Guys who like skinny girls, how skinny is skinny enough for you and how skinny is too much?

[Anonymous]

I'm naturally skinny and no diet works, after being fed up with doctor visits and elders advices I gave up and now on a normal diet.
I am brown, 63 inch, 36 kg, 30-22-31 figure, 25 underbust (26D or 30AA depending on how bras size calculated), 16 shoulder, got thigh gaps, ribs dont show unless I bend too hard. My clavicles are very prominent but the other bones don't pike much. I just have a tiny frame, and I've neen like this most of my life. I won't go under the knife for cosmetic reason because men would call me fake anyways.
I've been celibate this far but now I want to try the dating scene. Dont talk about personality I know, but I've been so insecure from the bullies I got on my size, I want to be cherished for once for my body, the external validation. I want someone who has exactly the same criteria on physical appearance as my body.
I dont want to seek more heartbreak by fvck around and find out when I'm already so insecure, will checking out the dating scene will be worth it at all?
I want to be loved for all I have to offer, or none at all. Do I have hope? Give me brutally honest opinions, I accepted I'm fvcked up by fast metabolism amd gene so you sayimg anything won't offend be.
If you like my stature (assume personality matched too), please mention your race and country of residence so I could see a pattern
Girls, please write your insights too if you are similar to me and found your man who loves you to the moon and back.

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to add : yes otherwise I'm healthy, I barely get sick, I can climb up stairs 7 flights breaking minimal sweat, I struggle carrying heavy stuff tho but I see similar inability from my other average built female friends too. And I'm sometimes a bit cold true but hot weather bothers me less.

[Anonymous]

you're not fucked you have the same problem i had in high school. you have to count calories in the beginning to putting weight on eat more over eat but don't throw up you have to keep the food down. load up on carbs breads pasta rice sugar stuff. get creatine it'll help with the bulking process. consume 2000-4000 calories a day it'll be hard at first but you'll get used to it

[Opinion Owner]

also peanut butter helps with bulking up.

[Opinion Owner]

also to have you seen a doctor to get tested for hyperthyroidism? there are medications that can help slow down your metabolism. ask your pcp to give you a referral to a specialist

[Asker]

I did a few times, thyroid normal, adrenal normal, drew out blood for some more lab work i dont remember well. We have different cuisine here which is rice based, my daily diet was full of milk, eggs, fish daily and poultry beef or liver every 2nd or 3rd day, religiously eating seasonal fruits and big bananas daily, had to take up a lot of veggies with rice too for fibers. Snacked every now and then. Ate more than dietitian recommended because my parents thought it would be a good idea. I was always full and if I barfed I'd have gag reflex.

I was nauseated and bloated all the time from the overeating. I ended up fearing food at some point i was miserable, i was given appetite enhancer by elderly advices (which I later found out included steroid that could potentially damage my organs, stopped that after a few months use). I was gaining weight but not in proportion to my height, I was growing taller but not as much gain on weight. I had 24 inch waist at 12y/o that only grew smaller as I was growing tall

I was fed up after years, I went back to normal diet like everyone else in the family, weight shed quite fast and is halted with 1 kilo fluctuation. I still have some trauma around food but that's it, I'm not subjecting myself to that torture if I'm not dying. I'm not gaining weight but I'm not losing weight either.
It's so sad that either i could attempt at looking healthy by eating myself to death, or keep looking like a cartoon but feel at peace in the stomach

regarding workout, I didn't workout much when i was overeating, walked up 3 story stairs twice, walked home to and from school that's it. I loved being at school because that's the longest I could stay without eating, 5 hrs, i wouldn't overeat, just enough during recess/tiffin time otherwise last period classes would be miserable for me.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah because your diet sucked it wasn't properly balanced. go back and reread what you just told me and see if anything on that list had bread pasta sugar based stuff that's how you gain weight. protein is used to help you lose weight or maintain it not to gain weight. carbs make you gain weight which you were eating very little of. whoever gave you that diet had their heads up their ass. not once did you mention peanut butter or ice cream which also helps you gain weight. look find a new dietician and nutrionist and if they don't at any time mention the stuff i did walk out and leave and find somebody else

[Opinion Owner]

you were bloated and nauseated because of the milk and fish and eggs that's all shell based and fish based and dairy based stuff you were consuming which would cause the bloating and nausea. diary causes bloating. ice cream is dairy but it helps you gain weight unlike the crap you were consuming which was counter productive to what you were trying to establish

[Opinion Owner]

your diet sucked that's why you were struggling because you were doing it wrong. bulk up on carbs and in one month you'll notice a difference i promise. pasta bread pizza dough rice sugar based stuff creatine peanut butter even ice cream.

