What do you think about your partner or someone you're dating putting you on a pedestal?

[RoosterJuniour56]

[lumos]

Not healthy. Ultimately I wouldn't be the person he's looking for (it's likely that nobody would be), because guys who do that usually only fall in love with the idea/fantasy of a woman, and not the woman that's actually right in front of them.

It's very likely (if not completely inevitable) that I wouldn't be able to meet all of his standards. At some point the pedestal would have to crumble, because I'm only human and nobody can stay up on a pedestal for too long. I wouldn't want to see what that fallout would be like. Unfortunately, guys who put women on a pedestal tend to become very angry when their expectations aren't met, and that's a potentially scary and very toxic relationship waiting to happen.

I want to be with someone who sees me as their equal, someone who sees me as a human. With strengths and weaknesses. Good days and bad days. I want to be loved for who I am, not loved for who I could be in a "perfect" world or the "ideal" version of me that doesn't exist.

Being on a pedestal is scary. It puts a lot of unnecessary pressure and expectations on you. It's not flattering or cute to have someone not see you as a human, flaws and all.

[provokeesmokee]

Terrible red flag. My first ex did this and I left him (not for this only, but it certainly contributed to how poorly he treated me).

Putting your partner on a pedestal is another form of objectification, but instead of only sexual objectification, you're forcing your perceptions and expectations on your partner.

I'd rather be with someone who sees me for who I am, not who they think I should be to live up to their pedestal-raised version.

Plus, I'm human. It's not healthy to have unrealistic expectations of humans.

[sheenagwapa]

i think no girlfriend wouldn't want to be praised by her beauty by her boyfriend but if yoy are too nice, yoy have no boundaries i think that diminishes your attractiveness jmo... and this is regardless of look and gender if yoy are the doirmat tupe yoy are borinh. just basing on my personal observations for example my ex is one of the most gentle guy i know but i love it when he gets mad at me from time to time and put me in my placw. i finf him more attractive weird isn't iy

[RoosterJuniour56]

my bad I should have been more clear on what I meant by putting you on a pedestal
I mean like that person thinks you can do no wrong
they think you're perfect
they think you're better than themselves and others

[BlackBeauty90]

It's a red flag.

It indicates that the person is NOT as mentally sound or mature as they may be pretending to be. Someone who is mentally sound or mentally mature understands that humans ARE by nature flawed and to expect someone "perfect" is insanity.

Bluntly it indicates a psychological disorder with the other person and depending on the rest of that person's character/mindset when reality comes crashing down they may just turn violent or abusive.

[Nikki1989]

It's annoying. It is nice to be loved, but not to the point where it is suffocating.

[Lyndsielee666]

I have bpd so that’s a plus for me although it shouldn’t be 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Ezra_lila]

Nope I won't allow it. I will choose to leave and be on my own than be in the pedestal. I deserve much better and love me for who I am.

[Alli39]

Unhealthy! It creates unrealistic expectations that are doomed to failure.

[Samantha36]

We all do it. That's part of a relationship.

[RoosterJuniour56]

so what I mean by putting you on a pedestal I mean like they think you can do no wrong perfect in every way they think your better at everything than themselves and others;they think your infallible

[Samantha36]

Oh... yeah that's too much. Not good at all.

[Anonymous]

i think thats dumb. i'm not that great.

[MissBoogus]

I love it and as it should be

[devilish-cutie]

yes please