Did I mess up by asking my boyfriend this?

[Anonymous]

I asked him that if we had a (high risk) baby and they made him sign a paper to let me die in order to keep the baby alive if he would sign the paper. And he basically said that he didn’t know because it was a really hard question since the baby is alive too and I told him that the answer should always be me because he has known me longer. He left kind of flustered. I still gave him a kiss and told him that I loved him it was just something that I was curious about.

[SnowedIn]

I agree with @spartan55 and @Brando10222. Apologize in person, not over text. And, I've read your responses. Yes, couples should discuss this sort of thing. When they're pregnant. And when it's high risk. But if it's just a Sunday afternoon and you're "just" boyfriend and girlfriend and you're bored so you ask an existential question? Then, yes, you messed up. Also, don't expect him (or other partners) to pick you. That is NOT a done deal that one partner picks the other over the life of the child. There was a question on her recently about this topic and the debate was fierce. So, if that's your expectation, be prepared for it to clash with a lot of people.

[Asker]

I always ask stupid questions like this and I always ask about his exes I do not know how he deals with me.

[SnowedIn]

It's not a stupid question. You just didn't ask it at the right time and place. :) But, yeah, stop asking about his exes. You'll push him away or give yourself insecurities.

[Asker]

This will be part of my new years resolution now

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[Brando10222]

That's a red flag. Girl what are you thinking? Of course he wants both of you equally

[Asker]

We’ve been together for 3 years almost I mean shouldn’t we discuss this stuff? I heard that this is a thing that they make husbands sign

[Asker]

He acted all turned off and stuff now I feel so confused

[Brando10222]

Don't do everything in your relationship that other people in relationships do. Every relationship is different. Apologise to him

[Asker]

Yes I already did I texted him that I was sorry for being annoying. I always ask random ass questions to him.

[Brando10222]

Give him some time if he needs it. But do stay close to him so he doesn't feel left out

[KrakenAttackin]

Yet again, a woman asked a question she didn't want to know the answer to.

[Asker]

I did want to know otherwise I wouldn’t have asked lmao and I would’ve disagreed with the comments

[spartan55]

What a stupid shit test question. YES, you messed up.

[spartan55]

Apologize IN PERSON, not over text.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'd never sign a paper dooming a woman I'm dating/married to, I'd tell them to abort the baby and save my girlfriend/wife.

[PatriceONeal]

Yeah nice one