Should I avoid taking a vacation with my best mate?

[Anonymous]

He’s been hitting on me recently, mentioning moonlight cinemas and special picnics. I love him as a person but the thought of dating him.. my feelings forbid it in every way possible. I’ve told him and told him. I know he’s just desperate, but I want him to take the hint. I told him he’s like a brother to me. I cancelled out of the second day a week of catching up. What to do now?

[Finchie40]

Yes, apparently he isn’t taking no for an answer and he is going to keep trying to pursue you thinking he is going to win you over , so your best bet is to distance yourself from him as much as possible until he gets the hint that you are not interested in him that way what so ever , Why Guys and Girls can’t really be friends with each other , acquaintances yes but close friends No, because always 1 likes the other more than the other and then shit hits the fan and the friendship comes to an end anyways , especially if you end up meeting someone else that you are really interested in in a romantic way , your guy friend is going to resent you and probably end up hating you for it anyways , and calling you a bitch , so again your best bet is to distance yourself from that friendship because he definitely wants you more than just a friend. When a guy is just a friend with a girl he doesn’t invest a lot of his time in to her , meaning calling her every day and making plans with her , when he does that , that’s red flag number 1 , cuz no guy that isn’t interested in a girl that way is going to waste his time investing into a girl that he isn’t interested in what so ever. He would be investing his time pursuing another girl that he is interested in , the same thing goes for girls as well , that claim they just want to be friends with a guy , she isn’t going to invest a lot of her time into a guy that she really isn’t interested in , Why it’s important to distant your friendships with the opposite sex when you get into a committed relationship, you might think your partner is coming off as being insecure but really it isn’t insecurities , they just know what the other person is thinking , A guy knows what other guys are thinking and Girls know what other girls are thinking , Even though you are just being friendly the opposite sex might take that differently and think otherwise , this shit occurs a lot because Guys and Girls are different and we are easily blind to it , When I got into a committed relationship with a girl out of respect for our relationship I distance myself from opposite sex friends , before I never did that because in my mind I was just bing friendly not realizing the girl was taking it differently and all hell broke loose lol Most people don’t grasp this concept and then they wonder why they get cheated on or their relationship ends oth their partner , because respect and trust is broken without them realizing it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

He has the hots for you and it's not going to stop... all you can do is disappear until he finds a girl... will probably hit on you after that too.

Sorry to bring the bad news, but guys don't catch a hint.

[Asker]

Bugger. He always seemed to fancy all the other women including my girl bestie more. Why me?

[D_Bone_Steak]

I will go out on a limb here and say we dudes have like a trigger where you become a target... after that point... you can't get them back into the friend zone.

[Asker]

Damn.

[jorfan3]

Is he paying? Are you getting separate rooms? Is it a romantic vacation with couples activities? Do you two have any sex or physical contact at all?

[Asker]

We hug and kiss on the cheek, for greetings. Other than that, no touching and we’d be getting separate rooms.

[Asker]

It wasn’t intended on my side as a romantic vacation.

[jorfan3]

Did HE plan it?

[Asker]

No, I did. I wanted a vacation after his friend kept hitting on me and making me feel uncomfortable.

[jorfan3]

But now you might be trapped with a person who wants to be with you...

[Asker]

I had no one else to go with. I figured he’d have taken the hint by now, that I’m not interested.

[Asker]

Best not to go? Would going encourage him?

[jorfan3]

Maybe a little... He might see it as an amazing opportunity to swoon you. Do you have OTHER friends to bring too?

[jorfan3]

Make it a threesome?

[Asker]

Our other friends won’t go, except Ryan, Jack’s other friend, who’s also hit on me. Ian is the one who keeps it up though. Ryan fancies my friend.

[jorfan3]

If you can't think of another girl friend, I don't think a vacation with him is the best idea... Sorry

[Asker]

Okay, then we’d best not go. Thanks 😊👍

[Jemini_Crocket]

Yes, definitely. He'd jump on you the first chance he could.

[Guy13]

It sounds like he is not going to listen and that you two live this mirror married couple life. Traveling together on vacation and around each other everyday or two can start to feel like one is in a committed relationship. If one is in the friendzone or Bestie with the hope of being serious then this is a bad situation. This seems to be the case here although there is no real way for me to tell.

[Asker]

This is a guy I’ll call Jack. He’s worried about gold diggers, although he’s got no money. He asks out all mildly attractive women that are younger. He hits on me whenever Nina (our friend, who he really fancies); is around. I didn’t think we acted like a married couple. I just started seeing him more often because he was depressed as one of his rich friends who he looked up to snubbed him.

[Asker]

When she’s not around I mean. I’ve had Jack stay over in a different room for years without him hitting on me. He only started getting interested after his rich friend decided he liked me.

[Guy13]

Well little pressure is what some people need…

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Honestly it doesn’t sound like it will be a problem. It will more than likely snap him out of it. Just stick to your guns nothing romantic nothing special or dance and make sure that you split all the bills!

[OddBeMe]

you seem old enough to be able to have a mature outing. Is he in love iwth you? Are you sharing a room?

[Asker]

He’s not in love with me. He’s just lonely and desperate.

[OddBeMe]

If he’s not mature enough he could get the wrong impression. Diff rooms?

[Asker]

Hmmm, maybe

[OddBeMe]

If sex isn’t on your menu I would. That’s an immediate green light for some guys.

[Asker]

Sex is nonexistent with this guy and out of the question.

[OddBeMe]

he never thinks of sex? I'm just thinking from his perspective...

[Asker]

I haven’t wanted to imagine him having sex. But he’s straight. So I guess he must. The thought of him having a sex life upsets my stomach.

[OddBeMe]

And you want to vacation with him and share room.

[Asker]

Not share a bedroom though

[OddBeMe]

Then you’re prob ok. But he might get the wrong idea.

[Asker]

I’d best stay away from the idea then.

[OddBeMe]

Yeah we guys are dense and have one thing on the mind. Not saying guys can’t be friends with girls but if you’re asking this much about him he sounds iffy….

[SexyRedd1966]

You already told him and he keeps pursuing you... I wouldn't go on vacation with him unless it was a group thing

[AydenHazor]

If he's not taking accepting you telling him that there's nothing other than friendship between you, definitely don't encourage him by going on vacation with him

[Iron_Man]

You have to talk to him about it? Clear the air.

[Stevefiveo]

Yes, cancel the vacation. He would definitely take the vacation as a green light.

[Anonymous]

He's being a Simp, get a restraining order.

[Asker]

Oh this one’s not harmful. He’s just pushy.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like a stalker, better bring a taser gun.

[LazerBean]

The short answer is yes.