[Opinion Owner]

meats beef poltry fish are protein to lose weight or help you maintain a certain weight. carbs like pasta bread rice help you gain weight and bulk up. dairy puts body fat on which you don't want. cheese milk puts body fat on which you don't want. you want weight not fat.

[Asker]

rice in south Asian cuisine is a lot of carbs, not served in a little bowl with some sides, but in large plate full of it. i wasn't eating less of carbs, i went overboard with it, even by south Asian standard. diet full of meat fish poultry doesn't mean that's all there is, those are served as side dish to rice, the sides i took in increased amount as well. i should have been clearer with that as it's ingrained in my head that the rice goes without saying haha.
i snacked often, that did include energy drinks and ice creams, also mixed nuts and dates, stir fried noodles, kheer (made with sugar/molass, milk, rice) different days different snacks.

no i didn't eat peanut butter, those are imported products and would go way beyond affordability, it's not part of the cuisine hence the high price with import cost and taxes. the specific dishes you mentioned sound like European cuisine, south Asian cuisine is deemed unhealthy because its so much more carbs than other cuisines, and i went overboard with it, let that sink in.

milk daily didn't put enough fat in me, which it should have , but yeah it sure did make me bloated and give acnes. i actually wanted some fat at least, that would at least increase some surface area. full milk, butter, ghee, curd (sweet or sour) were more common here, cheese not so much.

my diet was more than enough to make anybody obese, i was eating more than recommended, the weight gain was barely enough to keep putting up with this shit, so i stopped.
and I shed about 5 kilos after coming back to normal diet in 2 months, but then slightly gained some weight with height. now it sits there.

i already checked out your suggestion, the result wasn't worth the misery.

getting dietary advice wasn't my intention but thanks for trying to help.

[serious]

I don't really find skinny women appealing but yes lean and toned physique in a woman is what is appealing to me.

[Jessica405]

You sound fine. Slightly taller than me. Not quite so heavy. I have skinny legs and a wide thigh gap. Flat chested.

Been with my guy 6 1/2 years.

[Jessica405]

Thank you for MHG!

[Guy13]

Emaciated is too skinny.

[Jamie05rhs]

"I've been celibate [thus] far but now I want to try the dating scene."
Who says you have to stop being celibate just because you're dating?

[Asker]

I want to stop being celibate and start sexual relationships

[Jamie05rhs]

Lmao. Okay. Good luck with that.

[billmunch]

I accept any body type if her personality is awesome. However, given the choice, I prefer lean and flat chested.

[talka20]

Im thin/skinny brown guy... id like to discuss in dms bout it if thats okay

[Asker]

I bared my heart and insecurities here, along with body measurements lol I'd feel very uncomfortable if all these could be linked back to my real identity.

please share your insights here

[Anonymous]

She needs to be skinny enough that when she turns sideways she seems to disappear. You know Keira knightly? Like her, but not so fat.

[Asker]

thanks for the vote of confidence. keira is lovely, wish I could radiate even a fraction of her confidence

but anyways I would love some external validation for once😂

[driven159]

There is a person for everyone they just need to gross paths

[Asker]

i grew a thick skin not gonna lie but it so seems the person for me is rarest of the rarests ☹️ definitely it wouldn't be men in my area as they all prefer thick
it doesn't hurt me but surely the insult isn't comforting either, which is why i'm so hesitant to unknowingly trying to find a needle in the haystack.

[gangs_and_guns]

U are 36 kg really?

[Asker]

yeah, it stays there, 1kg fluctuation depending on stress level in academics of life

[Asker]

typo *or

[gangs_and_guns]

Too skinny for height. Have u ever seen doctor?

[Asker]

yes, there were all sort of tests I dont remember all came out normal, tried a recommended diet several times didn't work beyond gaining a kilo, increased calorie intake on our own didn't work, ate to the point I felt nauseated, after few years being like this visited the doctor for the last time he counselled as long as I'm not losing weight I should be fine. family considered to put me appetite increasing med, tried it but as soon as I realized they contained steroids I stopped, I was miserable the whole time and the steroids only made me feel worse. started a normal diet from then on and I've never felt healthier

[In_Trance]

can't tell: everyone carries weight differently