Like say you cancel a date, and he doesn't try to chase you after that, or you don't return his texts, and he stops trying to text you. Or, he's really quiet during the date, and looks unimpressed by you. Does that make you feel insecure and make you try to have sex with him to try and prove yourself to him that you're a caring individual and not a bad, distant person?
Definitely not. More than anything I feel like having sex with a guy out of “guilt” is really just fear of losing him or fear of him perceiving you a certain way. Like the women who rarely speak their minds or share their feelings with a guy when something goes wrong — they don’t wanna scare him off or make him think she’s anything other than a chill girl. Once those women value themselves just as much as they value a guys presence in their lives, then they can act accordingly without fear of the outcome. They’d also recognize that the right guy (or at least a dude who isn’t just after sex) won’t drop her the first time she’s unavailable for something or has to cancel a date.
I have sex out of guilt a lot of the time. I don't know. I think it's fair to give something back if he paid for my dinner and drinks. And if he feels like I dragged him on, I'll give him a blowjob at least
You shouldn't sleep with someone out of guilt but also you shouldn't play games like hard to get. If you want to date someone and be in a relationship do that. If you don't want something serious then don't look for that.
But why play games it honestly makes it more difficult to actually try to find someone tomdate as if you play games then, it suggests you would do so in a relationship.
Guilt isn’t something that can be made to happen by others. Guilt is a feeling. You do it to yourself, exclusively. You can prove this point to yourself quite easily. Try with all of your might to make someone else feel guilty about doing something good. It can’t be done because the root of guilt is shame. If you don’t do anything shameful, you never have anything from which guilt can grow.
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Seriously what sort of a dimbo has sex with someone for these reasons?
It doesn't indicate that she's a "caring person" - she could indicate that by offering to pay for the date as an apology for her actions.
Sleeping with him for such reasons merely indicates she likes to play games but is also easy, cheap, etc. and probably to 98.5% of guys NOT WORTH dating again.
I don't know when I was younger with my ex I felt I owed him.. because of the many things he did and paid...
Now days I don't care because I have my own money to spend and if a guy treats me that is his choice and I don't owe him for it...
No, I don't do the guilt thing.
I only have sex with the one I am really really into.
I don't like to play games. not even in my 20s. not worthy of my time
I don't have sex. I'm not obligated to have sex if I'm married nor am I a slut like all women that are quick to engage in sex.
I have never made a girl I've dated feel guilty to have sex. They all had sex with me because they wanted too. Plus I got them horny by massages...😉
I’ve never entertained people’s interest in me enough to feel guilty…
no, I have sex with a new guy because I was turned on,
No, my decision to wait until marriage is firm.
I never guilt anyone into sex. It is just not fun for me. I always want her to have sex because she wants to, not because she feels guilty.
Women would have to be capable of feeling guilty for me to believe this fairy tale.
No, I don't have sex out of guilt
That sounds horrible. That's like violating yourself.
I’ve done that in the past.
Next question please! smh
I don't play around, so no.
No but I definitely need a tutor
HELL NO
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