Valentine's Day as a first date can come with its own set of pros and cons, and whether it's a bad idea depends largely on the individuals involved and their expectations. Here's a breakdown to help you consider:
Pros:
Romantic Atmosphere: Valentine's Day naturally creates a romantic setting. Restaurants and public spaces are often decorated beautifully, which can add a special touch to your first date.
Clear Intentions: Choosing Valentine's Day for a first date signals clear romantic interest, which can help both parties understand that their intentions are aligned towards exploring a potential romantic relationship.
Memorable Date: Starting on a day dedicated to love and relationships can set a positive tone.
Cons:
High Expectations: Valentine's Day comes with societal and commercial hype that can set very high expectations for the date.
Over-commercialization: The day is heavily commercialized, which can lead to an emphasis on spending and grand gestures rather than genuine connection and getting to know each other.
Availability Issues: Restaurants and venues can be overcrowded, and securing reservations can be difficult.
Potential Awkwardness: If one or both of you don't usually celebrate Valentine's Day, choosing it for a first date might feel forced or create awkwardness, especially if there's a mismatch in expectations about the significance of the day.
Tips for a Valentine's Day First Date:
Communicate Clearly: Make sure you're both on the same page about the date and what it signifies to avoid any misunderstandings.
Keep It Simple: Consider a low-key date to avoid the pressure of high expectations. A simple coffee date or a walk in the park might be less stressful.
Be Honest: If you're feeling unsure about Valentine's Day for a first date, it's okay to express that and suggest an alternative day that's less charged with expectations.
If you both are excited and comfortable with the idea, Valentine's Day could be a memorable and romantic start. However, if there's any hesitation, it might be worth considering another day to ensure both parties feel relaxed and pressure-free.
I don't think it's a bad idea as long as the people have been talking for a while/building anticipation and really seem to 'click' before meeting.
I say this bc I wouldn't want to meet a stranger and not get along and essentially ruin my Valentine's day :3
In your case, why don't you guys go out the weekend after vday? I say this bc I dunno if you guys are friends, co-workers, etc
Depends how well you know the potential asker, if the conversation will flow and be natural and there's already a level of, even minimal, friendship or mutual interest it could work. If a date happens, keep it causal. Go for coffee in the afternoon or something low key. It's an intense first date otherwise with too many expectations, possibly on both sides.
I have a lot of friends who work as servers and they say most Valentine's dates look obligatory, awkward and forced. Places get pretty booked up. Busy restaurants full of miserable people aren't my thing, but the notion is romantic. Maybe if you were just doing takeout or something so that you could be alone together?
There's no reason to not go for a first date on Valentine's day.
There's also no reason you can't ask him on that date.
You have equal opportunity, use it.
It actually annoys me that most women still expect guys to do all these things first, yet claim equality. Men like to be approached, complimented, flattered, flirted with, bought presents, and asked out.
It takes two people to have a relationship, two people working on that relationship, putting effort into it. You can take that first step! Welcome to how guys have felt asking out crushes since history began!
So you like the guy and you said no. Then you are hoping he will ask you out on Valentine’s Day a day which most men actually do hate? Whew. I think you were lucky for asking you several days before. Some of you women live in delusion. The way you do things is backwards. Chances are he might be doing something else now. However, I think you blew it and since you like the guy you blew it times 2. Sorry don’t mean to sound mean but you are forgetting that Valentine’s Day is a woman holiday and men hate it.
Like I've said before, i was eating my lunch when he asked me. 😧
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u I have done Valentine's Day as a first date. The trick is to make it special without acting like you are with the one and only love of your life. Tell him that he cannot send or bring flowers or a gift; you just want it to be like a first date on any other day of the year.
Be on guard that your feelings about Valentine's Day and wanting to be with someone do not cloud your judgment of him. Don't develop Valentine's Day Crush!
Valentine's Day comes with a ton of expectations. It's like the Olympics of dating – everyone's watching (or it feels like it), and there's this pressure to perform well. The day is loaded with romantic connotations, which can be a lot for two people just getting to know each other. Imagine sitting there, surrounded by couples who are all lovey-dovey, and you're just trying to figure out if you like this person's laugh. It can feel a bit much, right?
But on the flip side, Valentine's Day can be a fantastic icebreaker. Plus, if you're both on the same page about keeping things light and fun, it could take off some of that pressure. And let's be honest, the effort of planning a date on such a day shows a level of commitment and interest that might be flattering.
