It's a tale as old as time, new relationship (1 month) she's got all kinds of friends but there's one guy who she hangs with 1 on 1 and I'm not happy about it.
I trust her. And we have such a good thing that it would make no sense for her to search for something else.
But now she's hanging out at his place on a Saturday night and I just wanna rip him apart.
Mainly because I wanna spend time with her but if I say anything I might be the controlling boyfriend asking his girl to alter her plans to accommodate him.
So now I gotta sit idly by as she spends an evening with a guy at his place just to show I'm the bigger man.
And today some stranger bought her and her colleagues lunch and I told her how I don't like a stranger buying my girlfriend lunch and that turned her on.
So I'm torn, do I tell her I don't want her hanging with some dude on Saturday or do I say nothing?
I trust her. And we have such a good thing that it would make no sense for her to search for something else.
But now she's hanging out at his place on a Saturday night and I just wanna rip him apart.
Mainly because I wanna spend time with her but if I say anything I might be the controlling boyfriend asking his girl to alter her plans to accommodate him.
So now I gotta sit idly by as she spends an evening with a guy at his place just to show I'm the bigger man.
And today some stranger bought her and her colleagues lunch and I told her how I don't like a stranger buying my girlfriend lunch and that turned her on.
So I'm torn, do I tell her I don't want her hanging with some dude on Saturday or do I say nothing?
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You recognize that you are being Tested right? You are to express and interest, hate I will miss you this weekend, and you two have a good time kind of garbage. Let her think that "I made him jealous" if that is what makes her happy.
Now, next time you see her 4-6 sunflowers-"for you", arm around her walking while she's holding them-"we will communicate better from here forward and being alone with a guy at his house is lot more out of my comfort zone than some dude buying you lunch" Stop, gently lift her chin and with very soft eyes go, "okay". After she says, "Okay" "We'll get it right"... and hold her tightly. She ought to fall into line in a nice way. BE NICE too please !!
This comment got me feeling dyslexic bro 💀
There has always been a degree of being possessive that is generally attractive.
I think as a rule of thumb if the feeling is rooted in a desire for her or her being yours? Normally hot.
If it is rooted in insecurities? Normally not.
However, if you do feel insecure you still need to deal with it at some point or you'll end up stuck in a circle of paingames. And even the most diehard masochists need a little aftercare sometimes.
Thank you. These are the exact words I needed right now. I'm definitely in that loop and can't seem to snap out of it
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