I'm not interested in hooking up, so what's the point of dating for me However, long-term relationships are of interest to me?

[TheSimFans]

What is the point of dating if it doesn't guarantee luck, but you have to be very attractive or good looking to get better results with dating. I am on good looking and has not very good experience both men & women with men previous relationship some previous ex boyfriend did cheater and other some ex boyfriend changed into a toxic person i didn't intend him to change but he did anyway and i was one that has broken up with some of previous relationship part from 2 but there college not serious. Also friend being friends with some girls did only use me to get closer to my previous boyfriend to temp them to cheat and i always girls friends always left me and found some else until i got a boyfriend then they right back to me but i didn't want them to be my friends at all and will keep refusing them and one did try to force a friendship with me and even know they are no good girls just mean girls. Here are some of my experiences with men and some girls. When I'm not interested in hooking up with strangers or having sex with them, I don't see the point. After trying Therapy multiple times, it hasn't resolved any of my questions as to why I want to have a boyfriend only when I'm single.

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I didn't want any therapist in my question details and i would like you not to mention that you haven't found the right therapist The excuse is just to be lazy. . please have a helpful advice opinion i still don't understand why I am always looking for a boyfriend when i'm single. All in my question, please reread.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you have just had some bad luck in finding a guy. I know guys in your age group tend to be looking for hook-ups as they don't want to be held down to one place. Work/their career could take them anywhere, so they tend not to want to be in a relationship, and pardon the expression, anchored to any one location.

So you have a couple of choices:

Option 1) Keep dating and hopefully you find a guy close to your age that wants a relationship. It is the proverbial needle in a haystack and it could take a while before you find someone.

Option 2) Stop dating and perhaps you find the guy by luck someday.

Either way, it could be awhile before you meet someone. I know dating takes a lot of effort and patience, and if you're not into that, then I suggest taking a break and see if you meet a guy along the way, in your endeavors.

[TheSimFans]

that is going to be bit of promblem of trying to meetup with a guy that not already has a girlfriend that happen bit a few times on youth club and found underage men that im never going to be intersted. have try groups, sociel events and yep even common intersted. also well of online dating. Facebook dating has be more successful then other disabled dating sites that i got tons of very older looking guys that are pass 50+ 70 80 . these guys are outside my age. even guys 30 are not ready to have a long term relationship. i got a learning disability and met some men that are bit immature through online dating. so far i'm not found guys near my age that want anything do with long term relationship. can find bit older men.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would not bother with the whole dating thing for now and focus on you, as I said, you may get lucky and meet someone in your travels. Leave it up to fate for now.

[TheSimFans]

why don't bother. i got nothing to do. has be very boring so far being single.

[OfMiceandMen]

Ya, but if your not having any luck trying to find someone, then leaving it to fate can sometimes make it happen quicker. Meaning, if trying to find someone hasn't work for you, you stop trying - fate kicks in and you meet someone.

[TheSimFans]

Waiting for someone hasn't even work for me very well.

[Orion76]

The right guy will come around when he comes around you probably even know the person or knew him or someone you never met. but believe me when you meet the right person you will want to date and be intimate with him it just happens and happens like that so stop worrying about you want a long term relationship but don’t want to date that is absolutely normal and healthy everybody should have this attitude at least those who are looking for long term and leave the dating game to the players.


Enjoy being single nothing wrong with that why would you need one of those things anyway? A boyfriend, they are not husbands they risk nothing and want everything free loaders entitled for sex and manhood validation with a few exceptions of course but from what I see and hear these days that’s the majority. Good luck to you

[TheSimFans]

I hate being single so far and has very boring.

[Orion76]

Don’t make the mistake to be in a relationship because you are bored think of the times you were in the middle of it and you wished you were alone

[Orion76]

Use the down time to better yourself learn something new, a hobby or pick up an instrument go back to things you wanted to do but never had the time now it’s time the more you learn the more interesting you become and you roll come to appreciate alone time, it can be very inspiring on many levels

[TheSimFans]

Done these things already. None I'm not interested in. Only thing that I'm interested in is gaming but that is not going to bring a man with me since not be doing nothing. I dislike being single and already have a very boring.

[TheSimFans]

Life.

[Orion76]

I don’t ever feel like gaming anymore because we used to play together but we broke up and I’ve been single going on 3 years so I know exactly what you mean plus the Pain since I was truly in love with her so I keep myself busy. Wish you the best of luck.

[Orion76]

Thank you for mho

[boggboss]

Well u can't get a longterm relationship without dating no?

[TheSimFans]

i know that can't get without dating but i can't even find a men that is wanting to have a relationship that is long term.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Dating is to figure out if you want a long term relationship with the guy in the first place.