How do I attract the good girls?

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i don't want any bad girls, cheaters, gold diggers, single mothers or toxic girls. I want the good girls. She can be slightly crazy too.

MilaRay · Accepted Answer

Tbh the only advice I can say for sure is to recognize when the girl is a good woman. Good women are EVERYWHERE. The problem I notice is that either good women get 1: taken for granted, 2: taken advantage of, or 3: they hermit or are really hard to open up because they want to avoid 1 and 2. So to recognize a good woman there are a few things. 1, not every good woman will be for you. She may be a good woman but unavailable. I would suggest if you persue a woman who isn’t receptive to amicably leave her alone. The only way to really get a good woman is to date a woman who is RECEPTIVE and RECIPROCATIVE of your love. She will have a few qualities that make her distinguished. For 1, she can take constructive criticism. 2, she already has a desire to improve not just financially or in the career aspect but as a person. She doesn’t gossip, she doesn’t brag about anything she did to hurt anyone (such as past bullying, cheating, or even cutting people off). If she constantly brags about cutting people off run. It’s okay to cut people off because you want the best for yourself but someone who takes so much pride in being a “cutoff queen” lacks self awareness 9 times out of 10. She is patient within reason. She appreciates the people who help her. She wouldn’t show you to your face if she had a tendency to be ungrateful towards YOU so watch to see if she is grateful towards others. If you notice a pattern that she mistreats others believe that you will be next. Also, it doesn’t make her a bad person if she hates her ex because we don’t know what he did, but if she is still hung up on him in any way leave her alone. She isn’t ready for what you are willing to bring and you will only be taken for granted in that situation. She isn’t perfect, but she tries. She wants to fix her problems more than she wants to complain -although you should also be her safe space. So instead of looking to see if she constantly complains, look to see if she actively tries to improve her situations despite venting to you. She doesn’t bash people, and she has moments where she isn’t perfect but that isn’t her consistent behavior. What your looking for is consistency.

musicbrain5 · Accepted Answer

Since you already know what you DON’T want, you can start there by filtering through the women you meet.

Be a good person yourself, too. For example, avoid promiscuity or getting with a new girl every week. Don’t start unhealthy bad habits like smoking, drugs, or eating unhealthy foods, and if you have, quit. Say goodbye to toxic friends and relationships in your life - most good girls don’t like too much drama.

Basically, be the kind of person that you want to date, and you will attract like minded people.

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

I'm in a relationship with a good girl and here is how I managed to find her:

By FILTERING.

Making sure to avoid women who are basically all that you've described. You have to know that a good girl won't go to certain areas like clubs. If you think you'll find a decent girl who is relationship material who is also a party girl, then I got bad news for you mate.

- Avoid women who dress provocatively. A good girl keeps her dignity and doesn't feel like needing to show too much skin. Women who show off skin on a regular are the types who are often promiscuous or at the very least crave attention from others. This can be problematic when you're in a relationship with as your attention/validation won't be enough for her.

- Avoid women with certain ideologies such as (modern) feminism but rather find yourself one with more traditional values. Also stay away from women who got (excessive) tattoos, piercings or dye their hair in exotic colors. These are often women who are impulsive and more often than not are suffering from mental issues and/or unresolved emotional trauma (daddy issues being often one of them). You don't want that type of drama.

- Avoid women who like to show off on social media. You know the overly 'professional' pictures, the ones who post provocative pictures of themselves. The ones with a thousand followers. Yeah, these live life for the gram and will never be satisfied with just your attention as they are getting so much more.

What can I tell you? The good girl is usually hard to find because she doesn't put herself out there much. Not on social media (at least not trying to show off her assets to fish for likes and compliments). She focuses on her studies, hobbies and family. She lives life not trying to stand out to get noticed. Mine happened to come from a slightly more conservative and religious family. So maybe you can try your luck within that domain.

You can also try to find them online only do keep in mind that they are in the vast minority. So finding them is going to be a challenge.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To get a good girl in today’s world you have to be a player first. Probably seems counter-intuitive but hear me out. I’ve been happily married 10 years, and we’re solid.

As men, we want a good girl who is willing to be bad for us (in the bedroom). Women want a bad guy who is good to them. Women will say that’s wrong, my wife would tell you otherwise too - but she’s with me.

First reason you have to be a player is that you have to be better at playing the game than women. It not, the bad ones will play you like a fiddle and you’ll be easily fooled.

A woman will have one night stands and casual flings with guys she meets at clubs or on Tinder, and then when she meets a guy like you she’ll pretend she never did. She’ll sell you on “purity”. She knows that revealing her past will scare you off.

The fucked up thing is that if you fall for it, she feels like she got one over on you, and because of that she can never fully respect you. So even if she wants you at first, over time the relationship is doomed to fail just based on that alone.

Second reason is that whether a girl is good usually depends on the man anyway. The same girl I mentioned above would be bad for you, but she’d be a good girl for another guy - a guy she respects because she can’t fool or manipulate him at all.

