I need your help?

[alefmars]

Hello and happy new year
Sorry guys this is a long one
So , after one year I moved to Spain to be with my boyfriend, and it has been almost 4 months now here with only him , so days ago we had a brunch with his gay best friend (joe), and later my boyfriend told me that next Sunday he'll meet joe alone , in order to buy me the Christmas gift, and I can't be with them to not see the gift, so I told him yeah of course, and if you want after you finish we can meet the three of us for a coffee he told no because you'll see the shopping bags, and you'll know the gift ( in my mind i said why can't he wrap the gift and put it in another bag) so I said to him okay, later on the way home after a long day , he turns to me and ask me , is it okay that I go out again with Joe , while i stay at home , doing nothing no work no friends and on top of all everyone is speaking Spanish.
And when I asked him to give me a reason, for him to be alone with Joe , I'm still waiting for one !
How would you handle the situation?

[kyleelyn199723]

Well I’m going to put this into perspective that if my boyfriend was doing this with another girl, we would be having a serious talk. Why? Because I think any friend that a s/o has should be willing to meet you/ your partner should be bringing them around you. I will give you the ultimatum and also say, that this friend Joe may not exist in the end, and he may be doing something behind your back. Whether it is good, or bad (who knows) I think your boyfriend is being sneaky about something

[alefmars]

We are gay couple

[kyleelyn199723]

I know you are, I am just putting into perspective of how things would go if my boyfriend did this to me.

[alefmars]

Ah sorry I misunderstood, but I see now , and I asked him , how would you feel , when you are out having fun and knowing that I'm at home doing nothing, he said it's normal, we have to have our freedom, but not in sex

[kyleelyn199723]

@alemars yes you do have to have your freedom, that’s important but it still seems like he is hiding something in my personal opinion. I think excluding you two days in a role is making it exceptional for you to feel worried and have doubts

[alefmars]

That's totally what I'm thinking, because for the Christmas gift , okay i understand but for something else, and not like his friend need him for a private talk , i don't see why he must be with him alone

[kyleelyn199723]

@alemars exactly. And even for the Christmas gift. Why does a Christmas gift need to be a hidden thing? I think you need to have a talk, maybe not be so quick to assume that what he is doing is necessarily bad, but you definitely need to let him know that it’s concerning that you have been excluded for 2 days straight even though freedom is definitely important, freedom doesn’t go beyond sneaking around two days in a row

[alefmars]

Could we take this to private?

[bean2k21]

I wouldn't worry
Joe is probably just a friend
And even if it's something else
So what, other guys have attractive
qualities about them the same as you do

[alefmars]

Is it the same opinion, as we are a gay couple?

[Anonymous]

Tell him it’s a no go

[alefmars]

He didn't like it

[ладуна]

Tell him to stay with you

[alefmars]

He doesn't want me to join him

[Sketti2021]

Move on

[alefmars]

What do you mean