Should I put my job on dating sites?

[Anonymous]

So I make a good amount. And I live a good life. But I don’t want girls to like me because I can support them. I want them to like me for who I am. Then show them that I actually have my life together and then some. So I don’t put any job on my dating profile

[Guy13]

What about descriptors…. like for me: Hobbies and Interests: being anything but electric, walled plumbing, and full replacement heating/air. Big fan of monopoly and have been unable to stop playing since 10…

See-HandyGuy, I would already be in with two Corny animal jokes…one on front end “silent moment” filler and second joke on third 🍸 🫒 🍸🫒🍸🫒.
Be creative and have fun 🤩 “ I have to explain and show you in person…it’s not going to make sense otherwise.”

I have a pocket knife that has screw driver as one of the “blades”… “you see, I told you it was worth seeing in person.” As far as they know, I’m a regular maintenance guy.

[NewYorkCity]

Absolutely NOT!!! Ones you place your job and God forbid you are making a Very healthy salary, you will attract all the unnecessary attention to yourself. And those women will pretend that they ""love"" you. Hell, they even bear your child, but ones your child reaches the age of 5 (manageable age for a women to take care of a kid herself) she will divorce you, take ALL of your money, your kids, your house and almost everything that you have (house, expensive car and most of your savings). And she will have your kid, alimony for the next 18 years and she be screwing a battalion of guys in a house that you bough for yourself in hopes to have a good family which will NOT happen. I'd rather for you to hate me and my comment than get yourself into a life situation from which you won't be able to get your self out of.

[Koefan4eva]

Then I would suggest don’t put your job online. If you work a job that isn’t necessarily hand in hand with making a lot of money (say you’re a cop, but you’ve been one for a while so you make a decent amount) maybe mention it if it comes up, but if it’s a job that’s known to make a lot of money (lawyer) I would either try to refrain from mentioning it the first few dates or straight up lying if you’re comfortable doing so, again until y’all hit it off and get to a point where you feel y’all have a foundation that has notning to do with the amount of money you make

[BlueScorpio]

No, he'll no don't do that. For safety purposes don't put where you work cause anyone can see that and use that information to find/track you and potentially rob you. Plus they could try to get you fired if things go sour. So it's best to reveal that information when your on a one on one date.

[jennifer_bloom]

You can declare you have job you love but not mention your income. I know there was a billionaire in China who lived a normal life - nobody knew whether he was rich or poor and one day he got drunk and told his friends he was a billionaire.

[coachTanthony]

If you talk about your passions, hobbies and purpose in life you won't need to mention your job.

[Luopio27]

There are or used to be pick up artist schools designed for men that want to get the right girl without having any signs of career success. I went there in 2010 and they were pushing shy guys like me to the street to face our fears of rejections.


Never became an alfa male but I was able to turn level 9 girls from just friends to real friends. I also landed few dates woth girls so hot that before they would never consider it. I did alwaus loose but there was progress.


I would advice not to bring out career more than stating the field. If you are all about looks, like me, then a golddigger is just a female counterpart of shallow men. But if looks isn't the issue, just bring out your world of intrest, humor, flirting, caring and so on.


In date sites, women get 1000 times more attention than men.

[bamesjond0069]

Error. Quality women don't date broke bums. So yes a girl will like you for just your looks and stuff but that means that's her low bar. A man who is cute and makes her laugh who is unemployed or works at McDonald's also meets her requirements. Low value. Ideally you want a woman who has a requirement a man achieves some kind of success or stability. These are often higher value women. So your idea of not posting isn't going to help. Honestly you will never truly know for the most part, you are your success. So it is what it is.

[Dana223]

Don't tell your precise salary and workplace but just enough information to let them know that you earn a respectable amount (not that it's above average). Let's face it: women care about whether you are jobless, broke or not. Even though love is most important bla

[anonanonanonomys]

If you are looking for a committed partner I think a vague job title is good. Doesn't need to be what company, position, and title. Accountant rather than lead accountant for Nike, yanno. However you can always wait till the talking phase :) If you are looking for flings or hook ups don't bother.

[Coyote12]

I wouldn't do it. All it takes is just 1 girl to see what you do and she'll capitalize on that and will expect you to pay her way through life. She wouldn't be in love with you but with your money. If you just want a hookup then yea, flaunt it like a peacock.

[Anonymous]

Not even you will attract girls but also not attract too

I mean on the other side you will also make girls not even send you a hi because trust me some women hate it “puke mode” when a guy is showing off
Even at 30 I was getting to know -a guy who was showing off his Rolex watch I don't know wtf happened but I hated it my attraction for him died that day

[NotTacocaT6969]

If you flaunt your job, you will attract gold-diggers snd scare away decent women who will assume you’re a jerk just because you have money.


Keep your financial life secret until you are certain you’ve found the right woman.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

No, you shouldn't. You cannot be sure that a girl will want you for your money or for what you want these days. You're gonna just say that you have a "good job" in the date. Then, you can be more open with her when you trust her.

[menina]

I don't think you should. If you do, you might attract a lot of girls who are after rich guys.

You should only mention it once you get to know a girl and you have reasons to trust her.

[MementoMori777]

You are playing it smart, whoever gives you a chance for who you are is who you should open up too about your job and in general, if your income is all they care about, it will back fire, depends what you are seeking for tho

[Anonymous]

My advice is always the same put up some kick ass pics up and then put as little about yourself as possible. In fact I recommend just leaving your bio blank. Women are notoriously judgmental. When you list things about yourself the only thing you're doing is giving them a list of things to NOT like about you or judge you on. Besides, most women don't even read profiles. If she truly wants to know you, make her expend some effort to.

[Chazmatazz269]

I stopped posting my job for that reason exactly. Plus, the more information you include on a profile makes it easier for the psychos to find you. Dudes need to learn to be more careful about that.

[dustybiker]

I myself would be less interested in your money and more interested in how creative you are. Kind. Thoughtful. Money wouldn’t mean much if two people can’t get along. So I would say no.

[sheikalana]

Nah don't do that. You're not your job and your job doesn't define who you are.

[TacosRAwesome]

Maybe put the industry but not the job. Or if you work for a large company just put the company.

[Anonymous]

um no. that's a safety concern also... if they're interested to see if you have your life together, then they'll message you...

[Jamie05rhs]

Nah. Fuck them hoes. They don't deserve to know that; it's none of their business. The ones who marry for money are the most likely to divorce you.

[TroyDT2]

No. Also never go extravagant on the first few dates. That weeds out the foodie calls.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Never do that. It's not anyone's business what you do for work unless things are getting serious

[Anonymous]

Yes. Add that you do 'Refuse collection' and enjoy the outdoors.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Watch out, at the end you only get gold diggers

[Guardian45]

Sure! Why don't you put your salary, too, while you're at it! Maybe you'll get a few golddigers!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like no from the way you explained it. That way the women you talk to are more likely to be ones who do care about who you are.

[SpringValley]

You answered your own question.

[sheenagwapa]

i think that's a great idea

[larry69]

No because it can come back and bite you

[Nominal]

Narcissist will be attracted to u.

[Fuentes]

No lol

[In_Trance]

What for?

[Anonymous]

Bad idea.