How do you feel about a partner or someone you're dating always agreeing with you on things?

[Still-alive]

As in no matter what they never seem to have any disagreements with you?

I like that actually. makes things easier

I don't like that. they likely lack a spine. they don't stand up for anything

It depends (say how)

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No. I would like him to have his own mind and to sometimes control my careless nature. So, no I wouldn’t like him to agree with me, I’d like him to suggest his opinions and inspire me to become better.

As I tend to be dramatic, selfish, and narcissistic when I am alone.

Having a person who disagrees with me makes me see my own flaws clearly, which is very important for me, so I can try to improve, also I am very impulsive and having someone less impulsive who disagrees with me would be wonderful to inhibit my impulsiveness.

On my own, I lean to the extremities of my personality,

with someone I care for, I become a bit better version of myself, which makes me feel good, because deep down we all want to be good, don’t we?

Also, him disagreeing with me wouldn’t cause us any arguments, as I am quite understanding that I am not perfect and I am willing to try to improve myself if he proves that his point is more valid than mine.

That doesn’t mean, I’d change my mind to accommodate his opinion, but I’d respect it and take it into consideration.

[Still-alive]

So the narcissism and selfishness goes away when you're with someone?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Surprisingly, I become much better of a person.
My personality flaws get a bit more inhibited, not totally disappearing, but I become much better of a person.

I was also surprised myself, how could I be so good. Because all my life, I was perceived to be a bit villainous.

But love seems to be a very strong motivation and a force, which seems to awaken something nice in us.

[Still-alive]

Well for some people there's usually a 'honeymoon period' where we tend to put forward the best versions of ourselves... but then once that fades away the real person tends to reveal itself... so i guess that doesn't happen to you huh?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, the more time passed the better I became, as I was more and more in love.

I don’t know if honeymoon lasts for 3 years and a half. But In my opinion I was a better person for those 3 years and a half.

[Still-alive]

Usually the best way to tell if you found someone real special is when they see the worst parts of yourself but still accept and love you for it anyways. so even after that honeymoon period fades they still remain.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He made me feel like he loved me at my worst.

Before I fell for him, I was quite annoying.

He’d call me the nicknames like “My little Angel, my goddess, my queen, and some other cute nicknames made of a cute version of my name or chinese versions of “babe”.

And then sometimes he’d ask me lovingly, while playing with me

“I often wonder how can you be this bad?”

“You are so selfish my little angel. I love it.”

“You are so YOU, it’s unreal, I’ve never imagined there existed a person like you. How can you be like this? It’s adorable.”

“My little monster got unleashed. Look at you, how bad you are. You know, I only love you more for it!”

He found my bad sides adorable and treated me lovingly even when I was super annoying and extremely selfish.

That made me open up and fall in love with him and open up my not so bad sides too. But I think he loved me more when I was my worst and careless self unapologetically and he never wanted me to become good. He liked to be the good one among us.

[petitedollbabee]

It may make things nice at first but after a while that would drive me nuts! I couldn’t be with someone like that long term. Every single decision and opinion should not only be mine to make, otherwise why didn’t I just stay single? I need a partner who will brainstorm with me or give me his point of view, not just blindly agree with everything.

[Tren58]

So many sides to this. It’s nice to be on the same page about big things. Disagreeing on those makes it really messy and hard. But I’ve had really impulsive and reckless ideas in the past. It’s good to be brought down to earth once in a while. I absolutely get annoyed when my SO says “ok, whatever you want.” if it’s just to end the conversation. But, I get even more annoyed when he’s on one of his argument kicks and is playing the devils advocate just to have a stimulating discussion. Especially when he agrees with me, and he just wants me to “think about other view points” since I seemed so sure. Conversation where we agree are the ones where you feel the connection. So, If you mean, do I want someone antagonistic? No. If you mean, do I want a door mat? Also no.

[Sour-rose]

If my husband agreed with every... EVERY damn thing I did, we would only be friends. I have him wrapped around my finger but he has a spine and will say no... occasionally. Like, if I ask him to play a game with me, he'll jump right in, leaving our other friends. <3 But still... a backbone. It's important.

[Sonorous]

That would slightly annoy me but only because I like being around people who think critically. And they can express their disagreement in healthy & constructive ways ofc. Which is what I'd prefer. I'd feel like I could trust their judgment more which wouldn't cause me to have to use as many mental resources at times.

[jeffend888]

That's the sign of a healthy relationship. You will go far in this type of scenario.

Try being with someone who pushes back on everything. NOTHING will ever get accomplished and you will never move up in life ever.

You need to be on the same page in life. If you're not, good luck. You're going to need it.

[Sirenboobzilla]

It's fine when we agree on things. But I'm not a fan of being agreed with just because. I like having my opinions challenged every now and then. That's how we grow. That's how I'm presented with new information and ways to look at things.

[ArrowheadSW]

It certainly would be better than always disagreeing. However it would also feel a bit awkward because I would expect some difference in opinion on occasion. And who is to say that *my* opinion is always the best?

[serious]

Having a common ground and more compatibility percentage is always good. However, that should not be 100% either.

At least once in a while and in some areas the person should speak up and even learn to disagree.

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't like it, but it's not a matter of spine. I have enough of my "doubts and insecurities", so I need someone with a clear opinion. So we can share and together choose something. It makes me feel more secure.

[virtue2332]

My wife has all the qualities that I lack and then some. I'm the one that has no problem disagreeing she has no problem telling me when I'm out of line. I'm an introvert she is a social butterfly.

[LazerBean]

My husband and I agree almost all the time. Needless to say, it makes life agreeable

[menina]

I would find that strange. I mean, it's good to be on the same page, but if it's always then I would think that something was wrong.

[mandyfire98]

I'm not a big fan of just agreeing with everything. I am perfectly fine with respectful disagreements

[Apple1996]

That'd be annoying... I like having debates so it wouldn't work out well if my partner always agreed

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think I rather agree then to be involved with an argument all the time with her.

[Belgie]

It makes me think she's not truthful for fear of disagreement.

[Joshydavid25]

Nah, I love a challenging woman.. Just not too disagreeable.. I like to hear other people's opinions on things..

[Amiapowerlessman]

Id have an issue if there agreeing but feel a different way, there’s nothing wrong with a good debate and sometimes it’s good to see things from different points of view

[WhitneySnow]

I like that but I want them to disagree with me if they really feel like it’s the right thing

[Minahh]

I actually want him to agree with my on most things. Having to constantly argue with someone is pain, but ofc I want him to have his autonomy and not just stand where I put him.

[DextroShade]

I would prefer we agree so long as it's genuine and they aren't just pretending to agree with me to appease me.

[MissBoogus]

Me and him agree on a lot of things and have the same interest but we still have small arguments every single day 😣

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Thats so frustrating, but I generally get along with them more than devils advocate types (they the worst haha)

[AmeerX]

Being agreeble is different from being a total mat to step on. It's worst to be fake.

[Unit1]

I am not sure about that. What if there are really no disagreements and we have a high compatibility level? I wouldn't generate trouble out of thin air like just for the sake of it.

[LiamJHayden]

Always agreeing would bore me.

[Slim57]

It's better than arguing all the time, over the same, stupid thing 😒

[Sparkie460]

Always agreeing with me would annoy me.

[whistlingwh0res]

jackass and bitch can't agree on anything.

[Joshgag2000]

It could get boring

[fuddly]

Hate that