Why are men viewed as losers if they can’t find a partner?

[Hull6644]

If men can’t obtain love and sex they are perceived as worthless losers even if they take care of their appearance, are educated, have a job, hobbies, goals in life, can hold a conversation, and have money.

why is a man’s worth based on how successful he is with women?

[inhua]

the gynocentric social order of western society has deemed it necessary for men to seek validation from women even if they don't want to actively seek it out. you could make a perfectly reasonable argument in a debate in regards to gender dynamics and the first thing your opponents would do is look at your relationship status to try and deny your right to free speech.

after all, for millions of years men have done everything in their power to make the world a more comfortable and safe place for women despite what the woke revisionist historians say. it's pretty much expected for men to serve women who in turn serve the small percentage of attractive men as its historically been and since most men today are the historical equivalent of peasants, slaves, merchants and soldiers, not emperors, kings or warlords, there's an expectation for the majority of average and below average men that they must prove themselves in order to "fit" into society. being with a woman is part of the test.

if you're wondering about your job, hobbies, ambitions etc. in evolution terms, those material and psychological things are meaningless because whether his genes are passed down or not as a man has been the biological determinant of him being seen as a winner or a loser.

[MementoMori777]

People can view you how they please but it doesn't change reality, a loser makes themselves a loser so everyone has the power to be a winner if they put up the efforts to do so, not finding love doesn't make you a loser, thinking you are a loser eventually makes you one because you don't put the effort to be anything besides that, if you want to be a winner then multitask and don't just look for love, find a career and or hobby you want to chase and chase it, if it wasn't your destiny to find a girl then it's probably the girls destiny to find you, love has no boundaries and love will find you where it wants when it want too.

[CrazyGirl2]

I have absolutely NO idea? I certainly don’t think that! Who thinks that? By that measure I’m a loser, because I don’t have a boyfriend! That’s a horrible thing to say to anyone!!!

[Anonymous]

Because men like that are usually losers. They are failing at life.

[BeMuse]

I guess people consider you a loser, because you're over concerned with what people think of you and as a result you can't manage to run your own life without caring. You're too busy looking for a pat on the head and a that a boy rather than just being a man.

[KrakenAttackin]

This may have been one true but it's not anymore. Many men are tired of being solely identified by their careers, which is what draws women, only to be caught in a job they hate and a loveless, brutal marriage/divorce.

Just do your own thing and ENJOY life. Women are serious cash/life sucks, that will derail your hobbies and ambitions with merciless precision.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because most men only care about his girlfriend/wife's opinion. Everyone else's opinion of him doesn't matter, so men who don't value themselves inherently, tend to relate self worth to being valued/loved by a woman.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Then they take that perception, and project it onto other men that do have inherent self worth.

[jayhams]

That is only what losers think.

[LaineyLuiza]

because they are