How do I ask a guy the define the relationship question?

[Mia230]

I have been ig you'd say dating someone since September now , dates, car dates, exchange gifts on special occasions or sometimes just because. We've been intimate a number of times and lots of cuddling. My family has met him but.. I have not met his , his friends or he hasn't said if we're actually a thing so it gets confusing. I have asked the what do you see me as question twice now he basically said he isn't sure. I dont know where I stand especially when the vday gifts were lovey dovey lol

Ask him again

Wait it out alittle longer

Tell him to kick rocks

[RebelinSteel]

What I have done before, I say ‘where should we go in 2025 on holiday’ , talking in the future tense to 2025 or 2026 will make him think of that as well. He will then need to accept you believe you both have a future and also commit or look like a rabbit in the headlights. If he’s been burnt before he may be unsure about committing, as it hurts and getting burnt twice will be worse. Draw it out in simple terms for him, he may not want any commitment and is just just enjoying the now. The other thing is not meeting his family or friends would for me raise some concerns (unless they lived a good few hours away), as you tend to reciprocate things like family visits. Saying that his background maybe to him a bit embarrassing and he does not feel comfortable sharing.

[Mia230]

Hmm good idea , we'll he does the future things" we can wear matching pj in the winter" " we can do this or that" so yeah and his family and friends stay pretty close lol but I don't want to pressure it

[Anonymous]

If you have to ask, it is probably not happening. Move on.

[Mia230]

He may be scared of commitment

[CVNT5]

ask him again,
guys are logical creatures by nature
if he says "i don't" know he lying.

of course he knows, he might be scared or hiding something.

he might not be mature enough or does not want to committ.