It’s seems like men and women more than ever talk, debate and argue over gender differences nowadays but to no avail. Some problems get worse instead of better.
However there is one issue women talked to me about that made me check myself. It’s how some women hesitate to approach and ask out men because the guy might think he will get a quick lay.
I confess when I was much younger (teens and early 20s) I was guilty of acting that way on one or two occasions. In hindsight it was disrespectful and very selfish. It also scares women from approaching men they interested in but don’t want to date right away.
I’ve seen women talk about negative experience on GAG and I listened and agreed. If a woman approaches then the man probably would be best of waiting for her to make a move as well. She was after all confident enough to approach. She also probably has her mind up if she just wants to sleep with him vs dating him. She will likely communicate what she really wants if asked straight up at that point.
This is one area I think men can improve upon. If a woman approaches you chances are very slim you are friendzoned especially if she wants to hang out one on one with you.
The only danger is she might be trying to make someone else jealous. This is horrible but some women do that shit. But if that’s the case she will want to be seen in public with vs. hanging out in private. That’s one way to figure that intention out.
Anyway if more guys didn’t take a woman approaching as a green light for quick sex I think more women in general would get the courage to approach men.
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There is nothing to debate except Scientific Biological sex leads to defining the social construct, Gender. Male and Female are it the rest of it is a need to be different, special, or noticed. It is sad, especially, the self-mutilation people.
"It’s how some women hesitate to approach and ask out men because the guy might think he will get a quick lay."
I stopped reading right here ^, because it's a nonsensical argument. There is absolutely zero reason why a person showing interest in another person would translate to "I just want to have sex with you" any more for women than men, and it's not the reason women don't approach. The real reason is a combination of cowardice and entitlement.
“ The real reason is a combination of cowardice and entitlement.”.
I actually completely agree with that. But that cowardice is searching for any excuse, negative past experience, etc to be validated. Even if the woman had only ONE bad incident in her entire she will fixate on it indefinitely. That’s because society often rewards women for playing victim.
However the fewer excuses men give women to engage in that cowardice and entitlement the more women will be forced to step up. For example how often do you see men laughing, mocking or being extremely rude to women that approach them yet they little/no interest in them? Maybe 1 out 1000 incidents tops. But I wouldn’t be surprised if women do this to men at least 1 out of 10 times.
Amyway some guys including a younger me took a woman approaching as quick ticket to the bedroom. Easy lay. Not really cool how I acted in retrospect. I know I’m not only guy who has made this quick assumption either.
Most debates should be seen as a way to sway undecided observers. Rarely will a participant change.
Yep. Either that and/or to ventilate.
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