Is it a waste of time, cause the desired man is promiscuous and will never commit.
WASTE of time I don’t share I don’t have the energy to compete anyone who wants you wouldn’t want you to compete with someone else they’d choose you. And when you do compete for him just know you’re like a second option not his first they’ll always be someone else
If the desired man is seeking commitment and she has a whatever in the game, then by all means compete. But if he's simply looking to get laid, don't bother competing.
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In most cases, it would be a waste of time. But you have to judge each set of circumstances separately. I once competed for a young woman who had some qualities that were special to me. I won and had a great time dating her.
I will not waste a second of my life fighting over a man. Hell no
u Promiscuous men sometimes give up the game and settle down.
Women tend to have a very bad psychological quirk that they believe taken men are more attractive then single men when all else equal. It was insane how many other women always just came out of the woodworks when I was in past relationships.
Some of this evolutionary unfortunately. The top males would get multiple female sexual partners given they supposedly have better DNA or something to create stronger babies.
This is also the “scarcity” complex. Women generally believe that hard to get always means the male is higher value. Men can have this problem too but from my observations women are often worse when it comes to being attracted to challenge.
Anyway when you pursue a taken man (or even one who is seemingly “in demand”) here is what you create:
There are a lot of things men can change and improve upon when interacting romantically with women. However this is major issue above women need to be more self aware of if they really want a better “gender equal” society.
It takes mental effort but honestly this scenario harms everyone. Women in general definitely could have better self control when it comes to this.
I guess a girl would have to feel the guy out a little. The other girl may be interested, but he may have no desire or intentions for her, and there is no competition. If the guy appears to be getting-off on having both girls being interested in him, then he is likely a player, and that is when you give him the old-heave-ho!
In regards to desired men being promiscuous, I think that is something else she would have to investigate.
If all girls automatically assume a guy is promiscuous, then they maybe missing out a great guy. I always refer back to: If one assumes, you make an "ass" out of "u" and "me", but mostly you!
I wouldn't say it's senseless to compete, but highly desired men have options, and many of these men will exercise them (including many who will do so after committing to the girl).
Truly high value men know that women (plural) are a distraction from their purpose and their success. We enjoy them, of course, but wasting your money and time on women will undermine your success (and even undo it); so, it's not advisable.
But, it's not good for us to be alone, and men enjoy lifelong commitment as much as women do. Highly desired/ high value men will commit, but their standards are high in terms of beauty, respectability (low body count), and support/ peace/ inspiration. If you're an average looking girl you don't really stand much chance except may be a one night stand, or at best a friends with benefits, until he finds the girl he'll settle down with.
Both sexes compete for the other whether they like to think they are or not.
Even a woman getting dressed up and going out it competing in a way. She is trying to look her best so a man she wants approaches her. She is in competition with every other woman in that space.
Men have to compete to even get a woman's attention. I have dated some very beautiful women that felt like they didn't need to do anything to keep me. And guess what, I dumped every single one of them. After the sex, if you aren't doing anything to keep me around, then why would I stay?
I don't think women realize the amount of "WORK" the average man has to put in to keep his woman happy, not complaining, and then they just end up leaving after all that. I say fuck that. Find a woman that works to keep you around, and marry that woman. Cause when the looks fade, your just gonna be left with another child to take care of.
80% of females are dating 20% of the men. Since most of the women a top 20% guys dates are below his league, he has no reason to commit. Based on your question, I assume you are a foolish girl that dates guys above your league and are disappointed that they don't commit. Of course, guys within you league would commit but you don't want them.
I learned I could win over that type of guy but I wasn't happy because I had to change and pretend to be someone I wasn't so really not worth it.
Never chase a man.. if you have to chase they really don't want you.
Honestly you fucked if you and fucked if you don't. You can't use logical argument to tell women they going after wrong dude. Won't work.
If they marry young, yea they may have better chance of not getting divorced but many still do and become single mothers.
If you do chase, you likely will fail, waste your time and take on the negative traits you saw in them, then use it on some poor guy who still believes in fairytales.
I don't think much will change with current sociatal state
I'm going the leo decapreo way
Yes women should compete to be desirable to a man
Yes men should compete to be desirable to women.
It goes both ways
women who look hot can cook and clean and take care of kids is when men want
a man who is financially stable and can provide for his family is what women want
the hotter the women and she can cook and clean will always out compete the women who are hot but don’t know how to cook and clean
men who make 250,000 a year out competes the man making 100,000 a year.
Compete. They do it all the time! I mean like why not. If you want him, better than giving him up to someone else. World is already very cruel and competitive that way. But lucky for younger folks, they have an edge!
Mostly the "desired men" is not promiscuous, just not available. And for men there is you are out of my league mentality. Same applies to women too.
Stop thinking you can get a man just because he is the hottest, best looking and so on and so forth.
You want a desired man, woman have some liberty. Multiple woman can partner with same man so I don't really see the problem why they have to compete when they can simply cooperate.
Multiple men can't be with a desired woman, not in a legal way or religious aspect at the same time
No I do not like fresh and fit. I don’t want to lose brain cells listening to them.
I say go for it if you like a guy but if he isn’t as interesting in you as you’d like or makes you feel like you are competing with another girl he is also interested in you should take a step back.
Wanting a hoe is stupid, and wanting someone who doesn't want you is also stupid.
S**** compete for such people. Decent woman do not have to because they attract men without having to seem like desperate cows
Competing is so “back in the school days”... i wouldn't waste my time now seeing the unlimited options
I did work in a teaching hospital early on. A lot of doctors in training who were actually nice people and not assholes, and who were reasonable athletic, had women competing for them. So I did see that behavior in that work setting. I guess it isn't for some women, but other women were into the competing game. To each their own.
Women already do that. I mean it doesn't look like it makes them happy since they think all men just want sex. When it's only the guys chase after. But it's what they choose to do and they choose to do that. If they do it they must find some enjoy from it. So I think it is good they do it if they enjoy.
I just want what makes them happy.
Why would any woman lower herself to 'compete' for a man? I would not/ have not when I was young enough to be that stupid, ever competed with another man that stupid to compete for a woman.
That is laughable.
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