What the best way to let things go?

[Justneedtokno]

Recently, the guy that I was talking/ dating to just stop liking me. I’ve been trying to get closure I guess. I keep texting they keep texting back. I gotta do better with living in the moment things were just temporary and I got caught up in trying to fit them into my future

Crazy I feel more comfortable with him, saying, he never cared for me Versus he did

I was really starting to look forward to dressing more

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Thank you. This is really hard because I don’t know what happened. I wanted to spend time with him and go out and really date him I was apprehensive in the beginning then I started giving it a real try, and that pushed him away He works. He has a child. You’re not the end of it all I still wanna see him and say goodbye and talk to him, but I know it’s only gonna hurt myself worse. I think I get attached too quickly and clingy. That’s why I have not been dating for stuff like this.

[Genie23]

I'm sorry to hear that but know that you aren't alone. I know how you feel. What you need to understand is thinking about them, putting more efforts isn't going to bring him back. It's going to make him push you away even more. So, just try to and accept that he doesn't like you and doesn't care about your feelings so it's going to only affect you, not him if you don't move on. Keep yourself busy and maybe try out new things you always wanted to. Just know that everything happens for a reason. You can't see it now. It hurts and you want closure and stuff but trust me you'll find someone better someday.

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah, I’m trying to except it but it’s hard he don’t want me anymore. Maybe that’s why he’s been keeping his distance for me

[Justneedtokno]

Not even that he is keeping is this he works. He has a child. I wanted to spend time with him and go out and really date him I was apprehensive in the beginning then I started giving it a real try, and that pushed him away

[DizzyDesii]

Yea this sucks. I dont even know what to say. It doesn't take me long to have a new crush so that often distracts me

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, I have been there it totally sucks when you are with someone every day, they tell you that that they will love you forever and then they just leave with no closure. Then when something happens and you are like I can't wait to tell this person and you realize that you can't because they are gone and it sinks in that you lost your best friend too. The pain never goes away, you just learn to live with it.

[Gent207-2]

My condolences for your loss. Just as those that die are no longer part of your story, think of him likewise.

Those happy moments will never repeat or change they will always be as they are and were, just a dream.

But this is not the end.

Accept and embrace the new reality and get yourself ready for the next chapter. A better one that would not have been possible if he were still part of your life.

[NathanDavis]

I don't know... I lost 10 pounds trying to find out how

[Sixgunsound]

I don't understand how or why the 30 and under crowd seems to think ghosting is OK to end relationships. It's immature and cowardly.

[Justneedtokno]

Yes true he didn’t ghost me he just stop wanting to be in a relationship. people just don’t care or invest in people anymore

[SnowedIn]

Just confirming you want to let him go or get closer?

[Justneedtokno]

At the end of it all, I still wanted to be with him but he’s not hearing me out he doesn’t want me

[SnowedIn]

I'm sorry. That's a very difficult place to be in. I saw your comment to the other responder and I don't think that 28 means you don't have time left.

[Justneedtokno]

I hope not

[Jennz6]

Just move on darling, time heals all wounds. Maybe if you start dating again you’ll make him jealous lol

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t think you would care, and maybe I’m not ready as I wanted to be

[Jennz6]

Sorry honey, you’re still young, you will know when you’re ready.

[Justneedtokno]

I’m 28 I really don’t have that much time left but thank you

[Jennz6]

You’re welcome Dear

[TenderFantasy]

Dude lol, you're 28, not 38 or 48. But besides that, at least you didn't end up spending MORE of your precious time with the wrong guy. Sorry it didn't work out and that he was too into himself and immature to try and probably have incompatible values too.

[TenderFantasy]

@Justneedtokno

[Justneedtokno]

@TenderFantasy yes I know it was just crazy

[Jamie05rhs]

Aww. I'm sorry. But it's okay, girl. He wasn't the one. You will find another one.

[KrakenAttackin]

"Effort is attractive", only if HE is attractive, otherwise it's "creepy" and "stalking".

[Justneedtokno]

He was he just stop pursuing me

[KrakenAttackin]

He got tired of chasing.

[Justneedtokno]

I don't know what it was we doing ok that I know of

[KrakenAttackin]

Men get tired of the chase when the feelings aren't reciprocated. When you say "effort is attractive", it is to men as well, but women don't think they have to put in any effort beyond showing up.

[In_Trance]

block him and move on

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah