I only share a few interests with my partner but we’ve been dating for 4.5 months and I still find that it gets awkward at times.. we do love each other very much tho and have sex often. I’m just wondering what is required to have a good relationship
Well I’ll put it this way. It depends on the couple. It depends on them personally. But the problem is. It’s too sexual before marriage. I think being too sexual kills a relationship. You’re supposed to build a deep romantic bond with one another, and if you can’t do that. You’re not mean to be.
But you could be connecting yourself to someone you aren’t even compatible with when you choose to engage sexually with someone before marriage.
A good relationship goes deeper then sex. Sex should come later on. Sex is amazing when it’s not perverted and it gets to the point when you’re into weird kinks and fetishes because it takes more and more to get you off. Until people are going to swingers parties and taking dumps on one another’s chest. Because they just can’t find anything to get them off anymore
No sharing interest doesn't matter that much insted it can be fun learning with each other's intrest if you both are open to share and take part in one another's intrest. If you are interested to learn and see though each other's vision that what they like about in that things. If you both participate in each other's fun time even if it's not yours cup of tea.
Sharing common principles common values matters more than sharing interest. At least for basic things like how you both believe in handling finance how you believe in running family, how important are friends for you both. What does relationship means to you, what you expect from your partner. What is considered cheating for you and what not. Who are paying. Relationship means sharing burden equally or being dependent and provider relationship. Etc.
It might actually work out well if he's an extravert who loves going out and you like to have that alone time to do hobbies that that you don't want to have judged by someone. As long as the dynamic allows you to maintain peace in the relationship, he probably doesn't mind.
In my experience, you should have some a few common interests (and ideally work is not one of them) but not all your interests. I have my own hobbies and interests. My wife has hers. We also have some we share together like camping, fine dining, and our home projects. We even have some areas where we are incompatible - she is a vegan and I’m a meat eating man. She is kind of socially introverted and I’m an extrovert. She likes club music and I like classical. So, where do we really connect? Our life goals. Our loyalty to one another. Our plans for how we envision our home life. Our religious beliefs. Our political alignment. How we wish to raise our children.
I always thought getting to know somebody different than yourself was more fun anyhow.
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You should share some interests together , but it doesn’t have to be exact, as long as you both accept each other for who you are , you should be fine
It helps, but remember there’s also nothing wrong with having your own life. I think it just gets awkward when you expect your partner to be there for all aspects of your life.
It is important to have common interests but those change as you get older. Having similar morals / lifestyles / being able to compromise is more important.
It's good to share a few interests but it's okay (and good) to have some separate interests. Too much togetherness is not always a good thing.
No, but it definitely helps.
Honestly, you don't have to share interests, but I think the strongest relationships are build on a solid friendship.
How did you guys meet? Why did you start dating? Was it a concern for the two of you that you didn't share those interests before dating?
If he is someone you can talk to about anything and everything without having to worry about how he might react and the two of you being the best out of the other... that's all that matters.
If you're worried about it being a problem whether your interests are matching, just talk about it with him. You're 4,5 months in. It's not weird to not know everything.
We met on bumble
I think if you want a truly passionate relationship, yes. In the old days people would just get married based on physical attraction, credentials, and assets. Nowadays, we focus more on the happiness aspect of a relationship, meaning the chemistry. And chemistry consists of similarities. Similar views, interests, goals (where you want to be 20 years from now), style of communication, way of thinking, sense of humor, sexual compatibility, etc. Imagine a relationship where you conflict on any of those aspects. It wouldn't be very fun now would it? But if you do have those in common, imagine enjoying the same activities together, never having conflict from conflicting views, love knowing that you want to end up in the same things in life, finding the same things funny and laughing at each other's jokes, having the best sex life because you both want the same things in sex, etc. That sounds like a dream, right? Well that's only possible when you have a lot of similarities.
Not necessarily, no. It's surely helpful to have some common interests, but it's not the most important thing. And you can always try to be curious about each other interests. Me and my boyfriend didn't really have many similar interests to begin with, besides a taste in music, but we made some new ones together :) For example we try to travel together a lot, we went to ice skating classes, recently we picked up some modelling clay during grocery shopping and made some really cursed looking pendants...
I think a shared interest in the Us is paramount but there has to be You and Me components. You don't have to have the same hobbies but it is good to have an activity you both enjoy (other than sex) as happiness is bonding. Like the bike riding in the pic.
Very old school now but I think also good is partner dancing. You are physically coordinated and it is a team effort between you and a little magical when it is just right. It can be sex standing up - it is perfectly possible to orgasm the girl in a partner dance. In the privacy of your home you can make it quite dirty. In any case it is very pleasant to feel your partners body move against yours. Especially their thigh against your groin.
My wife and I are very much opposites. She's extroverted, "words of praise" (for you 5 Love Language peeps) , I'm introverted, "acts of kindness". She will fish, I'll take pictures of her fishing. I'm into music, she can't carry a tune in a bucket. She knows all the birthdays of the grandkids, I remember the prices of the last hundred products we bought the last month. I bake the cookies, she bakes the kolachky.
But that can actually help because we can each fill the voids in the other's life, so I think we are both better for the experience.
I find it can be a little easier to get along with your partner if you share at least a few common interests, doesn't have to be everything or even a lot as long as there's a couple then it tends to make things less awkward and easier on the both of you
I think it definitely helps to have a few things in common - shared interests, experiences and something interesting to chat about.
It’s also useful to have some separate things to do, but I find it works best if there is quite a bit of common ground in a relationship
It's nice, but it certainly isn't a necessity! For the relationship to flourish however you both need to accept the other should always be allowed to have those interests.
Once a demand is made for either partner to give up those interests? That's when the relationship is over as far as I'm concerned!
Certain interests are good. I wouldn’t want everything just because then they expect to be with all the time. Like no let me shoot my bow and fly my plane. I’m not saying I wouldn’t let them try it, but I do tournaments and have goals for my pilot career so that’s why I wouldn’t want that.
I'm pretty sure I share no interests with my wife. I sort of know what she likes... anything sex related on television for instance while I'm drawn to science, true crime, and documentaries that have nothing to do with sex. She's a retard though... only thinks with her pussy. We probably only get along because we both like to eat food and I like to use her as a cum dumpster.
Oh... on a 4 point political scale we're both left-of-center libertarians. This actually means we're both far-right white nationalist Nazi's according to CNN... especially because the wife is Asian. She don't vote at all though because she thinks it's rigged, I vote for Trump... even though I think it's rigged as well. So there is something we have in common.
*She's more like Blasian... but any leftist knows that's a racist white supremacist because she married me.
While it's good to share at least a few interests, it's definitely not necessary to share most or all interests. You just need to have an awareness that you will each sometimes spend time pursuing your non-shared interests, either alone or with your other friends.
That is the situation most people are in, and as long as you both have good morals and values, it's fine.
open communication
trust and respect
common opinions, hobbies, similar tastes in movies or books
you have to have some things in common; they are a base for everyday conversations and activities without the risk of constant disagreements
I don't have a partner but when I had, I was automatically interested in his hobbies, for example, soccer never interested me and besides I preferred basketball but when I was with my ex, I knew that he really loved soccer, I started to take an interest in it and I was able to follow all the games and his fav teams so that we were interested in the same thing, I tried to do everything so that we do what he loves, and if there is one of my hobbies that he doesn't like, automatically I no longer like it
u It’s not a necessity.. you and your partner could be complete opposites when it comes to interests & hobbies, yet have a successful relationship. A good relationship is built on trust, communication, mutual respect, honesty & affection.
Exactly, but sometimes I feel like he doesn’t like me because I don’t watch anime
What interests do you share?
The gym, creating art and that’s about it
I feel like both can work. Ofc its fun to do stuff together but it can also be super interesting to learn new things together with your partner. Worst is if he has no hobbies at all, don't like that.
I believe it is a must and at the same time, I am willing to learn. I like video games, I like the gym, I like to pray with some of my praying partners and I like to dance. Mostly love not like 😂. I am Caribbean so yeah. Having same sexual attraction is cool and beautiful and all but what about the things that interest us?
My partner and I could not be a more opposite and that’s probably why it works. Because he’s either wanna try something new or I will and we find ways to make it work where no one feels left out.
Aslong as u are able to communicate and speak about things u bith enjoy with the other being intrested I think its fine I'm a gamer and my partner is not she will on occasion play somthing with me but its never been a issue
Of course! To have a good understanding relationship with your partner you must share opinions, interests and so on. That's my opinion.
Sharing interests is nice but most girls are not tomboys, so I don't think that it's a must.
Yes, without shared interests, hobbies and views, it CAN'T work out at all, and so I'd not even start a relationship without those prerequisites. Sexual attraction is also a must, but it doesn't make up for the rest not being there.
Some is nice as it allows you to connect easier. All of them would be kind of boring if you both are joined at the hip. If you try whatever they are into that you were not, you can learn about your partner, too.
What are the interests that you share?
Sex is great and all but shouldn't be a cornerstone of the relationship.
Nah, you want to have similar beliefs, sense of humor, and what you want in the relationship or out of life.
Neither my husband or I are joined at the hip, and although we do share some interests, we each have our own pursuits which we enjoy following.
I don't really think you have to share interests , opposites attract , you both have separate lives , there's nothing wrong with that.
I think you should share the same interests with your partner but not 100 percent. Of course if both of you have nothing in common, the relationship will be solely based on infatuation which is not sustainable 🤷♀️
brooooo you have SEGGS?
lucky homie
i think you should listen what he has to say.
get to know your future life-long partner.
do cute couple things together.
plan for the future as a team.
not needed, but easier for conversation and activities together.
Sharing interests helps with the bond, differences are there to help one another.
For me the high 90s percent of lovemaking is emotional connection as much as physical attraction. Otherwise what's the point? Lol 🤣😆
After all, all genders here have said the same time and time again they'll just stay single or they could just use their own hand (s)/toy lol so they can afford to be picky fussy and I do date fussy also. Hence I'm single still 😈🙂👀
Nope, I mean it's good to have a few things in common and share a few interests but you should each have your own things to.
Having the same values and spiritual foundation is much more important. 🙂
To have one or two interests in common is a nice thing to have.
Even if it's "little" things "only".
They don’t need everything to be the same interest. It’s good when you have differences also but a good loving relationship is that you’re nice to each other and compromise
Well i share almost all my interests with him
Not really as long as there is chemistry and you get along that is what counts
I'd say some interest but not all since sometimes opposites attract
Is good to have some common interests but you don't have to.
If you want a strong relationship
Is true between you
Just say true don't lie
Some but not all. It is ok to have your own or individual interests also.
"We do love each other" why are you speaking for him?
You think he doesn’t love me
You should have some common interests if you're dating
yes I like to share interest and dreams with my partner become very close
Some, yes. But not all of them. What's most important is that you love each other.
some we do some we don't but it matters not.
In my opinion, without shared interests, it's very difficult or outright impossible to have a good relationship.
To certain extent yes. Morals are more important though
Those “awkward” times is an opportunity to find something to do together!
How can u develope a personal relationship without person interest being shared between u two?
No you don’t but sometimes learning what he or she likes is a plus
at least a few.
Cause we don't have North and south poles.
Yes
Sure, maybe not all but majority at least
No. You have to know your roles and have respect for those roles and boundaries.
Yes, I have shared all my interests and hobbies to my partner
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