What do men think when a woman cries in front of them?

[Chikky]

[AmyHew1tt]

I've cried in front of guy friends a few times, and it's always mortifying, even though they were generally pretty nice and wanted me to feel better. I don't know what they thought about it, but I try my best to never show that side of me around men.

[Levin]

Don't be mortified. It's adorable.

[Anonymous]

Most men don't care.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Dont care anymore!!

[OlderAndWiser]

I become very empathetic and protective when I see a woman crying. What is worse is a woman who, for some false sense of "pride," refuses to let a partner see them cry.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[front2back]

"Ah yes, time to unwind."

[ManOnFire]

I would think it had to be because of something super serious. Contrary to popular belief, most women actually try not to get that emotional in front of people, unless they're having tears of joy about something. But for the most part most women are like men in that they don't want people to know about their deep pains or things going on in their personal lives, and don't want to be seen crying in front of others. So when it happens, I usually think it has to be because of something pretty serious.

[AmeerX]

If I know the women and I have never seen her cry then I know it is something serious.
Otherwise many drama Queens also exist

[ManOnFire]

@AmeerX That too, yeah. But you usually know a drama queen because they'll make a show of putting on tears in front of people to get their support. Most women try to be private about it, it's just that you might've come in the room at that moment and saw her when she thought she could be alone.

[AmeerX]

Oh those moments I have not seen since kindergarten 😞. Reminded me of this girl everyone used to pick on. I wonder how she is doing now. I hope her life is alright. We used to sit together back then. Umm, may be she is reading this.
Hey Maryem if you are reading this happy New Year and I hope you're alright )). Regards Ameer.

[Guy13]

“NOOOoooo, anything else but that” 🧠 mostly because I feel like a failure when she has been reduced to raw emotional release.
This means somewhere along the way something so deep and bothersome could not be shared. And, it makes me want to cry and mad, Wtf, I’m not one of these effeminate boys of today.
And OMG 😳 before I know what has hit me, I’ll be standing in front of a red, hot pink, purple, or beach lime/orange Miata.
Whether happy or sad a woman’s tears always elicits a sense of uneasiness in men… I recognize circumstances are everything.

[Summeroflove]

Usually I feel empathy and sympathy. This depends on the situation. Sometimes it’s good to be someone who someone can feel safe and venerable around

[D_Bone_Steak]

Uncomfortable. I have no idea how to deal with that shit. When I was young crying only would get you slapped, hit with something, or mocked and ridiculed. Now that I'm older I just don't know what it's supposed to achieve. Is it manipulation? I don't know and I don't care... I just leave and she needs to fix herself before I'm going to come around.

I guess I sort of view it as a mental breakdown. You can logically reason with anyone that is currently having a mental breakdown. That's just my thoughts on it.

[LovingLoverReturned]

You poor traumatized soul.

Crying said to actually help prevent a mental breakdown or reduce stress because you calm down a bit once it is done and at keast while crying your aren't fovused on doing anything else that might be stupid. Provably Lost the strength or too blind to attack (if it's such a situation)

[D_Bone_Steak]

@LovingLoverReturned Love the "You poor traumatized soul" part... fits nicely. Was that mockery for just admitting I've cried before?

I'd beg to differ... I've observed people crying to some of the most volatile shit I've ever seen. Maybe it's different if they're being left alone... but if you don't have a set of tits, you're probably getting mocked if you cry... especially while you cry.

I would say prove me wrong, but you've kind of exposed the truth of the matter already.

[Juxtapose]

I was not hit as a kid but at the same time my tears were not met with any sympathy either. To me, crying is something you do either by yourself or in front of people you truly trust as a form of emotional release. It is not manipulative anymore than a obvious plea for attention is.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Juxtapose I agree with this. One memory I have that really stuck with me was how my friends were more consoling than any family ever was. It happened after me and some friends tried to make friends with some new kid, and for some reason, he decided he wants to fight someone and picked the fight with me, and I won the fight and beat him up pretty bad. BUT, after my friends and I left I did end up breaking down... I just wanted to kid to be a friend. My friends were like, "what's wrong bro, you beat his fucking ass." I had nothing to gain... it was literally an emotional breakdown. It wasn't one of those beatdowns you hand out and then want to thump your chest in pride about. Just a weird memory about crying I figured I would share about the topic.

My friends obviously didn't know what to do either... I don't think there was shit they could do. It was just me bursting out in frustration in a non-angry way. I just wanted to be that kid's friend. Like WTF was up with having to start a fight just because he feel like getting into a fight? I still don't even know what I'd tell my younger self about it. TBH, I'd probably ask what's wrong, and point out you beat his ass as well.

[LovingLoverReturned]

I was right you are traumatized. I don't mock you. I empathize because you were hit for that

[D_Bone_Steak]

@LovingLoverReturned At the very least I hope I've fully displayed why I or people like me, are just confused and uncomfortable with someone that is crying.

[joenelson]

I have seen two types of girls

One who cries over anything and everything even when there's no reason.