Third reason is that for many women, fear of loss is a big motivator. If a girl knows that she can do whatever she wants, treat you like shit, cheat or whatever else, and that you either won’t leave or at least won’t find another woman as attractive as her, she’s more likely to do those things. If she has a feeling that you will leave and that you could find another woman if you wanted to, she’s more likely to be good to you in order to keep you.

This doesn’t and probably shouldn’t be directly communicated by the way. I’m not talking about flirting with other women, purposely making her jealous or openly stating it. Women can tell based on your attitude, how you carry yourself, and how other women react to you.

Guy13 · Answer

Be good yourself both in gentle leadership which incorporates the ability to follow and learn her tendencies. Read Ephesians 5 for both Men/Woman and then Proverbs Wife and see if she is the Wifey you are seeking. Good girls is definitive, functional, or possess the ability to be practicality applied in search

Summeroflove · Answer

As others have said you have to be good yourself. You also have to have clear boundaries and women who like to toe the line and stuff you just need to cut them off as soon as the problems begin.

coachTanthony · Answer

The good girls still want a BAD BOY. Be the bad boy.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

In your mind, what do you consider a bad girl? No criminal record maybe?

Bethany22 · Answer

Is the last picture supposed to be of a good girl?

BlueScorpio · Answer

Well lad you're gonna have to find her and you can only do that by going on a few dates.

Sixgunsound · Answer

You aren’t gonna get a good girl without being good yourself. That is not negotiable. Good girls have a fairly robust and reliable bullshit detector, and if you aren’t both on the same page you’re not getting anywhere. I would say church or temple attendance would probably be a good place to start, because you’re going to see who else has traditional values or at least outwardly exhibits traditional values which would require some further investigation. You might join volunteer organizations to find people who are selfless and giving of their time and energy to others.

BUTIMRIGHTTHO · Answer

You have to be good. UNCONDITIONALLY. Boy what would I do for people to understand that. So you have to figure out what good is. And you're not going to find it in your Bible unless you know the deeper meanings of your bible and traditional religion don't teach the deeper meanings because the deeper meanings don't align with the superficial (surface) meanings.

Start with the quality of courtesy and ask yourself what state of mind produces such?

But start with that quality and make it a habit. Do have average courtesy. HAVE above average courtesy. Super human courtesy. And remember unconditionally! That means no matter what they do or how you feel... You retain that courtesy. PERIOD.

Charlesbrandonf · Answer

My opinion is that be how you want to be and call yourself good or call yourself bad. No one cares.

What others is if you’re solution or a problem. If you’re able to get along with people. They want around them. If you’re a problem to them no one wants to keep you around them.

In general be who you’re and girl that fits your life will find you.

I don’t know what means good girl and I don’t know what means a bad boy. But I do know a lot of people think they know who is good, who is bad. Yet I’ve seen so many so called good people silently doing terrible things, and bad people doing mindful things.

Be who you’re get along, make friends, cherish life. 😎

HorggleThorp · Answer

I am a good girl and I avoid unnecessary drama, so I feel I qualified to answer. What attracts me is good boys who are “nontoxic” as I would say. I want a smart guy who can hold a conversation.

A good girl usually won’t care what you look like. She seeks someone with the same moral values as her.

Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

In my experience the women who always turned out to be bad were the women whose fathers weren’t in their life. Not to say all women are like that but the ones I dated, total wrecks. Now the women who had their father but no mother were way better off. Again not true for every female as I haven’t dated every female in that situation. The one that worked for me had a mother as well as a father in their life, they were both stable. Mother want a looney and dad wasn’t an asshole. Again that’s only one situation. But id start w a girl who has both parents in her life. That’s just my opinion.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Stop massaging multiple girls

Work on yourself

Have a hobby then you might even meet a girl with a common interest as yours

Don't always expect to bag the prettiest girl

Maybe volunteer for a charity that your passionate about you can meet some really lovely people in them kinds of places

Don't act like a player

William7489 · Answer

Divine intervention. But seriously, it’s a crapshoot that you can only improve your odds by having a great job, good income and being attractive and staying in shape. And you will never know if the girl is good or bad until after I put a ring on their finger. There’s no answer to your question I’m afraid. For us guys it’s trial and error

Apple1996 · Answer

There isn't really a way to tell a woman is "bad" before getting to know her. And honestly everyone has something bad about them so to expect a woman to be completely good is kind of ridiculous.

If your doing that then your most likely not searching for real love, your just searching for a relationship based off purely attraction.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Where you find them is probably going to say a lot of what she's like. So if she's introduced to you from a friend's girlfriend and you weren't introduced to her from the fact that she's crawling the club every night and going home with random guys just like she just did with you... you might be onto something.

Anonymous · Answer

What if a single mother's husband died in an unpredictable event, and she still has what you want? I get not wanting to take care of someone else's kids, though I'm just saying because you put her in the same group as cheaters.

Anyway, that last picture looks like a total bitch, so you've gotta think to yourself, could I easily picture this person putting down an ugly person? Because I can easily picture that last one doing so. Avoid that, you can see they have a bitchy look, usually with fake eyelashes.

I guess, for what you want, treat others well but be willing to stand up for yourself or someone who needs it. That way the bad ones will see you're not like them and that you can't be pushed around, then they'll find you less appealing. Then do everything else considered attractive for a male I guess, you can look that up if you don't know.

sheenagwapa · Answer

show to her that beinh a "good" girl is also being human because nowadays it seems that if you've been wild you're more human. make her feel that it's a positive trait. that ahe didn't waste her life for beinh a good girl for many years and that you don't hve to make mistakes to learn something in life. that she didn't have to bed with a lot of frogs to find her prince

flashrex · Answer

It’s not necessarily about attracting but more so weeding out. Whenever you meet someone new, you can’t possibly know what goes on within them mentally at first glance unlike physically. However, getting to know people and having honest conversations is the best way to get to know whether or not someone is really good or not.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

How to attract one is be a good one as well.. Good girls usually have values they hold on to, and if a man's values doesn't align with hers, that can be a deal breaker.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Get good at setting healthy boundaries with women, learn how to talk with women, be polite and gentle, be poised, most importantly; tell her the man you truly are.

Wolfynight · Answer

Some 'good girls' don't want to be found. Whether they worry they won't find a 'good guy' to treat them right, or things like that. If you're a 'good guy' be yourself and they will see that :)

mermaidcancermoon · Answer

You have to have a good eye, know what type of partner suits you, and willingness to be vulnerable. Lacking in one of these areas can make you habitually prone to bad partners

anon1903 · Answer

I as a good girl reject you if you're excluding single mothers. I don't date selfish men.  But good luck though.

es20490446e · Answer

You only need three ingredients: 1. Be that yourself. 2. Go to social places of interest. 3. Fire fast anyone that doesn't fall into that category.

annabananna · Answer

Be a good guy and learn how to respect yourself and set boundaries for what is an appropriate way to treat you. Also, if you have a momma with sense listen to her!

jshm2 · Answer

The first question to ask yourself, is why should she be attracted to something like you?

Tina19 · Answer

You will have to become a good guy first to attract a good girl in your life

Adam1978 · Answer

You need to filter them out yourself, you can't attract the good without also attract the bad.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Do a lot of community service, join groups that like the same hobbies you do. Etc.

PinkRose24 · Answer

Are the women in those pictures good or bad? I don't understand... what was the point of posting those random people's pictures?

MzAsh · Answer

Embody what you’re looking for. If you want good, you must BE good first.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Go where people practice empathy, and talk to those women. Be yourself.

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

By being a good boy yourself be the best you can be. 💞

Anonymous · Answer

Go to church. But don't go to church thinking you'll force her to give up her religion. That's a really awful thing to do. If you are not religious then fine. But let her stay devoted.

RavVid · Answer

We all want that but mostly few of us have figured it out.

alice55 · Answer

If you ré attracted to the last girl it. S not wonder you only find bad girls 🤡

Daniella87 · Answer

I think putting single mothers in the same category as toxic women, cheats, gold diggers and 'bad girls' is very narrow minded.. im not sure that's a trait good girls look for..

Paul09 · Answer

Great question. But you can tell them apart just by looking at them. High maintenance! Fake everything. Stay away from those. Maybe join classes , course , groups with interests you like.

RealMarek · Answer

Read up on personality disorders and how to recognize them. If you see red flags, run.

Chelsdope0 · Answer

By being a good man with morals and principles

art84 · Answer

I think all of the good girls are taken unless you find a girl who knows what she wants and doesn't play games.

SolitarySolace · Answer

It requires a lot of waiting. Years and years of it, and most people can’t pull it off

Subarugirl · Answer

By being the kind of man that good women want...

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

be a dooshbag, good girls always love bad dudes.

LarryTheLunarLunatic · Answer

So when them say the Pro is the good , and the Con is the bad. Then is Prostitution good? and the Constitution bad?

Anonymous · Answer

Post nice pictures on dating profiles, get to know them, talk over the phone, offer to go out for lunch and a walk after to get to know each other better. Prioritize talking and getting to know them, but don’t be too pushy

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Have standards and be proud of them. You will get shit for it and that's ok. That will attract these girls though. It does for me.

BJP21 · Answer

Most of the "good girls" are the church goers.

Anonymous · Answer

You have to meet them in places where good girls frequent. So not at a rager or club. Think coffee shop conferences and library

Zolly99999 · Answer

That is a great question... I definitely want to know also..

Jltakk · Answer

You can be "good" and still attract bad people, so I won't recommend you do that.

EaterPeter · Answer

Keep dating. Lay out your expectations and don't hesitate to dump

Anonymous · Answer

" I want good girls" *proceeds to show a girl with her tits out*

Anonymous · Answer

Be handsome, kind, funny, financially independent, at least be 6 ft.

pewter_moon · Answer

Woman like men with a skill. A talent.

DoctorSex · Answer

Move to east Europe/Asia or Africa.

Anonymous · Answer

You have to wait for them to complete their party years

Steamnir · Answer

Act like men did in the 60s

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Who decides what is 'good' or 'bad'?

TroyDT2 · Answer

Be a good guy.

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