Have you ever been rejected but thought for sure they were into you?

[coachTanthony]

[Puppystarfish23]

Yesssss, I had on and off thing a co worker of mine some years ago. He kept giving me strong signals like buying me my favourite sweets to share with him at work, always helping me, inviting me out with him, touching me etc.

All his friends said as soon as we met but he liked me and it was so obvious. As soon as I walked in the building he wouldn't stop stairing at me and smiling and asking me a load of questions about myself.

We were pretty much two peas in a pod. We both knew each other inside and out without saying a word to eachother. We did everything together.

He ended up breaking my heart and constantly pushing me away everytime I got to close because he cared to much about looking cool in front of his friends.

I admitted to liking him back and he got his friends to tell me he didn't like me back. I cried my eyes out in the toilets I felt such a idoit.

He let me down massively on a number of occasions too yet I was still so stupid and blinded by love.

He told me he was only nice to me because we work together and I argued back but he doesn't go to nearly as effort with his other co workers.

Eventually I was done with him but are friends kept asking me to give him another chance when the impression I got was that he didn't want one.

Then he kinda cowardly amitted but he was scared of commitment but I still don't understand why he did the stuff he did

[coachTanthony]

Probably will never know. People do strange things when they are not honest.

[Puppystarfish23]

I don't care for him anymore anyway. Closure would be nice as he was my first love but I won't die wondering. I have a amazing boyfriend now and I wouldn't change him for the world

[Bpet22]

Same thing is happening to me right now, except that he hasn't rejected me yet, cause I've been keeping my mouth shut. And I will probably continue doing so. Everyone around us knows that there is something going on between us... but he keeps giving me mixed signals, keeps playing dumb... anyway.. maybe he is a narcissist.

[kylee2437]

No because I can read someone’s body language and actions and know for a fact whether or not they are interested

[coachTanthony]

I am talking about someone giving you the wrong body language but still rejected you. So it just hasn't happend to you is what you are saying?

[kylee2437]

@coachTanthony you can’t fake interest lol

[coachTanthony]

It happens more than you think. Interest is there and you might say something dumb or offensive and they turn on a dime. But I digress.

[kylee2437]

I think it happens to men more because scientifically , they have a harder time reading body languages and social cues, but even if someone try’s to fake their interest, there’s signs that specifically will tell on them

[coachTanthony]

Yeah true I hear ya. I am more talking about the interest is not being faked it's just something you said or did that they didn't like and bam you're rejected. Again I digress... appreciate the comments.

[kylee2437]

Gotcha lol hasn’t happened to me but I’ve definitely done that to one guy only because he didn’t keep a promise

[Chazmatazz269]

Never. Kind of the opposite is more common in my experience. I’ve been told by a third party that someone was into me when i didn’t pick up any cues. I’ve had two women ask why i never asked them out, and one ask me who she has to f*ck to get me to f*ck her. Ha! Best, and i’m still certainly the only, pickup line a woman has ever used on me. We chatted for a bit because i can’t ignore that level of clever, but it just wasn’t in the cards.

[Guy13]

No and if this is happening to a guy then get a grip on your emotions or tongue because one of them is keeping you from assessing the dynamic correctly.

And this question’ focal point is why I don’t text or simply audio during meetings. The truth lies in the nonverbal, unknown emotional body expressions, and energies emanating from her.

[Lulu897]

Yes it hurt but best thing I did was focus on myself working on myself, started working out , eating better , set myself daily tasks such as complete my skincare routine do 10k steps put castor oil on hair make sure my rooms clean the house is clean make sure I’ve drank enough water. Instead of beating myself up and questioning my self worth and lowering my self esteem I tried investing time into myself and improving myself and mental health and physical health. In life you can’t change what happens to you and what happens around you, you can only control how you react. I’m in my healing era there are ups and downs it’s not a straight line it doesn’t have to be it’s a part of healing and getting better

[Malgaran]

Sort of per se. I was 100% sure this one girl was into me, and she was.. but she didn't realize it herself. So when I made the first move, it kinda shocked her. Guess in hindsight she thought perhaps she didn't have any chance with me for some reason. She wasn't ready to confront her own feelings really.

[FilmGuy93]

That's happened to me several times, yeah. It got to the point where my own mother told me that she needed to see some receipts before she believed that I wasn't totally screwing my reads on the situations up. I got called out on weak game by my mom! lmao

But, sure enough, I had the proof. I was able to explain exactly why I thought what I did, and she just laughed and said "wow, [my name], you have had the single worst experience dating I've ever even heard of."

[Anonymous]

Yes. This is why I don't ask women out anymore. Because clearly I can't tell when women are just baiting me.

[coachTanthony]

Shouldn't stop you from moving forward though.

[Opinion Owner]

No of course not. I'm just a very straight forward person. I don't like that I'm interested, not interested stuff. I have had women do that then turn me down then try to flirt with me again and I think I catch them off guard when I tell them f*** off. 🤣
Some women do that to every guy, some women just like flirting. I don't care for either. 🤣 I think I'm just naturally someone who should be single. I'm a real practical person. And most women just aren't practical.

[coachTanthony]

The games are terrible. Reminds me of the scene in Wedding Crashers.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WuJzVdIukKI

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I mean it's a funny movie. But kind of shows some guys can be equally as bad.

[coachTanthony]

Games are played by both women and men. That's life unfortunately.

[Opinion Owner]

Yep.

[Guardian45]

Sure! Haven't you? Welcome to My World! Hard as I try, I still don't get women & vice versa

[coachTanthony]

Yeah for sure.

[Tracker1958]

I have never been dumped, but I have only dated two women, first at 16 years old. The second when I was 18 and married that one. Going on 45 years with that one.

[BJP21]

Thats called false hope and it can bite you in the ass when you least expect it.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I’ve had girls reject me because of peer pressure but when we were alone she was all over me

[mobiusforniner]

Yes, because when one or both of you are already married, there really isn't any other outcome.

[NathanDavis]

I never been rejected

[coachTanthony]

With a name like Nathan Davis I would expect not sir. That's right up there with Tony Stark

[NathanDavis]

I just don't ask them... lol

if you ask for a chance, there's the possibility of "rejection" for whatever reason

when I earn... their interest, they're the ones willing to give me a further try

just a different approach to these things...

also... didn't Spiderman reject the Avengers or something like that? lol

[pewter_moon]

I can never understand how this happens. Unless people are not talking to each other.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, but I've had women flirt after acting like they hated me, and thats just as confusing.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yep. Led on for a good minute only to get rejected because she just wanted attention

[MCheetah]

Nah. That's never happened to me before.

[Teriyaki70]

Yes... once...

[msc545]

Yes. Very unpleasant.

[melanieeeB]

Nope

[AsaKyo]

Yeah

[Date_a_Snob]

Several times

[socair]

No I have not

[jayhams]

Nope

[Anonymous]

rejected yes