Ladies, How do you get guys to take you seriously?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so I can get guys to sleep with me, that is easy enough but I don't want to do that. But whenever I text a guy not one ever offers to take me on a date so we could actually meet. So then I just end up stop speaking to all these people... I don't get it and I am lonely xD

[Guy13]

What do you have to offer. It says you are 34. I know plenty of 40-50 year old guys who would enjoy dating a 34 year old woman. And treat her remarkably well. I don't get it?

[Asker]

I dont want a 40-50 year old I want someone same age as me...

[Guy13]

I have to tell you that I glanced at your page. The "attitude" of a 34 year old that looks like has anime on it is not likely to attract a 35 year old. And if he wants kids there is no way. You might want to camp out at some of the single Dad counseling post divorce meet-up groups. 35 year old single Dad will grab you up.,,

[Asker]

What the fucks your problem? Attitude much? its not like I wanna date you damn xD

[Bananas83]

@guy13 that was a little harsh. Everyone has a preference, if she doesn't wanna date older then let it be. It's not worth goin at her and ripping her to shreds. Wow

[Ms_Facesitter]

Because you don't take it seriously. Texting isn't enough. If you like a guy you should either tell him out right or ask him out on a date yourself. If you don't want to be alone, you try everything.

[melanieeeB]

I personally believe that you can't make anyone to respect you, either he does or he doesn't and if he doesn't I don't waste my time with him. That's pretty much it

[Summeroflove]

Don’t get guys to sleep with you. Find men who want a relationship. If you let guys sleep with you. Well there’s your problem

[Asker]

I don't let guys sleep with me... that is the issue... that is all the people that I talk to seem to want. I think I have to stop trying online dating and try to find someone the old fashioned way.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah well this is good. Yeah I don’t do online dating. I’m sure there is good people there but I don’t know who I’m even talking to.

I would just find people in real life who you are interested in

[Summeroflove]

I wish you the best. Always have high morals and boundaries

[HighValue]

I'd suggest going for guys that either don't want kids or that already have some. For single, relationship oriented guys that don't have kids but do want a partner to have some with, your age will be the biggest obstacle.

[Asker]

my aunty didn't get married til she was 38 and had her first kid at 40 why is everyone acting like you can't have kids later on? Im not fucking 60

[HighValue]

You can still have kids, BUT you are MUCH less likely to have them and they are MUCH more likely to have learning disabilities. Biology and statistics prove that is the case no matter how much people wish it wasn't true and want to deny it.

[Anonymous]

I have to ask you what do you bring to the “table” as they say in a relationship? Do you have children? Married before? High body count?

[Asker]

Im working towards a job, im in college
I have children they don't live with me
Married once
One guy
I know how to cook and clean, raise children

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean working toward a job? Like once you finish college you’ll have a job? How old are the kids? You willing to have more kids?

[Asker]

Yeah after college I will have a job
8 and 6
Yeah I want more kids

[Opinion Owner]

For me there’s a lot of questions, like a lot. Ones that throw up red flags. Like why no job all this time? What happened to the children’s father? Why the divorce?

[Asker]

Well makes sense but this is a lot of questions.. for no advice xD

[Opinion Owner]

Well honestly it’s not that easy. I’m not saying it’s impossible to meet someone, it’s make it much harder to meet someone. I’d suggest maybe finding a man who possibly doesn’t want more kids, or marriage. I say it’s not easy because you’re wanting a man to come into a lot of things. Will the children stay w you? If so will he be able to discipline them? Why aren’t they living w you? He’s going to have to provide for them.

[Asker]

Well Im not saying the person can't have their own kids I don't mind that..
But I was a stay at home wife,,, I had a job met my ex online after 2 years I quit moved to UK to get married. The kids live in UK so only visit. He won't have to provide i'll provide for my own kids

[Opinion Owner]

