Am I missing hints or is he not interested? Not sure if he is genuinley shy or flirting for an ego boost?

[DermalPunch]

I'll do bullet points

• know him from the area and he always showed signs of being very attracted
• he's younger so I have been aloof because of a super bad experience
• recently been flirting for two weeks non-stop
• asked me if I had any available family members then asked my relationship status
• always tries to get super close to me
• we are always laughing and joking
• if he sees me in the street he has his eyes glued to me no shame
• He asked me if a) what time I eat at b) if I eat in my house or if I will go out to eat
• bragged that he can cook "everything"

What's given me pause is that when he did that whole relative thing (so awkwardly) I kinda brushed it off. After he said he was never getting married but has still kept flirting with me. So I just think I should stop while I'm ahead because he's probably another selfish, immature loser ready to manipulate and deceive to get laid.

Is he shy or just playing with me? He hasn't asked for my number.

Updates

1 y

I asked ASKED HIM @msc545 if he had a girlfriend today. He gave an adamant "no" with a hand swat. Then he hopped back on his phone instantly. I feel like such an ass.

Updates

1 y

UPDATE: He was just mega nervous it seems. We both admitted to digging each other and we will chill soon. Thanks everyone for your help.

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say for sure whether he is genuinely interested in you or if he is just flirting for an ego boost without more information. However, based on what you've shared, it does seem like he is showing some interest in getting to know you better.

It's possible that he is shy or unsure how to approach you, which is why he hasn't asked for your number yet. It's also possible that he is just enjoying the attention and flirting for fun without any intention of pursuing a relationship.

If you're interested in getting to know him better, it may be worth taking the initiative and asking for his number or suggesting a casual hangout. This can give you a better idea of whether he is genuinely interested in getting to know you better, or if he is just flirting for fun.

However, if you have concerns about his intentions or if you feel uncomfortable with his behavior, it's important to trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being. It's okay to set boundaries and take things slow until you feel more comfortable and confident in the situation.

[DermalPunch]

If you're interested in getting to know him better, it may be worth taking the initiative and asking for his number or suggesting a casual hangout. This can give you a better idea of whether he is genuinely interested in getting to know you better, or if he is just flirting for fun

I feel like such a doofus if he says no

[DermalPunch]

It's also possible that he is just enjoying the attention and flirting for fun without any intention of pursuing a relationship.

this is probably it. im such a target for crap like this.

[Opinion Owner]

It's possible that the person you're interested in is just enjoying the attention and flirting without any intention of pursuing a relationship. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with them about your intentions and to make sure that you're both on the same page. If you're looking for a serious relationship and they're not, it may be best to move on and find someone who shares your goals and values. Remember to prioritize your own well-being and happiness in any relationship.

[Tstrbrainer]

He's definitely interested but if he says he don't want to marry and you are looking for marriage, it's not gonna work out

[DermalPunch]

Yeah... that's why this is probably a huge waste of time and because I'm such an idiot I am I am going to screwed over yet again. Let the games begin!

[Tstrbrainer]

What's his age?

[DermalPunch]

😖 embarassed to say... young. People are really judegmental and say awful things on here. It's hurtful.

Only younger guys show consistent interest. The older guys don't. I don't look my age so I think the 20-somethings think I'm 28-30 when I am far from that. The 40-somethings think I'm that age too so don't approach much. 😪

I've lived in my area for almost a year. Days into moving he had been showing interest but I just was dismissive because he looked like he was 17. He isn't, LOL.

I always thought he was cute but never gave him any encouragement because I didn't want to get hurt again.

Anyway, I decided to just chat him up a but to see how he would react. He responded in kind and how I was hoping a guy would.

He comes from a small city and moved to the capital here and lives on his own and runs a shop.

I guess my fear is that he will just be slicker and I won't catch on if he is just playing a role and I get burned again.

On the flipside, he may have been burned bad by the people here. There are a lot of conniving narcissists here.

I can't take anymore betrayal. I'm just terrified.