If you both agree it's just about getting to know each other and not putting too much stock in the "Valentine's Day" aspect, it could be a great story to tell later on. Choose a low-pressure setting, maybe something quirky or fun that doesn't scream "romance" but says "I'm glad to be spending time with you." Think outside the box – a casual meet-up at a coffee shop with a twist, like attending a fun workshop together or exploring a local winter market, could be perfect.
So, is Valentine's Day a bad idea for a first date? Not necessarily. It's all about how you frame it. If you can both laugh at the absurdity of having your first date on the most romantic day of the year, you're already off to a good start. And who knows? Just remember, the goal is to get to know each other, not to live up to the hype of Valentine's Day.
Valentines day is a lot of pressure for a first date. I wouldn't recommend it. However, you could give him clues that you don't have plans yet. Make suggestions like it would be nice to have dinner with a decent guy. Tell him he should ask out a nice girl and shw will probably say yes.
Like the idea :) thanks
I’d hold off til after cuz I feel like going on a first date or hang out with someone you like on Valentines Day just seems desperate like “oh I just want to have a boyfriend.” One of the reasons why I am holding off talking (or trying) to this guy I matched on Tinder and am lowkey trying to get to know etc cuz I don’t want him thinking I want to just be in a relationship with him out of loneliness or whatever. Plus it’s on a Wednesday this year anyway. Like go over the weekend.
No big deal either way. If it doesn't work out, just laugh about it and go on with your life. The only advice I have is don't plan a first date that will require you to spend hours together. Dinner is about the most you should do for a first date. If it goes well you can figure out something to do after dinner. Good luck!
He asked you to a valentines date? Or are you assuming that he might ask you ALSO why decline if he offered you something to eat? He’s showing that he cares & you declining might make him second guess if you wanna go on a valentines date - like would if he wanted to ask you on valentines and you say no
I was eating my lunch when he asked me and im hoping that he is considering asking me
You are right though. But i didn't want to say yes while eating haha
Yes. Besides being cliche, its overly expensive for the same stuff you would get any other day. Not to mention the lines are too long and crowds too big to give for an intimate setting. Why not a picnic in a park or something if there must be a date on 2/14.
Hell yes it's a bad idea. Unless you trying to fuck on the first date, vday has an expectation of sex at the end of the night. It is what it is. And if you dont put out, he will probably think he fucked up or isn't attractive for you. It's best to wait for the day after once cupid is gone.
Bad idea because if you get into a deep relationship & it ends badly, you will be reminded if it every Valentines day for years. Best not to pic holiday type days for first meeting in my opinion.
You already said no to him, so his ego has already been dropped a bunch. You may have to make the move as to going out with him. Plus valentines day isn't a bad first date, it's just another day in the year!
Honestly no, it's a great idea! You could get to know him and there would be a romantic mood set in as well.
Valentines day probably isn't the best day for a first date. I wouldn't do it. Why did you turn him down when he asked you out for lunch? If that was me I'd take that as a rejection and I probably wouldn't ask again since I would think she isn't into me.
It is a high pressure date being Valentine's day, and would be more so for a first date. If he offers I wouldn't turn it down tho just do not suggest it.
I think it could be amazing :) Not too romantized though for me, like a cool, relaxed first date where you can enjoy the day without feeling obligated to the traditions. And maybe bond by making fun of the old routined couples, and the young, unexperience overly-so-in-love ones ;)
If you're single, Valentine's Day is just another day. If you're not single Valentine's today is obviously a day to go somewhere nice to eat and do something romantic with your special someone. But doing something romantic and being with your special someone should make everyday Valentine's Day. I mean I understand not everyone has money to go eat at a really expensive restaurant every night but, you know what I mean.
Nope. It's awesome bc then you'll always remember the date when you started dating. Sweet
This dude and I were like we should do something this week and he very smoothly planned it on valentines day. I didn't even notice. As a european, this day holds zeto significance for me so it doesn't matter to me.
If you want a Valentine's Date You have to ask him. the ball is on your side when you did do that no matter what you was doing or if you are a female if you want something to happen between you two!
You could avoid it, and chose another day, but what's the point. It could end up being the start of the most amazing love story ever. Dont sweat it. Go with the flow, be you, and regardless of the day if its meant to be, it will be.
I think so. It puts too much pressure on it. It would be different if you had gone out on a few dates already. But for a first date it's too intense, even if you don't take V-day so seriously.