Second, whom I have never seen crying but cries only when they are really hurt.

I usually try and help the second ones.

If it's a stranger female crying in front of me. I don't try to help by myself. I either take a help from a female friend I would be with or any other female that would be passing by.

[Chazmatazz269]

She’s trying to manipulate me.
I’ve been around women too much for too long to continue to believe they can’t control their emotions. If she’s letting loose, it’s a show in order to trigger and manipulate my intrinsic conditioning to protect and support.

[WilliamPamer446]

I'm autistic and im really empathic to girls and I love them and I have a primary interest in black girls can you give me advice on how to detect manipulation I dont wanna be mean I wanna be good guy but I also wanna be tough on real manipulation to stand up for myself

[WilliamPamer446]

can you give me any advice please

[Summeroflove]

@LovingLoverReturned yeah I know everyone cries especially going through a lot. Are there some women who act like this? A million percent. Many times it's easy to spot

[Chazmatazz269]

Advice on detecting deception? It’s helpful to know someone and be familiar with their personal characteristics and behaviors. The downside is that most people don’t want to admit that someone we know and potentially care about would deliberately lie to us. Aside from that, study body language and interpretation. Most people are not skillful liars. A little bit of research goes a long way, but a lot of research is better. Many behaviors and mannerisms can have multiple influences. Pathological liars and people with other disorders may be more difficult to detect though. It’s a soft science, for sure.
The best defense against people who would take advantage of you is having good friends and relatives who care about you enough to protect you, and trusting them when they warn you about someone in particular. If you really like someone, you’ll likely view them through “rose colored glasses”, and a more impartial perspective should be helpful if you can accept it.

[molonski2]

Id like to ask the question in reverse because that's the more important question I believe , but we are still stuck in this ludicrous " ideal " that a female can express emotion , and a male cannot , or he can only respond with violence.

This utter nonsense needs to change , and men must be freely encouraged to express emotion. The woman would then have to ask herself , How does she feel?

[AMS700CX4u2]

If a total stranger presents herself with tears I am suspicious. It is natural for men to protect and console. If the wails and boo hoo is dry, you are being played. A tearful breakdown is not a controlled occurrence. Your shirt should be wet and I do mean wet. Think tears, think runny nose and think saliva. Those are the signs of an honest decompensation. If they are not there, you are being played.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Waw. So you think everybody is the same.

[Chrissydamusicgirl]

What happened to men? Only okay comment is from the granddad age man that answered. All the rest are acting like children claiming it’s manipulation when we just have different hormonal reactions to things and aren’t taught to repress our emotions as much.

[rupam_das]

It is not a hormonal variation, but a social stigma.
In fact men hide their emotions, because social stigma forbids them. So they expect the same from women. So most men hate it. But our primary response to crying needs to be compassionate because crying comes out of real emotion.

[grega239]

Maybe they think its manipulation because they were manipulated?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Depends on how well you know the person.
Men feel responsible and try to help women but you can't do that now in today's world because of feminism or it might be just a trap for the guy.

Then you help her and she fully depends on you and might turn on you when better opportunities arrive.

Lots of things are there in life you know it's just not the same as it was once earlier

[grierwrange]

Wdym it’s not the same as it once was?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

There is no balance now and you can't blindly trust people that's the difference now.

Some genuinety and gratitude is missing from the ladies end

Now they think any act of kindness is to take advantage of them or the trust level in people to people has sunken quite low for various reasons

[Blackmoonsns]

She's having a very deep emotional experience right now and she needs to be held she doesn't want her problems to be fixed she just wants a man to listen and understand and be there for her emotionally and physically

[Anonymous]

It's a setup! 9 times out of 10 when a woman cries it's crocodile tears meant to elicit a response from the guy. Pure manipulation plain and simple. When a woman cries it typically just makes me annoyed because she thinks I'm going to fall for that.

[DesiUwU]

a lot of times, they don't know what to do. i have full on breakdowns in class so i don't blame them, it's just my mental illness

[grierwrange]

Do the guys ever console you in class?

[grierwrange]

When you cry

[DesiUwU]

@grierwrange depends on the guy and if i know them or not, i try to hide it the best i can tho

[Anemone978]

I honestly think they don't care to be honest if we go off of my ex and the guy I liked they both couldn't give a fuck LOL

[andreasderjuengere]

We try to correctly estimate the amount of milli-liters produced, and make an estimate of the duration of this emotional condition. We also think if it's appropriate to get one other beer now.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Personally I feel scared. But that's because I've got it associated with dangerous behavior. Before that, I don't know i think I just felt upset?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Context matters at least for me. Something serious i. e. a illness, death then I understand.

Crying over petty ish then I'm thinking she should shut the hell up.

[Anonymous]

No problem..

[Juxtapose]

It really depends on the circumstance and context but usually it is a emotional release and the person crying should be treated well.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I get away from there. My sense is that, she needs her own space for the time being.

That is just my real life pretext. The real thing is, I don't care.