He's 23.

[Tstrbrainer]

There's no problem with age gaps in my opinion.

But generally younger guys who pursue older women are usually looking for sex. I'm talking as a guy who's into older women especially in my childhood. It's not the universal truth some really love a person for their personality, but be extremely careful , if you think he's a good person just observe what he is doing when he's by himself

[DermalPunch]

what do you mean by himself? stalk him? Also, yes of course they are in it for the sex. I really should just quit while I'm ahead. Why would he be any different.

[DermalPunch]

the thing is I wear the burqa. I don't sleep with men. Here men lie because they don't want the loose women to sleep with but want to have secret affairs with tje chaste women and will scheme and lie to do it. I just don't know if he is one of them and I feel like an idiot for even having hope he won't be.

[Tstrbrainer]

Not stalking, I meant if you have common friends you can trust, or someone else who knows him, you can just ask about his personality.

What you said about men lying is true.
Does the family's opinion matters in a reliable relationship where you are from?
I mean if his family is going to disapprove, and he's not willing to go against them, it's useless.

[Tstrbrainer]

You can continue talking to him, but try not to get attached

[DermalPunch]

did you read my update?

[Tstrbrainer]

Yeahh I answered your new question

[DermalPunch]

Lord have mercy. He told me his age today. He is bloody 20. TWENTY! He thought I was 25. pfffft.

[Tstrbrainer]

Woww.
Actually it's really good that you look several years younger.
It will increase your chance when you meet the right guy

[DermalPunch]

thanks!

[Tstrbrainer]

What's your career?

[Tstrbrainer]

Do you usually meet quality guys in your life where you live?

[DermalPunch]

no. there aren't many quality people. also, i think i may have overreacted about the toying thing.

[Tstrbrainer]

If you don't get good opportunities where you live, can you move to somewhere else where you will have better career and relationship opportunities?

[DermalPunch]

no, i love it here.

[Tstrbrainer]

Why? Friends?

[DermalPunch]

Yes, friends and I like the city. I moved here from my home. I am an expatriate.

[Tstrbrainer]

Cool.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Just ask him! Life is too short, miss don't tell the guy he's getting cheated on with his best friend.

[msc545]

ASK HIM. WE CANNOT READ HIS MIND AT THIS DISTANCE.

[DermalPunch]

Did you know that before I post these I say is it worth getting cussednout by @msc545? Mostly no but this one was worth it.

[msc545]

ALways glad to make you happy!

[DermalPunch]

You do! But you have to understand you can say ask him but people are full of shit so that's unreliable.

[msc545]

I need better material - any suggestions?

[DermalPunch]

Ypu're doing amazing, sweetie! 🤗I know he likes me it's just what for. I don't want to get my hopes dashed or worse led on and lied to again.

[msc545]

No way to really predict that, sorry.

[DermalPunch]

yes, there is. Avoid him like the plague.

[msc545]

Well yeah you could do that but you might be missing out on something you'd really like

[Jennz6]

I’m sure he is just shy

[DermalPunch]

I am such a cynic but I think he is too. I am so jaded I could be a dermaroller I swear.

[Jennz6]

@DermalPunch hang in there and see what happens

[DermalPunch]

It's just I can get attached. I am workong really hard to not let attraction blind me. But I have a really good vibe about him.

[DermalPunch]

this is going to crash and burn 🥺

[Jennz6]

@DermalPunch maybe he just wants to have sex with you?

[DermalPunch]

it's whatever.

[DermalPunch]

he just wanted to flirt.

[AFretiredTXn]

Friends are friends

[DermalPunch]

what?

[AFretiredTXn]

If you're not going to give him a chance, then just accept his friendship and maybe he'll come around.

[DermalPunch]

No you don't get it. My question is do you think he wants a shot?

[AFretiredTXn]

Yes and you aren't ready to give it.

[DermalPunch]

ah ok.

[DermalPunch]

i asked if he had a girlfriend. he just answered an nothing else. pffft.