Is there a reason why online dating works for some people but not others that are interested in a long-term relationship?

[Usersarepoo]

Online dating has worked for some people that got into relationships from online dating but for some reason it hasn't worked for me when it comes to online dating. It didn't give me what I want from a long term relationship. I got were weak lame ass men and men that just got broken up with or have a death in their family. Online dating is only good for meeting new people but nothing long-term for me. Hasn't had a good experience with online dating and met up with a player from online dating. I had bad experience with previous relationships throughout college and have been cheated on more than once. I been going to more social events in RL and i have seen some guys only as just friends since i wasn't attracted to some men that i have met and did took me awhile to might be attracted to one men that last time i went to an adult gaming event in different town but did mess a bit with trying to say hello and ended up just smiling at that one guy. From my own experience for real life events and from online dating.

[HighValue]

When looking online, there are many more people than in real life. Dating IS a competition, which means you are competing with others on there. Make a fake profile as a man and look at the other women on the same site, located in the same area as you to see your competition. Then compare yourself to what else is available and see what your chances realistically are.

Many women think they are the top, most desirable person around, when most of the time there are many more that are more appealing for the quality of men they want. It is true that 80% of women want the top 20% of men, which means every man you want has many other options that you are competing with. If you are attracted to very few people, consider that you are probably part of that 80% wanting the top 20%. It will be difficult. Plus now in the USA (if that is where you are from) there are 100 women for every 90 men, which means about 10% of women will NEVER get to have a long term partner at all, regardless of quality.

Go for someone around your own quality, don't go for people that are unrealistic. Also, try paid dating online. The free stuff will be full of scammers, and people that aren't serious.

[Usersarepoo]

Not from USA from stupid UK is just same men there that are very loud men n my town and women like 10% men and I prefer men near my height or bit shorter and I hate tall men.

[coachTanthony]

Online dating takes patience and a lot of luck. Online dating just like anything else should just be a tool in your dating tool belt... shouldn't be the end all be all of finding someone.

[Usersarepoo]

Online dating as tool isn't be very good. Can only meet men and that about it and nothing comes that tool for online dating.

[coachTanthony]

Just like any tool you have to know how to use it and not just swing the tool around and hope for the best. You have to vet men appropriately before meeting them. Use apps like Bumble and Match. Message in app, voice call then a video call before any meetup so you are super comfortable with the person.

[Usersarepoo]

Yep and still nothing come any good just go right back to start. Is hasn't work for me so far online dating is still shit tool to use to and bumble is just full sugar daddy and can't do match since has to be paid.

[coachTanthony]

That sucks that it hasn't worked for you. Worked for hundreds of my clients when following those directions.

[StarWarGirl]

I think it's all about luck. No matter what way you try to get a person to date or to have a relationship but still it's totally upon luck what to what kind person you would encounter or the kind of person you want to date would be single or not at the moment you are searching for your date or will he be at same place where you are looking or not.

[Usersarepoo]

I hasn't gotten luck in real life or from online dating. I might only be attracted to one man that I tried to say hello to but did mess up and ended up smiling at one guy. The event that I go to is adult gaming I only saw one guy that I might be attracted to.

[MzAsh]

Most dating apps are designed to keep you coming back. They hide your best matches behind a paywall and leave free users with the scraps.

[hahahmm]

"I got were weak lame ass men and men" -- This is the type of men feminist (male and female feminists) wanted to create by brainwashing young boys into thinking the world revolves around women. Also, most people don't go on dating sites looking for long term. They are simply looking for sex.

[Usersarepoo]

They were all tall then me and still were week ass men

[Usersarepoo]

Part from one but that person turn out be a player. Unattractive to me

[DannyUk2017]

Online "crap" ain't working... been there done that! Met online,8 years passed, made a house, bought a car, now she has all, and i live with rent! Now she tells people she's a "lady"...🤦‍♂️... so i just lost 8years out of my life just for her to get everything... and we "met online", never trust that shite anymore...

[worldscolide]

I mean besides the fact that the dating pool on online dating sites and apps are just the absolute worst possible bottom of the barrel choices. Its full of men who only want sex, and women who are twos who think they are tens and deserve tens, When they only deserve twos.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Definitely easier for good looking people but that’s not to say only good looking people can get dates.
Needles to say years ago like 20 years ago I tried and it was just to superficial for me to be successful. Not sure about today but I don’t think much has changed.

[Peridot25]

Maybe easier for attractive to get dates, but that doesn’t mean they’ll find someone worth having a real relationship with.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Totally agree

[CriticalCatDad123]

A man using a dating app will only get a date if the women accepts him. It doesn’t work the other way around. Which is why people often say dating apps don’t work.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes the reason is online dating is not the solution. Any stories of it “working” was because the people met irl and formed a connection after that. Get off the apps if you want to find a long term partner

[Usersarepoo]

I had tried both ways meeting person in real life and meeting men from online dating and most men online dating are shit or just gotten out of a relationship. Had one. Players from online dating and men to fake being single. I have met some men that I'm not attracted to in social events that I go to real life. Might be attracted to one guy from adult gaming that last time I went to. men can just as picky as women when men with a moderate learning disabilities.

[BarryLiverstone]

Right so stop the online apps and focus on in person networking.

[Usersarepoo]

Yep I been doing social events and so far I hadn't been attracted to some of men that I met. did you not read my details on girls ask guys

[BarryLiverstone]

I read it all. You asked about online apps.

Why were the men you met in person unattractive? Were they overweight or short or ugly?

[Usersarepoo]

Nope they were too taller then me I prefer men bit shorter or average height. I'm just 4'11 in height and so far tall men can just be creepy to.

[sheikalana]

Most people on dating apps are not looking for long-term relationships and the ones who are are probably not your type at all.

[Usersarepoo]

Yet it is similar to real life to. What should I do. I only seem to be attracted to one guy but it was the last time when I went to an adult gaming event that is in a different town.

[sheikalana]

I'd say don't lose your hope and keep looking for a potential partner.

[VV3ZZY123]

It's hard for me too. I think a lot of the profiles are fake. Just so it looks like there are more people using the app. Match. com actually hired someone to pretend to be a match so I wouldn't cancel the service.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Potentially it's all looks first, everything else later. Literally. 👀👀👀 I guess we can all be hollow or shallow 😋🙂

[JHAYES317]

It works for attractive people. It doesn’t work for unattractive people. Simple as that.

[Bobby88t]

Because you need luck to find the right person. I had no luck with girls too

[Xia1994]

It all depends on fate if you’re fated to find love on online relationships it will work for you if you’re not and you’re fated to find love offline then you won’t find it online.

[Xia1994]

On online platforms*

[Xia1994]

lol basically what I’m trying to say is it depends on your fate, some are fated to find love online others are fated to find love offline*

[Usersarepoo]

Is hasn't work for real life to or online dating to.

[Xia1994]

Then may be it’s not yet the time for you to find love dear, I know it’s hard but hang in there I hope you’ll find it if that’s what your heart desires 🫶 sometimes in love we just need to stay patient and wait for it you know.

[Usersarepoo]

Is never be my time.

[mandyfire98]

A broken clock is right twice a day