If a guy takes longer to get back after the first date and you don't want to force the conversation, how do you end it without ghosting?

[Anonymous]

He seems like a really good and nice guy which I really liked as a person even if there was no spark.

[Rosexøxø]

Be honest………………..:../:::::::::////:::::::::::::::

literally just SAY

“heyyy, I think you’re a great guy, but for me personally, I just wasn’t a fan of the slow reply. Or the timing for the reply, really. Since that was just a bit of my pet peeve, I hope you understand it if we just go our separate equal ways. Wish you the best on your continued search for love/sex/ companionship/ etc.

Now, by the looks of this question.. you’re lying and just don’t like him

and I’m hoping it would be because you felt he wasn’t into you or he wasn’t your type. Just be honest, though.

[Rosexøxø]

I just read the spark part now.

Just be honest.

Even if it’s not emotional honesty.
Keep it respectful Professionalism.

Both are synonymous, but remain essential

[Anonymous]

Call him out. He’s not a good nice guy if he’s doing this. He’s being dishonest and ghosting you softly - little by little. Stopped making an effort and started breadcrumbing. Tell him hey, you don’t seem interested anymore and if you are I’m not interested anyway because I’m looking for someone who doesn’t stop making an effort after the first dates and gives more than the bare minimal. Have a nice life byee

[Rosexøxø]

GIRL YOU ARE MY SPIRITS ANIMAL AND MY IDOL lol

Hold up ✋ as I make a statue in your honor

[Guy13]

You hold tight and see if he misses you in about three days. We need some time to review what happened. Chill out until Tuesday.

[Rosexøxø]

Tell that to a boss

or a partner, in a fast paced and detrimental job like, rescue.

“Yeah I’m 3 days.”

“Chill out”

“I JUST DON’T KNOW.”

lol I read somewhere people know things about people in the first few seconds of meeting.

they’d know by the end of the date if they wanted a ou la la Second date- that’s how they’d *get•to•know* each other.

If they didn’t want a second date they call it off.

Communication.

Saves time. 🤜🤛

[Guy13]

@Rosexøxø Whatever as I have a 3 strike rule and the rest of you guys can hop around on some emotion bitching about never finding anyone because you did not feel it in first ten minutes. One knows nothing about another and people expects fireworks are the unreasonable ones that no guy wants to date but will F- them raw... friends with benefits...

[Rosexøxø]

Dude- seriously- I think you can tell if a person isn’t worth a second date- 👐

You don’t need a 3 day zone period “money back guarantee” to think about it.

Seems like indecision and or leading her on.

Be mature.

No one said anything about judging if you want to MARRY them on your first date or be best friends with them- you’re just deciding if they’re compatible for a second date or it just wouldn’t work out.

People don’t know what they want in life sometimes I do swear lol

[Guy13]

@Rosexøxø Maybe, but I do not think so. You think he is and I still think he could not be. Talk to me after three dates etc...

[Rosexøxø]

Lol that was vague. You addressed nothing in that comment except for the talk to either you or him after three dates and I don't know who would talk to you or him, her or some other girl.

What a confusing mess.

You’re free to your opinion. I felt the need to show her she doesn’t have to wait around for guys after a year… or so just so you know, he can really think if it’s worth it

Because theory and action are TOTALLY the same lol

[Rosexøxø]

Read the sarcasm people^*

[OlderAndWiser]

You felt no spark or you suspect he felt no spark?

[lucasnabizada]

If there is no spark and you want to end it what is the point of him getting back to you... I'm sorta confused by your question- I guess if he ever comes back to texting feign being busy and not having time rn and he'll get the hint

[Pyrofox]

I'd just take a selfie and "say catch chu later ~" And just see if that breaks the dam of silence

[MzAsh]

Match his effort. If he’s saying nothing, you say nothing. If it’s been more than a few days, move on to someone else.

[Rosexøxø]

No, don’t match effort. That’s back tracking a persons self by suppression.

Give some effort that you normally would, if not reciprocated- ditch them.

How do we expect to find compatible people, if we’re constantly matching other people and their baggage/ phases of life/ and their own lack of interest in us?

That’s gotta be really tough to just go along with.

[MzAsh]

I get what you mean. The issue I see a lot of times is that a lot of women are giving way too much effort right out of the gate.

[Rosexøxø]

And that’s exactly right, but why give a little more when he supposedly gives a little more, when in 5 years while she’s waiting for more at the lover level or reciprocal level, he never goes beyond coffee dates and fucking her back out lol

If they don’t give efforts like they want something, then I just pass on. I don’t fool around with baby boys anymore lol

[desidoll]

I believe if he is really interested, he gotta put effort reaching you which he didn’t. You are not ghosting if you stop talking to him. It is mutual since both of you didn’t initiate at all.

[In_Trance]

If there was no spark, what are you even doing? This is a waste of time for... what? to validate each other as "good people"

Wish each other well and move on.

[Anemone978]

Just say I really like you as a friend, how you been? lol

[Dieudonné842]

Just write "well, I guess you weren't interested after all" and he'll reply fast. He'll try to tell you he is.

[Dieudonné842]

Did he reply? See I told you.

[es20490446e]

Just simulate how you talk in real life.

[Rosexøxø]

Good advice, and I’m being totally honest. 💯

[Anonymous]

Lol just go out with another guy 😂

[Rosexøxø]

Amen amen sis 😂

[italianduce]

don't be sad big mom. what's upsetting you

[Rosexøxø]

..<,🤨.>

[Anonymous]

Move on. You should never chase any man.