How you feel when someone you're dating puts you on a pedestal too soon?

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Especially when it seems to be that she assumes all kinds of good qualities in you that you haven't yet proven to her. Does this happen to you often? Does it make you feel bad about yourself because you know deep down you can't live up to their fantasy?

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I have not been with anyone like that yet... but yes, I would quick make sure they understand that I just don't do that kind of thing

and it's not because they will find out gruesome, disappointing or really awful things about me... it is more like I really never try to hide my not so good things, they will be there sooner rather than later, and that's just part of me being as genuine as possible

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

I'm sure this probably happens, but I'm never aware of it. They probably just see one good thing I did or said and assume I'm a saint, and then they see another thing (which was probably a joke) and are just as quick to judge the other way. So I never even find out that they liked me, because they only liked me for 5 minutes anyway. Haha

AsaKyo · Accepted Answer

You see.. that's never ever happened  I'm always the one who cares way more than they do, so I don't really know what that feels like

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

That’s happened to me and yeah I do feel bad about it

Summeroflove · Answer

It really depends. If she loves me and makes me a priority in her life. I won’t be complaining.  But. If she loves me at first until I can’t live up to that. Yeah it bothers me

20yearsolder · Answer

While she's lifting you up on that pedestal, correct her. I appreciate the compliments but I'm not this person. I've done bad things or whatever you want to confess.

melanieeeB · Answer

From experiences, this isn't a good sign and I automatically step away from them and put some distance to non contact there

AviatorTom · Answer

That's never happened to me. I've done the reveres a few times though, and those relationships didn't work out too well.

clampfan101 · Answer

Girls don’t even notice me. The only one that ever did is in Heaven with the rest of the angels. But hey, she was too pure for this world anyway. 😥

msc545 · Answer

this really worries me. Being overly flattering initially is one sign of borderline personality disorder which is about the worst psychiatric illness a person can have. I have stopped seeing women who do this.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

So far, I seriously doubt it's ever happened! If it has, it was only once and wasn't a big deal.

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm uncomfortable when I'm complimented on qualities i know have. Something like this will make me very very uncomfortable.

jamesgoldman · Answer

My second girlfriend did that is was good until until you terl like your suffocating underbthe pressure to be perfect

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

Creeped out but to be fair all forms of affection creep me out  like ew don’t touch me and don’t get me started on that liquid that falls from peoples eyes (yuck)

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

This has never happened to me but there is always a first time.

Ironic_Method · Answer

I hate it. Praise is nice, but it needs to have reason behind it.

Juxtapose · Answer

I know she's lying because the ones who come out so strong early on ALWAYS end up betraying me.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It can make me feel Special for a while then if She keeps doing it, I would probably wonder if She is using me or not.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

The one time I had someone do this it was highly annoying.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Had it happen a couple times an it was more the fact we didn't have much in common

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Girls do this to me a lot and are upset that I’m only a demiGod… it’s frustrating

Zolly99999 · Answer

I don't know as I never had it happen... ever

Nikki1989 · Answer

I find it overbearing and annoying.

Sixgunsound · Answer

I can live up to that fantasy🤠

loveslongnails · Answer

Never had to worry about that. LOL

Havthrills · Answer

I have no clue. Lol

Anonymous · Answer

It makes me put her in the friend son.

Anonymous · Answer

Uh, guys don't get put on pedestals. 🤣🤣🤣

Anonymous · Answer

We fuck like rabbits.

Anonymous · Answer

Like she is buttering me up for a money ask.

Guardian45 · Answer

That's a problem

CubaPirate · Answer

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