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So I am lost and just want to talk about this crazy situation. I met this guy online 1.5 weeks ago. We matched and started talking. We clicked instantly and seem to be matching on every level. I do not expect anyone to understsnd this as I would have not if I were not in this situation. We live 5700 miles away. We already say that we like each other. We talked about visiting each other (first he comes to me) to see if actually this could lead to somewhere. He is actually going through a divorce (his 2nd one). He never lied about this to me and was very clear that the divorce will be pronounced in 3 months. So today he just informed me that he was feeling uncomfortable, or rather a feeling he could not explain about talking to me while still being married. That he had the impression that to make things right and before things go deeper with me, he needed to be done with the divorce first. So he decided that it would be better to stop talking till the divorce is pronounced. Telling me that I am the first girl he feels about this way since he separated and do not want to risk destroying our chances. That he feels bad not being able to talk about liking a new girl to anyone as all would be judging him and would not understand. He said that he could not ask me to wait for him but that he feels that it should be done this way. And he admitted having bought the tickets to my place (with possibilty of canceling same 3 months prior to the departure date). That he will contact me in 3 months and that if I wanted, he would be cancelling the flight. He also told me that de deleted the app because he does not want to meet someone else. The thing is I never felt like this about anyone. I just feel lost. I just want to know your thoughts about this. Thank you.

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