How should I ask a guy what our status is and to define the relationship without scaring him away?

[Anonymous]

After 5 dates he's been wanting to kiss and have me spend the night, but I dont want to do this unless we are boyfriend/girlfriend - how should I ask him without scaring him. We do have good chemistry.

[Guy13]

There is no way to avoid that. If they run then they were not serious. Guys are typically not relationship focused with all the possibilities out there.

[In_Trance]

you don't.

Never ask that