Have been talking to that guy for several months, great chemistry, good connection
he wants to spend Valentine’s together but not my birthday (which is a few weeks after Valentine’s)
is spending Valentine’s Day together more serious than b-day?
Valentine's Day verse Birthday tells me that your man does not understand the relationship between birth date "Candles and Cake". There are confounding variables, therefore, one should factor both Social Media and Hallmark holiday into his Thinking.
What do you expect from a guy as he's doing the best he knows how. Most of the time, we have no clue what you want anyway. Eventually we recognize at least half the time the woman doesn't know what they want either.
If you do not like his decision-making then gently lead him into right thinking.
It would depend on why. If he's busy then, or has other plans, or has to go through a great deal of trouble to get to you, it's unfortunate, but understandable. Don't put too much importance on a single occurrence- good OR bad- look for the patterns.
Red flag.
It's a no brainer that if he likes you and was committed to investing in you as a person, he'd say yes to both.
Saying yes to Valentine's days, he wants some sexual perks. Saying no to birthday Means he has no interest in meeting or 'accidentally' meeting your friends who might also want to celebrate your birthday.
The fact that he doesn't want to plan 3 weeks out is a sign that he considers you an option, not a priority.
He just doesn't wanna feel lonely in V-Day and you're probably the only one he is talking to right now.
For me bday is way more important and serious, vday means nothing
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Is he local?
If not then maybe he can't afford to travel twice
Is your birthday a solo event or a family/friends thing
If the latter maybe he is worried about meeting/impressing loads of new people all at once
He can’t read your mind. Tell him how you feel. Kindly. And short and sweet.
Does he know you would like him to spend your b'day with you? Maybe he feels it would be presumptive.
He’s probably busy on your bday
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