Is it unfair to meet someone else to forget someone?

Question

I don't mean any bad intentions. But is it still unfair for the person you meet?

Charlesbrandonf · Accepted Answer

It is unfair if you suffer.

Now you’ve to forget someone can you stop your respirations system for few minutes, can you stop eating for a week? Can you stop your sight? Can you stop your thoughts? No you have very little control over that things.

Why stopping living life? this is your life your wish and yes it’s fair, everything is fair is life. Betrayal is also good, abandoning is also good. The reality of life is amazing, once we master these things. The more we dependent on or rely on things, we are giving them power to crush us.

If only we are prepared for the reality. We will be okay to handle most situations on our own and more importantly we will be happy from within. This life is to cherish moments. Please kindly focus on creating moments. Time is precious.

I’ve no seen a dog crying over a breakup for too long. Even a dumbest animals on the planet don’t cry like humans do.

Be strong my love.

I bless none of your dreams comes true.

I bless unimaginable amazing things cross your life.

Surely · Accepted Answer

I have dated two women that their husbands up and left them for another woman. Never learned the husbands reasons for leaving.
At first I couldn’t be around those women enough. They would call me and wonder if I was stopping by almost every day. Then when they figured out that they could still attract other men and nothing more needed done around their houses to get them ready to sell.
I got the I have been married for x number of years and now I want to be independent! Take a hike story.
So any more “possible rebounds “ will be handled from a distance without getting too involved.
On the flip side. I once told a woman that I was hung up on someone at first meeting and to be careful. She did anyway and got upset. Her excuse was that I was the only guy that had ever told her the truth!

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Your question is a bit too vague, and I need more background. Dating someone new when you're not over your former partner is unfair to the person you're going out with. In the end, you're just using them as a rebound to put a band aid over your wound as a temporary fix. Are you ready to date someone new? If not, then don't. You can always move on from your ex by prioritizing yourself, socializing with friends and family, and just going out and having fun. It is never the best time to live your life than after a breakup... and I'm not even kidding.

You could go out with them to see how things turn out, but 6/10 times the relationship won't last long. You need to be upfront with the person you're planning to go out with. You cannot still have feelings for someone while dating someone new. It's going to meddle with your new relationship.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

Yes if you're not over your ex/last relationship. People do that as a rebound or to get back at their ex in some way, but it's basically using someone to avoid the pain of recent/last breakup. People think relationship hoping will heal them when in fact it causes more pain cause your heart is still in a different place. People need to learn to be alone abd heal instead of constantly being codependent of others/relationships.

AmandaYVR · Answer

It might not be the absolute best way to get over someone, but do you really owe the first person anything anymore? I think not.

Chelsdope0 · Answer

No and yes. Express to them that you are trying to get over someone. Take it slow with the next person and start off as friends.

Dating someone else is apart of moving on. Just have fun with the person as a friend..

Just don’t lead him on. Always be honest. Guys have feelings too

tonamimargaux · Answer

Yeah, it's kind of a bummer right there when I was getting over my one-sided affection & I met this other amazing guy who quickly distracted me from my situation and picked my interest we are talking but he also disappears and is currently missing for 17 hours almost. What am I gonna do about it I don't know but I think I'm almost falling for this one? But I think it's okay to talk to someone who will help you snap out of your miseries you know. Just don't get hurt in the process.

LittleMelissa9614 · Answer

Thats called a rebound, so yes. It takes time to move on from a bad relationship and meet someone new. You need time to heal first.

NathanDavis · Answer

never tried it myself...

fortunately, I've never been in this situation before... not in which I had to move on from someone so forcedly

all my relationships had a mutual closure and conclusion, so far anyway...

rachel776 · Answer

that's the best way to do it and you never know what will happen

loveslongnails · Answer

It's unfair to get deeply, or even superficially involved with someone if you're still mentally and emotionally unavailable due to grief or a breakup. If you're just hooking up for sex, and they know that, then it's just consenting adults.

Lovelydove13 · Answer

Well most of the do this... but what you do should not hurt the other person... if you think they are gettin serious about you don't give false hope if u are not gonna love him

aaron210419 · Answer

Not unfair but toxic, you must deal with your issues before putting them on another person. It's not fair to the potential partner or yourself if you do not take time to heal.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It is, you are giving them false hope, never use someone as a rebound, just wait for the right match.

dustybiker · Answer

The best way to answer that is would you want someone to do it to you?

Passing_by · Answer

I don't think it is wrong as long as you're putting your intentions clearly.

slatyb · Answer

It's only "unfair" if you aren't genuinely interested in a relationship with the person.

Anonymous · Answer

Kind of. But is it really any worse than casual dating to one that isn't? And that happens all the time. Rule of thumb treat others the way you'd want to be treated. If you don't like it done to you don't do it to others.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

That's a pretty weapons grade shitty thing to do

Mangospacho · Answer

I did it one time. I don’t think it’s unfair if it works. If you can still remember their name, though, then it’s unfair.

Crankor · Answer

Not really... if you don't want to think about a person that's a way to do it. But the reasons why kinda makes a difference

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Unfair how? Is there a relationship referee who will give you a yellow card?

Anonymous · Answer

yes. how would you feel if someone did that to you?

KatieSims24 · Answer

Need more information about what is unfair ti meet someone else.

AmeerX · Answer

Actually I have been used like a cry pillow once. Not going to be that again I hope

sxeven · Answer

Yea it is. You should never use anyone else. It all takes time and when you finally feel okay you can start dating. Thats just what I go by

SnowedIn · Answer

Just be open about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Not if you’re open about it

Anonymous · Answer

Not as long as your single.

darkoflights · Answer

absolutely yes

Alex8736 · Answer

very

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Not at all..

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