Is it a good, bad or neutral idea to have a first date on Valentine’s Day?

[UmbrusNightshade]

I am interested in this woman at my church. Every single person I know says I need to ask her out. I was going to do that today but she wasn’t at church.

Due to our jobs, I never really see her anywhere outside of church. If she’s there next week I am wanting to ask her out but since it’s the week of Valentine’s would it be a bad idea to ask her for that week? If not, should I ignore Valentine’s or not? I was thinking of asking her to go bowling if it was on Valentine’s Day.

[Justneedtokno]

It’s very sweet it just seems like a lot of expectations to

[UmbrusNightshade]

So would it be better to wait for the next week to ask her out or just make it for another day that week?

I only want to get to know her and see if things go anywhere with no expectations on my part. I am not very experienced with dating and want to take it slow when I start seeing someone.

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah for yourself you can do it on a different day. Valentine’s Day is just a lot of pressure. To get things right and you want things to go well and it’s that day versus just a regular Saturday and casually meeting someone but it’s a first date

[UmbrusNightshade]

Thanks for the input. I just wasn’t sure if it would be expected to do something for Valentine’s or not. I really like her and don’t want to start off on the wrong foot.

[Justneedtokno]

Like I said, it’s sweet and romantic. You do it if you want to just also know that Valentines can be a big day sometimes for people.

[UmbrusNightshade]

I am a romantic at heart but I think it’s better to hold off and try for another day.

I don’t want to come on too strong and if she expects something on Valentine’s Day as our first date, that may be a red flag.

I tend to have trouble showing a balanced degree of interest in women, either being too “friendly” or coming on too strong. This one I am strongly attracted to her character over her looks (which is saying something because she’s gorgeous) and I don’t want to scare her off by being too intense up front.

If it works out I’ll have the chance to be romantic later on.

[Twalli]

There's a risk because if the date is pretty bad you just wasted Valentine's Day.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't like it.