Is a relationship doomed to fail if the man and woman share almost no common interests?

[desperatelyhungry]

We have great chemistry and can talk easily for hours and hours. I’m very girly, into shopping and doing my nails, skincare, fashion, etc. he’s very masculine and superrrrr into sports and anime (not saying this is just a man thing, but it’s never been mine). The only shared interest I can think of is we both really used to like wrestling and occasionally keep up with it. Also, I love traveling and want to do more of it and he’s more concerned about saving as much as he can. Do you think this could be a problem or our it’s a small issue?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Sharing interests can be fun, but that's not really the biggest goal of a relationship. If you two can communicate well and the chemistry is there, then that's great. I'm sure you guys can find things to do together that don't specifically involve those interests or you could be introduced to each other's. Having common ground like that can be nice in a relationship, but it doesn't mean it's a bad match. Sometimes you can have everything in common with someone and feel nothing at all.

If you guys get along well, and you enjoy spending time together, and you're both enjoying your time together, then there should be no reason that not sharing interests becomes a problem.

[Notyodevil]

Even if it isn't each other's specific interest, is it possible you could still find enjoyment doing these things with each other? Me and my girl are far from the same interests. For example, she was never into anime or super big into gaming. She will watch and play if I am though and genuinely have fun because we're just having fun with each other. The shows or activities she's enjoys, I will join in when it's with her and have a good time just because we make it fun for each other either way. Otherwise by ourselves we wouldn't really do some of these things at all. There will always be things and times when someone doesn't wanna do something and the other does. Inevitable, hopefully when you do though, you're able to enjoy it purely from just spending time together in general.

[tenor55]

My wife and I have about 90% common interests. We have been together over 50 years. I have known couples that have little in common who are miserable and I have known couples that have little in common and are happy together.


Two thoughts: 1. You must learn how to compromise and learn to do things with each other that may not be your thing. 2. Don’t think you are going to change each other. Get into the relationship with eyes wide open with NO expectations.

[Asad1ONE1]

Yes it's all about your mindset and whether you even care.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Seems like it if you don't have enough in common, that would be a problem. You both should want to do things together and enjoy them.

Otherwise, if one of you is doing it because it is important to the other, it might breed resentment.

It really depends how much overlap you have though, you don't need 100% but I'd say 0% is a big issue, but 30 to 50% could work out, and be just fine.

[Haha456]

are there any shows that you both like to watch? You don't need a lot of interests in common , but you just need a little bit of common interests. But if you're a spender and he is a cheap thrift, then it will lead to a lot of problems in the marriage.

I believe that having compatible lifestyle habits is crucial to a survival of a relationship / marriage.

[teamvic]

Well as long as you guys like being around eachother then It could work. The traveling thing is a little iffy, unless you can convince him you're either gonna have to not go or go by yourself on trips

But I will say this, there is definitely someone out there that might be better suited for you but as long as you're happy.🤔

[Orion76]

You don’t have to like sports or anime you take time and sit and watch with him every once in a while without being annoyed it will be okay and he will appreciate you are doing it for him the show becomes secondary it, if you notice he is doing the same go out shopping with you or do something that you feel he is doing it to be there for you. Has to go Both ways give and take keep in mind interests change with time with love and good communication you will discover more common grounds. Good luck

[Anonymous]

No not necessarily. I mean honestly do you want to date a male version of yourself. He may introduce you to things that you’ve never done that you may like just as the same as you introducing new things to him. Traveling is a big thing I think for a lot of people so start w that then build on it. Maybe the wrestling as well. You don’t have to have the same damn interest. I’d like my girl to have her little hobbies, likes, dislikes as well.

[Naiomiiiii]

It's not doomed but it will require a loooot if patience that nowadays no one has, so in modern society it's is doomed because once the honeymoon phase passes you'll find yourself with someone with whom you can't relate on any level... But you can always develop a comment interest like picking up a new hobby or paybe try to share eachothers hobbies even if you don't find it interesting..

[Mrsadeyes]

It’s extremely lonely!! And also hard if they are dismissive of yours which makes you lose your identity and the things that make you light up. Also you miss out on the things that you wanted to do with another person as a couple if they’re not interested in it such as both lighting up over a convention such as a movie one or anime, comicon, etc.

[Whatthefluff]

Not at all but you should both show interest/openness in each other’s interests to an extent. Have a spa day one weekend and go to a baseball game the next

[LazerBean]

I'm sure there are exceptions, but in general having a lack of things in common is going to make things more difficult.

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

They don't have to share EVERY single one, but, if it's a lot, it's going to be very difficult

[Jamie05rhs]

No, I don't think so. As long as you're interested in each other.

And you probably do have common interests; you just haven't found them yet.

[HaveNoName]

In a marriage, you make an effort to overcome such challenges and try to create middle grounds and there is never an ideal situation.

[Alex8736]

sometimes opposites really do attract where you learn new things from each other

[eagle1951]

maybe maybe not, my late wife and I were totally different and we were married 37 years

[Andres77]

Saving to save or does he have a plan?

[desperatelyhungry]

His plans are always changing. At one point it was to by an apartment complex and become a landlord and now it’s to buy a house one day but with the house market he’s said it’ll either be a very long time or never

[Andres77]

I’m not business oriented so my brain just works differently. I’ve always saved a portion so now I’m sitting on about $LOTK emergency funds and the rest is for spending and having fun.

[Pterodon]

Yes.