He's stressed because I'm still a virgin?

[Anonymous]

My online boyfriend and I had no contact for 2 months. After those months, we got together again. (we haven't met yet, but he was planning to visit me this weekend)

He said that he's stressed to meet me because I'm still a virgin. He was like, "daaamn!" He also said he was hoping that I dated someone and had sex during those no contact period so I would know what to do when I meet him. Should I still meet him? Does this sound like a normal question?

I know the answer's obvious, but I still want to hear out your opinions guys.

What should I say to him?

[quaranta]

I think this whole conversation is pretty weird because the way you talk about him sounds like he is an almost unknown random guy you consider to date, not an actual boyfriend (and not because you didn't meet yet). I say this because you got together without talking about any of your experiences, any personal thing, and he is even concerned about your sexual performance, as if there are no feelings between you two? It sounds very casual to me, not an actually close bond. Probably he sees that as casual and aimed to get sex rather than a relationship, but has to go through this relationship thing to obtain it.
A normal boyfriend would accept any level of sexual "skills" because that wouldn't be the point of being your boyfriend and you would begin to learn sexuality and improve about that anyway over time, with him, anyway, and he would know that.
Another thing he could be concerned about is that if he is your "first", you'll cling to him expecting a serious relationship, while he is not on the same page and doesn't want the responsibility to be the first one.
So I think you should reflect about what to ask him to understand what he wants with you, what is his vision with you, and see if it matches yours. If he says he wants to keep things casual and live it day by day, it means he is not serious. If he is serious, then ask him why getting early sexual skills from you is so important (and by the way, every guy is different so with any of them you kind of "re-learn" at least part of the practices).

[Adaeva]

A moment after a guy said that to me, I would reply, "We are not compatible. Perhaps you will find what you are seeking but definitely it will not be with me." I would terminate all contact and most certainly I would not allow him to pressure or shame me into doing what I'm not ready for.

The fact is, most guys seeking a long-term relationship (marriage) value virginity. Lack of sexual experience is not a handicap because it doesn't take long to gain experience and besides whatever you do while gaining experience should be fun and enjoyable.

[inhua]

he's one of these dudes that wants to you to degrade yourself first. often these are the same dudes who complain other dudes' preferences for a lower body count even though he hypocritically won't want to marry someone with a high body count himself.

[Berethor]

What a fool, he don't value your virginity, you better leave him and find other guy.

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/no_hymen,_no_diamond

[Summeroflove]

Well. Hopefully he doesn’t want to use you for sex. Save yourself. If he’s not a moral guy. Don’t date him

[Guy13]

Nahhh he’s not stressed. He’s creating a false paradigm to exert enough pressure to get laid…

[TroyDT2]

Likely scenario: You meet, give your virginity to this guy you've never before seen in person, and he ghosts you like he probably has lots of other women. Better idea: make him wait. If he ghosts you anyway, then he does not care about you, buy only about getting laid.

[Anonymous]

That's a weird response from him in my opinion. Most guys would be excited to be with a virgin. I don't think you should meet him. I wouldn't if it were me.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

If he doesn't want you, I'm here!

Seriously, I wish I could find a virgin and I can't believe that there are guys who would wish her virgin girlfriend wasn't virgin. Like, I just can't...

[Anonymous]

There's at least a 90% chance he is nervous thinking he has to deflower you if you have sex.
Which probably he has never had to.

All of that is very normal, though it is, also, normal that you don't easily realize it.

[__MisterGoneShiner__]

I mean, it's totally up to you.
If he gets stressed in "excited way" then he probably will just use you for sex. Careful.

[UdosUNDERDEVELOPMENT]

A sexual life has many problems that you can avoid by not having sex.

[Jamie05rhs]

What does your sexuality or even sex in general have to do with you meeting this guy? Are you planning to have sex with him?

[moonpie89]

Sounds so odd. Such a strange conversation. I can't stand men that say things like that. Such a turn off.

[Anonymous]

Do NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM
He is a dick
Find someone else pls

[Nahid1707]

You did nothing wrong. Have sex when you’re ready as a women in the emotional aspect.

[Anonymous]

If a guy knows what he is doing, a female being a virgin won’t matter.

[Snedger____]

I think he want you for only sex.

[dustybiker]

I would find someone else.. he’s insecure.

[Kryzo]

Don't meet him. Break up.

[Fuentes]

Sounds like y'all both virgins

[TheAfrikan]

What was he expecting a veteran lol