Dude, I'm pretty sure you don't want this girl back. I just went through this not long ago. I had a girl...whe was a 9 in the looks dept...funny, smart, sex was awesome, all of this. But, I had some of the same problems, almos exactly, that you're having. I went through that, "i want her back" stage...but I knew I had to get past it. There really are great girls out there, and I don't think this is one my friend. YOu may also have to face facts that you are a bit "infatuated" with her, don't confuse this for love.
Anyway, I made it past that stage although I miss having that girl in my bed, I sure as holy hell don't miss her fliriting with other guys in front of me, disrespecting me...etc. I don't deserve that, and YOU don't deserve that. Moreover, even if you did want her back, you need to back off and live your own life before she comes back anyway. The same steps to getting her back are the same steps to moving on in the beginning. You need to put the brakes on..this means no emails, no phone calls, no facebook..in fact, take her off your facebook. TOugh at first, but it gets easier. Next step, start doing self improvment. Change your look up, start working out, start studying something, a new hobby...improve yourself. This will help you with your own self image. Also, start dating again..nothing serious, but go out with girls, talk to girls. YOu'll realize there truly are more fish...ones that wont' do that crap. I have an ew girl for example...I never have that "what is she up to now" thing when she's not with me. You know that feeling I'm sure...deep down, really wondering what she does when you're not around..i know you know. You want to get more of that? go back to it? no you don't...girls don't change.
.also, remember, you're a man. With age, your stock goes up. This flirty ex of yours is going to melt like an ice cream cone over the years. Just htink, someday she'll be a wrinkled old mess with the same crap attitude, wodnering why guys do't flirt with her anymore. You, my friend, wre fortunate enough to be born a man. We age like wine, they age like milk. You need to work on your "inner game"...i don't think you believe you deserve better. This chick has shattered your self esteem. You need to believe that you deserve better. If not, you will project neediness...the death nihl for dating.
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of course she dumped you. You were spineless and let her walk over over you. She had no respect for you. I guarantee this "fugly" guy at least acts like he's got a spine, which is why she's with him and not you. Look, I'm not trying to beat you up because I've been there before. But honestly, do yourself a favor and grow some balls. Also, we're always blind to our own situation...but look at your post..."she is loyal"...then "she talked to another guy for an hour"..."She avoids me" folowed by "but we're close"...yeah so close that she flirted with other guys, treated you like crap, and dumped you. Don't make this mistake again. I'm 30..if your age is correct, your not much younger than me. We don't have the excuse of being a teenager.
I don't think it's the real thing.
I think that your girlfriend likes you and is physically attracted to you at the least, but I don't think that she's really in love with you. If she did, she wouldn't run off to talk to a guy for an hour when you're so available your in the same room.
And I honestly think that if you know her, you'll be able to see what she's capable of. If you think that she's capable of flirting with other guys only to make you jealous, then it's probably because she saw you flirting with another girl and wants to get back at you, but if it's ongoing it's either because you flirt with girls and she has a huge issue with it and is very competitive OR she just likes flirting with other guys for her own fun and frankly doesn't care about you. If you don't think that she's capable of it, (which I honestly think she is, or she wouldn't be calling YOU immature for her constant flirting with other men), then you probably have nothing to worry about and should just find a way to get her to only want to flirt with you.
Who knows, maybe she's not the one at fault here, not that I'm saying you are, but it might be a possibility. If you really like this girl, maybe you should add some options to this equation. Maybe you should find a way to light up her spark. But if whatever you try still doesn't work, it's probably because she's simply not that into you.
It's okay if this relationship doesn't work out, because you'll probably have many others. You should break it off like a gentlemen, (If you choose to), so she knows what a valuable gem she's lost.
If you REALLY want to make this work, you have to do everything in your power to make it work. Observe/Ponder on what she's interested in, and maybe do something special for her, maybe even do something that will make her cry like there's no tomorrow, and she'll definitely love you more because she'll see that you have a very sweet and romantic side. But do something kind of daring so she knows that you can make her life more exciting than any of the guys she flirts with could ever make it.
Wish you luck and hope everything works out. :)
She wants to know you care & also wants to keep you interested. We are told men need to know we are wanted by other men to keep their attraction to us. If no other guy wants us, then why would our boyfriend want us, at least that is what Cosmopolitan says, lol. In a world where women dress like tramps & men stray so easily, a woman does whatever she can to keep her man interested. It sounds like she's playing games, but really she is just doing this because she cares. She doesn't want to lose you, please be understanding.
You did the right thing. Girls like that are never happy with what they have. She was trying to show you that she's a hot commodity, that she can get any guy she wants so you should feel flattered that guy is you. (It's a horrible game. I'm glad you're not with her anymore.)
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this this mentality in girls that make them think that by making you jealous that you want them more. or it can be just total disrespect, she's pushing your buttons. if its that inappriopiate for an exclusive relationship, there no excuse. she disrespecting, you have to ask yourself whether you gonna put up with it like a loser or ditch the hoe and find a better girl that respect you.
it may suck emotional-wise if you love this girl, but for your health , you need to know when to ditch the rotten apples.Bad idea, she likes you but you are not the one who she wants to spend the rest of her life with. She wants to party but doesn't want to be alone so she has you with her. I know it might hurt but I say you just walk away and leave her alone for the mean time until she can grow up. It will be better for you and maybe she will realize what she has lost.
Just ignore her and watch her behavior. If all she is doing is flirting, remember that you are the one taking her home at the end of the night. If she is doing more than flirting, than I would seriously question what she does when you are not around. If there are other girls around, why don't you flirt with them and see how she likes it.
She's probably bored and wants attention from other guys. Women that are very insecure tend to do this a lot. Or she could possibly be taking it out on you for something that you did...so check with her and talk about it seriously. Don't accuse her of anything or act controlling.
I see some other girls on here put on here that is a way to test their man...a woman would not do that. Either way, do not let anyone disrespect you. From what I have seen on these boards, if you need to logon to this website because you are questioning your girls behavior, she is probably not the one for you!
I think she is doing this to push your buttons...And she seems like the type of girl to not be in a serious relationship.. You should be direct with her let her know this is bothering you and if she can't understand then she do not have your best interest at heart..And you need to let her go
Alrighty then, she is talking to other dudes? Wow complete faithless, she should be with you, talking. Or doing something with you, then with other men, my big brother had a problem with his WIFE doing this bull hockey. He loves her a lot but she, in my perspective, doesn't love him, and she is a flirting machine. You should leave her, or tell her if she really loved you, she would be by your side and talking to you rather than with other men. She is not the one man, move on.
She's just trying to get some attention from you. Because you're not freaking out about her flirting with other guys, she just keeps flirting with more guys and more guys. Maybe next time you go out to a club flirt with her and get her to dance with you or whatever. she just want some affection and attention
It sounds like she might be insecure about your feelings for her, and is trying to get some sort of response or reassurance from you. Speaking a bit from experience here, good luck!
from a girl prospective maybe its becouse she thought you did something or just wants you more into her
she's probably trying to make sure
your feelings are real.Some people might get a little thrill from that. That is good get a better person.
im s sry really bu there are plenty of other women out there good luck
Whenever I try to make a guy jealous, it's usually just my way of testing him to see how much he cares. In my mind, if he gets angry, then he cares and doesn't want to lose me. Maybe she just needs to know that you care?
My girlfriend trying to make me jealous she was texting with another guy on whatapp for about one hour and when I asked that she is busy or not she replied me that she was busy she even update that I am not handsome
wow then have fun and look 4 tht perfect 1 ok
your just being insecure.
She just want you can take care of her more.
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