I need with with guys.. I’m 22 and clueless?

[blahblah1100]

ok so I’ve been clueless with men since I was in middle school! I once was told it was like a cat and mouse game and men like a chase! I don’t know how to do that.. I know I need to but it’s like I’m my head when a man says jump I need to say how high.. :( I don’t know how to stop doing this and how to play the chase. is it something that can be taught? can anyone give me advice? male or female please!! I don’t want to be this way forever!! I want to get a boyfriend one day and not just meaningless hookups. :(

[AnonGiraffe]

Know your value and have self esteem and confidence. Doing so will let you “play the chase” because it means he needs to prove his worth to you. Mind that you will need to demonstrate your worth to him to. It’s a two way street. Finally, don’t give sex away easily. It’s not that he needs to earn sex but your trust and respect. You should trust a guy 100% before doing it. To have sex is to be extremely vulnerable and intimate. Typically the man chases to get sex and then once they have it the woman chases for a relationship. AKA women should only have sex once they know they want a relationship with the guy.

[Guy13]

Discipline. Moment to moment conscious self-discipline to chill out.

[Molly1997]

No chasing , don’t play. Just join a dating site and pick a guy , I usually get 800+ messages. I’ve only had great experiences using POF

[HighValue]

People that play hard to get or try to make someone "chase" them are usually too immature for a lasting relationship. Being straight up/direct is much better for people looking for something serious.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No chase.

No riddles.

No confusing bullshit.

You like a guy? You tell him.

Be honest, blunt, and upfront.

Be kind and sweet to him and offer affection.

Be his best friend.

[OddBeMe]

Here’s your problem. Men are just as clueless and you all are orbiting each other afraid to make the first move.

[Lycirian]

I'm pretty sure that they are a lot of videos on YouTube how to act like a women in front of men.

[Paul_in_Indy]

Playing cat and mouse is exactly the way to get a bunch of casual hook-ups.

[AngryCarl2]

There's no big secret, just learn to filter out the players. If you see a guy you like, don't be afraid to go after him.

[jamez74]

You're a grown ass woman you want some cock take that mother fucker from him he ain't going to mind I promise you we get tired of chasing your pussy around it's actually a relief every once in awhile if a girl comes up and just demands her way but you always got to make him eat at first cuz that's the price he has to pay for you being forward LL. Lol

[blahblah1100]

I don’t want sex I want a relationship.

[Zandoval]

Well, have you been in hookups and ONS before?

[blahblah1100]

What is ONS?

[Zandoval]

One night stands

[blahblah1100]

Yes I have

[Zandoval]

Well then my definition, you are now lower in the long term relationship marketplace. Guys prefer a certain kind of girl for that. So no wonder.

[Brando10222]

Just go with the flow

[shortster]

Not all guys want to chase.

[riverrat3]

Ask me questions

[blahblah1100]

What do I need to do to change my situation? it goes good with guys for about 3 months but I never get out of the talking stage