You look gorgeous that’s for sure, so I do believe what you said about finding men who are willing to sleep w you isn’t all that hard. Again as I mentioned maybe find someone who already has kids, or doesn’t want kids, possibly doesn’t want marriage. There has to be something there that you can bring to him that no other woman can. Honestly most men don’t care about a woman’s career. I met my girl, similar to your situation. She had been on a relationship, marriage for a long time. Wasn’t someone who was all over the block w other men. Not saying that you are. But she took an interest in me. Did things for me. Cooked, even when we first started seeing each other more. She always looked out for me. Now I’m not some little kid who needs to be taken care of, but it just felt good. She always made sure I had clothes for work, food, etc. That was what I liked. That’s what brought me in closer. It wasn’t just about sex like a lot of women tend to think. Like I bring looks n good sex n money according to a lot of women. Yes sex is always good. Money I, like most men could careless about that. Looks are nothing w out a good personality. My ex before her. Very bossy, pretty, cute but would talk at me rather than to me when she was mad. That turned me off a lot. Today I’m still w the girl after 14 years. It was hard. Struggles. She didn’t want me discoloring her kids. But eventually she was ok w it, because I said you’re asking me to be here, to take care of you, to protect you n the kids.

[Asker]

Well that sounds awesome I'm glad you two are happy together! Yeah the discipline thing is scary because you don't know how another man will be with your kids like they may be too mean, that's why for a lot of people that is kind of an iffy subject lol We were together 12 years but things between us got very stale, and he wouldn't consider anything I told him and he wanted me to always listen. I got tired of it so I came back to Canada.. He wouldn't let me take the kids..

[Opinion Owner]

Sonic the right man came along would you be willing to let him I guess he the man. As far as like leading. Not to say he tells you what to do or treats you like a slave. Like for us I make a lot of the decisions especially if something needs to be made right away. She trust me to do what’s right for us. Discipline yes can be a hard thing I get that. But even if you say he didn’t need to provide for them he still does if he’s willing to be w you. Provide them w security. Provide them w electricity, water, etc, unless you plan on paying all that. I’m sure if he had kids you would t be happy if he came home w just food for his kids and nothing for your kids. So in a way he’s still going to have to provide. What’s the situation w the kids’ father? Is he going to make trouble?

[Asker]

Yeah I like the man leading, it wasn't what we had issues with, it was like he didn't consider my feelings at any time. Like if i was sad or something he would still make me go to his families house so he doesn't look bad cuz im not there. Stupid stuff like that constantly. Or like if I was sick to my stomach he would still make me get up and make dinner even though he makes enough money to get takeout. Just always not being considerate to me. But yes I understand all your points.. thinking back to my ex I really dont want to be with anyone. But if I dont make a serious move soon i will be too old as I apparently already am.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re not old as far as meeting someone. As far as children maybe, but there are women w him still have children at much older ages as you know. It’s just so you want to take a chance w that as far as complications? Marriage no not too old for that. So was he physically abusive?

[Opinion Owner]

May I ask why the kids aren’t w you?

[Asker]

Well I wouldn't say he was abusive but like if I didn't do something he wanted he would do this police move on me where he put my arm behind my back and he would rev my arm like a motorcycle handle. and he has cameras in the house so me and the kids don't do anything we aren't allowed... He doesn't hit the kids he is just mean I guess..
We ain't divorced I kind of just left and he wouldn't let me take the kids, his family don't know we are separated they just think I'm on a holiday but its been a year lol.

[Opinion Owner]

So he’s abusive n mentally and physically. What are your plans as far as divorcing him abf getting your kids?

[Asker]

I don't know we are still discussing it,,, I want to get settled here first then figure out that stuff
And worst come the worst just go back if I fail here...

[JPresidente]

Always steer the subject away from sex and ask them questions about themselves, their family, their views or other things you might have in common like hobbies or shows.

[bowenw]

I suggest trying to get to know guys in person so they can see that you an interesting person they would want to get to know better.

[JosyJosy]

I'm reading this and I fail to find the part where You take them on a date. So that's how.

[Paulychicagoluv]

Sounds like you are going after younger guys and not the older ones. All guys are different though.

[Dinklex3]

Do you actually go out and talk to them in person?

[ZenJen444]

It's the way you carry yourself and you're constantly in desperate chasing mode.

[Smartman5]

maybe you're cooling them off yourself. Let we try us if you want

[Bklynbadboy12]

Guys won't take you seriously until you start taking yiu seriously

[Tstrbrainer]

Be confident and have patience, I'm sure you are the kind of woman who would make a great wife.

[Anonymous]

Give opportunity to real men
Real men wants to take you on date...😊

[Anonymous]

You have to have dignity and class.
If you dress or act like a whore, you won’t get respect.

[Anonymous]

I could tell you but you'll just reject it.

[Asker]

well you might as well say it since you stopped in lol