Yes. I think Valentine's day is something for already established relationships. Not something where you show love for someone you don't necessarily have any involvement with yet. People just starting to date should avoid that week like the plague.
Unless you're planning on going somewhere cheap, it's gonna suck. You'll be waiting way longer for food at any decent sit down restaurant.
My brother and his girl started on Valentine's day 11 years ago. They are still together. :)
Pros
- Romantic idea
Cons
- Too many expectations and likelihood of those expectations not being met
- Cliche
- Everything is overpriced
- Busy time of the year
- Everyone who is unoriginal will also be taking the girl out on that day
Yes its sets even highr expectations if ur a man n dont want to spend too much on a stranger dont do do it
We're not strangers at all lol and you are right
it's a terrible day and idea to go on a first date, especially for this year since it's on a day where I have to be at work
It’s a GREAT idea!! How romantic! And memorable!! You’ll never forget the date of your first date together!
I'm not sure personally I think it's a good time of year, I'm asking my crush out tomorrow for valentines day. 🙂
Give him some hint for it... you have magical powers.. do spell them on him... and it's never late or odd when you like someone.. go for it😊😊
Yes, too much pressure. In fact try to avoid that whole week for a first date.
Did you decline having lunch with him, or him to get you something for lunch? Anyways, if he would go for it. Why not? Just don't push it.
I declined him getting me something. Already had my lunch in front of me at that moment.
I recommend simple but obvious flirting. Graze of the arm, an extra huggy hug, or just flat out tell him you like him. Beat him too the punch.
Nope as long as it feels right. Its just another day
Is just a day of the year... Just don't rush it, take your time, cuz when you rush it and it doesn't work in the future then you start making a correlation between that day and failure or something...
Just be normal and be yourself.. the more you think the more nervous you will be.. keep it simple.. smile and go ahead with him :)
You already declined his offer... he rightfully is thinking twice about asking you again. If you want to date him, you should ask him out this time.
To be fair, i was eating when he asked me 😕
I get it, but there were better ways of getting that across. Also you could've just taken your food along with him or he get something and join you.
Only if you liked him, i mean, wish im assuming you do since you want a date from him.
No worries, just ask him out now. You've kinda probably crushed a good chance of him asking out again, but who knows~ I'd say just you go for it and he'll be delighted
The situation was not so open to me being able to do that. But ill work on doing something tomorrow i suppose. Dont want to throw myself out at him.
No need to throw yourself at him, just casually offer him something; coffee, lunch, anything
Yea lol it's a pretty bad idea. It comes across as way too desperate for love tbh
If you really like the guy yeah why not? if it's a tinder date I say skip it...
You literally couldn't of picked a better day, other than the day of love
Being cheap I could careless I’m not saying got spend million euros 💶 but just to buy me things just to shut me up.
Well, if it works than how cool, and romantic. Easy way for the guy to remember also. That being said it seems almost Cliché. One dates as good as any in my book, but if you superstitious look into numerology. There's some free websites where you can plug your numbers. They might be able to help with this; it's crazy how accurate those things are about one's character.
Yea i would never go on first date on any holiday But i would go to the clubs and bring a women home
It's not a bad idea, it shows romance as well as how the guy acts toward you
Not going on a date is worse now u choose whats better
Ooo, declining The first one may have expressed you weren’t interested... maybe ask him out?
That is sooo awkward I would be never encourage that lol
Never, the fact it's on v-day shouldn't matter much.
It's probably a bad idea & a bit cliche. if you already shoot him down for valentines day but now you're interested he might think you're desperate.
I personally wouldn't make it a first date unless I knew it was going to be very promising.
No Valentines Day makes a great first date to go on.
I suppose you can and no one needs to feel pressure to bring a gift, if you want him to ask then just be receptive and flirt a little or say in a joking matter and ask who he is taking out on Valentine’s Day
its not a bad idea, dating someone bad on valentines day, is a bad idea
Why would he approach you? You already shot him down...
If you treat it like a date, you should be good. Lmfao just don't make it look like you're married
Not at all except him to go over the top and extra romantic
Hell yes it's a bad idea.
I don't know, I don't do Valentine's Day.
It's outdated. It's not for everyone.
Not necessarily, it’s just a day, like every other day of the year.
Go for it start your relationship off with a big bang
it’s cheesy and a lot of pressure but hey do what you think is best
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