answer

It wouldn't but I would go through some struggle with her. Its a lot work and usually women like that are not very simple. There expectations are super high and etc. How do I know. Well I dated virgins and they are all the same

HighValue · Answer

Regardless of her reasoning, I would not be interested in someone that age. I want someone to have healthy kids with and raise a family together so I'm not really interested in starting a NEW relationship with someone past 30.

D-Pad_Chad · Answer

It's not so much about virginity, but more about the age. Around the age of 32 pregnancy becomes much harder and a lot of men, myself included, look towards starting families.

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

Whether a virgin or no isn't scary. It's really still just down to whether we really like each other or no. Would I be curious as to why? You betcha.

WeirdoFriendly · Answer

That's not a turn off 🙂 I'm 20 and I haven't had sex either. Not sure I ever will... But you being a virgin isn't going to scare me away

Grond21 · Answer

I honestly don't understand why women say that men are scared of them when they don't find them attractive. I think it's just an ego statement, not one based on evidence.
Regardless, a 35 year old virgin is not at all intimidating.

Sixgunsound · Answer

I’m not sure it would be a fear reaction, but I’d definitely want to know the story why. Depending on the reason it would matter or it wouldn’t.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i'd respect her wishes and never have sex with her

AviatorTom · Answer

She wouldn't scare me away. I'm sure she has good reasons why she's still a virgin, and we might be able to find a nice way to change that.

MCheetah · Answer

No, a 35 to 40 year old female virgin would not drive me away, scare me, or turn me off. Can't say the same thing would apply with a MALE virgin.

LogicBomber · Answer

“Scared”… No man is “scared” or a virgin female, regardless of her age.

Many may simply not want to deal with whatever game she is playing or hoops she expects to put out and go for an easier pussy.

Msputiton · Answer

I'm not a guy, but that's a weird reason to not date someone, or lose interest

77five · Answer

A 35 yr old virgin turns them off but an under 20 girl virgin gets them excited. Its really gross.

Part2603 · Answer

Um, so first of of 30 years old is already hitting the wall. So while it's nice that she's a virgin, she's also too old.

boggboss · Answer

If thats the baises of there personality then yeah it would be

Havthrills · Answer

No. Why would that drive me away? Why would that drive anyone away? That's like saying they would rather have some that slept with 3792 people than 5.

USLegionary · Answer

They probably don't want to waste their time cracking a safe no guy has managed in 20 years.

Porter21 · Answer

Not me bring her on!!! Gets me hard just thinking about it!!

clampfan101 · Answer

There’s nothing wrong about being a virgin at any age. Everyone can wait as long as they want/need. I’m still waiting until marriage.

Andres77 · Answer

It's the whole woman who is of interest. Including her past. Is it because she murdered all of her previous suitors or just has high standards?

Sparkie460 · Answer

So what you're still a Virgin. I respect your decision to wait. It doesn't bother me norepinephrine would it scare me away from you. If anything I'd be drawn to you more out of respect

RavVid · Answer

Well you would have to think her sex drive is low but I would be willing to find out.

Chthou95 · Answer

An older woman that's still a virgin? 😕 that's weird

genericname85 · Answer

not "scared". but if she makes me think that i'm gonna wait for sex forever, i'll just move on.

TroyDT2 · Answer

Around here you'd be hard-pressed to find a virgin half her age. Frankly I'd wonder if she had been in prison or was a former nun.

Guy13 · Answer

No it would not.

Charlesbrandonf · Answer

I’m not scared or worried if I married a woman who is virgin at 32 or wherever.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Older virgins are cool to me, trust me guys wouldn't be turned off

stratford · Answer

Doesn't make any difference. Her hymen may still be intact or not, it doesn't matter.

Pete671 · Answer

No, I'd be very flattered that she would want to spend time with me without any agenda for sex,,,

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

she looks like Eric Estrada

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

I have no interest in virgins I wouldn’t turn her away but I’m not staying with someone I’m not having sex with

Fuentes · Answer

I'm not dealing with any sort of virgin and being older it's a red flag and a sign of social retardation if you ask me.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@pinay_ako To be honest, an older woman who's still a virgin turns me off. It's a turn-off because I don't see myself having a successful relationship with an older woman who's a viring.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Probably yeah I'd prefer some experience with an older woman in my life because I am submissive

KostasKouvalis · Answer

If she's a virgin by choice, yes. Though not always. As long as she still craves it is fine

Andridaca · Answer

Nah. It is a bit strange, but nothing scary.

backdoorman · Answer

It would certainly give me pause. But I would need to know her story to decide.

Jerre · Answer

Won’t scare me off at all. Just be able to teach her to fuck, what orgasms fill like, what it feels like for a man to cum in her pussy.

Twalli · Answer

Not because she's a virgin at ___ age. I would want to know why, and if she's waiting for marriage, then I'd leave.

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