Why can't I seem to move on without him?

[Akam93]

We talked for over a month, our conversations were friendly at first but then as time went on I eventually got attracted to him cause he was already attracted to me. We spoke to each other everyday about life, sex, our families and maybe hopefully seeing each other one day. I felt very connected to him and I was scared to lose him before I got a chance to see him. Now I've turned into this sad regretful woman. I dont know how to get him back and I want him back really bad. I feel like he shouldn't comment on my questions either but this a small community also. Just makes it harder for me to get over him. He was everything I wanted in a man.

[Summeroflove]

There is some strange people online. Personally I would learn from this and not trust some random person on the internet anymore.

[chicosuave]

you will be fine. You have a lot of options anyway.

[SnowedIn]

I'm really sorry to hear this is happening to you. It's really difficult. For right now, I'm going to assume you can't get him back. I don't have enough details to say that you can or can't. I'll focus on you moving on. One step is to minimize those things in your life that remind you of him. But don't change your life just for him. If you really enjoy vanilla lattes, but he liked them too, don't stop getting vanilla lattes. But if he loved one particular restaurant, better to not go there. Etc. Focus on other stuff -- that's a conscious decision. You're going to tell me it's hard, and I agree. If you can't focus on a movie or a book, find a girl who is a friend and go do something. Museum. Park. Volunteer at a school, church, or shelter and get your hands and mind busy to take your mind off him. Do an improvement project where you live. Or, do extra work at work if it helps take your mind off him. And (soon is my suggestion) start dating again.

[MrCommodore]

What happened that it ended?

[Akam93]

Me letting fear control my mind.

[MrCommodore]

Ah okay, from bad experiences in the past?

[Akam93]

Yes in a way.

[MrCommodore]

It difficult to move on from liking someone if you still have a void, like it would be easier if you met someone else.

[Anonymous]

So this is someone you met online?

[Akam93]

Yes it is