I and my now boyfriend have been talking to each other for 7 months online. We liked each other right away. It took two months for me to finally say anything of course he felt the same way and our relationship slowly progressed. Last month I told him I loved him and he loved me as well, way before I told him but he didn't want to scare me off. My friend thinks its too soon to tell him I love him and that I could be "Love bombing him" She is also obsessed with trying to find red flags about him and telling me to watch out for them (Which I am doing that) She has never been in any serious relationship or in love with anyone. She has had a LOT of horrible relationships and I'm thinking maybe she is projecting that onto me and others around her. We have been friends for 22 years... but I cannot stand that she can't just be happy for me. I told her I'm going to be with him December 30-31 taking his son and my daughter out doing different fun activities with them (which she supports). I'm in my 30s he's in his 40s... so it's not like we're young and stupid. We have both gotten out of horrible marriages and are taking things slow. Just letting things grow organically. In the end, I don't want to hurt my friend... but I'm not going to let her try and mess up a relationship with a guy who actually respects me and loves me. All I knew before him was abuse.
How to deal with a toxic friend?
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It really doesn't sound healthy at all... she's too cynical and is unable to change or lacks the effort to at least improve on herself, wellbeing confidence self belief and healing as she's too lazy or lacks drive thus she projects into you so that she doesn't feel alone
I'd tell her you don't appreciate the negativity and would like her to halt on the pessimistic comments if she truly values you as a close friend
I 100% agree. She is even cynical when talking to guys she meets on Tinder. There is never any real connection with them because never opens herself up. All she does is talk about toxic stuff going on in her life. Then complains when they ghost her. I think she is angry that my boyfriend and I met by chance on Twitter and the fact he actually has stability in his life and is respectful.
I also did a background check on him just to be safe. My ex-husband was very abusive.
Yeah, honestly she's really shooting herself in the foot because love should be dramaless, free and fun. Not serious to the point where negative topics are constantly being brought up.
Sorry about the past abuse, I've been there...
We all deserve a toxic free relationship
I don’t deal with toxic people
Big difference when I've known her for 22 years. If it was a new friend they would have already been gone.