No... it's not good. It's just being a whore, but without being ultra specific about the terms.
But what are their requirements? Whatever they tell you they are. They're buying you.
So what specifically that individual guy is going to want for the money he's spending on you is going to vary. Generally though, they want sex. However they prefer sex to go-down. You would basically discuss the general terms with the man who will be purchasing (well renting) you.
It's just a fancy name for being some guys regular whore. A whore-on-retainer would maybe be the accurate way to look at that.
So, if you're looking for advice, mine would be: Don't. It's bad.
But as a practical matter, the answer to your question is: You would have to discuss the terms of the arrangement with the specific man. It is going to depend on the guy, and how much he likes you vs other women willing to sell themselves in a similar way. So it's a marketplace like anything else. He will be looking for the best "bang for his buck" (no pun intended). So it's a matter of what are you willing to do that the girl beside you isn't; for the same amount of money taking into account how attractive he finds each of you, respectively.
Kind of a degrading dehumanizing way to be viewed... isn't it. But that's what it comes down to. How much is what you're selling worth, compared to the other women who can be bought for the same money. So you can either be willing to do more for the same money; or be willing to do the same for less money. But there has to be some reason for a man to spend his hard earned "sugar-baby money" on YOU, specifically and in particular as opposed to any other girl willing to be bought. It's an informal and ongoing negotiation. Someone is only your sugar-daddy as long as you mutually agree that you're still happy with the arrangement. You can end it if... your daddy doesn't give you enough sugar... and he can end it if he doesn't think he's getting his money's worth outta you. It's really really gross. So goddamn gross.
The consequences, are basically to be forever seen as "that kinda girl" by guys generally. That's not going to help you if you're ever looking for an actual relationship. It depends if that matters to you or not.
If it is a 40 year old fat woman, within reasonable limits, she will have to do what the sugar daddy demands. However, if it is the girl in the photo and it is one of the desperate men on the sugar baby website, she sets the terms. If it is just taking her to dinner, etc. just to be seen with, she could demand no sex and no kissing and the men would but most could pay much much more than $200 just to take her out to dinner. In others words, it would be like a going a date for a price but no sex. If you Google, you will find website where an attract young woman can earn $50 to $250 to go on a date and no sex is allowed.
New Paid Dating Service "Moé Date" Just for Japanese Nerds: A three hour date costs ¥13,550, while a five hour one costs ¥19,500. The Moé Date site is very clear to note that this is not a prostitution service, and it doesn't allow its staff to, say, go to a hotel for obvious reasons. kotaku.com/theres-a-new-paid-dating-service-just-for-japanese-nerd-5959704
@Adaeva I cannot comment on the Japanese Nerd thing. But the rest of what you're talking about are "escorts." And while, occasionally, some lonely sad guy truly does want to pay a woman for her company... the reality-on-the-ground is, that most escorts are prostitutes. Not all, but most. They just cannot advertise as such, because its illegal. There just aren't that many sad desprate guys willing to pay for a woman's company only. A few, but not many.
The other thing is, these are "Sugar Daddys." that is not the same as being an escort. Sugar Daddies want sex. There's no two-ways about that. The arrangement is: He buys you jewlery, and takes you shopping and otherwise "spoils" you... and in return, you "keep him happy" sexually (as well as acompany him places so he can show her off).
You can make an argument about escorts. And really only some escorts. But not for "sugar daddies." The sexual expectation is clear (that's actually where the "daddy" part comes from).
Thank you for replying though. You do make some valid points. They just don't apply to the whole sugar-daddy dynamic. 🙂
Honestly, its the woman the screws up the Sugar Daddy thing more than guys. People in general get complacent with any situation, and so they put out less effort. Sugar Daddies will only ever love the things you do for them. Once you stop doing those things, or you start putting more expectations on the things you do... you will lose value in his eyes.
Relationships with sugar daddies are 100% transactional, and that is not to say that sugar daddies do not truly have feelings or even love their SO. But you have to be willing to maintain the work involved with being with a sugar daddy. That is, be sexy, low drama, not demanding, and lots of fun. NEVER, and I mean NEVER, put your emotional baggage on to a sugar daddy. Just love and appreciate all the things he does for you and never ask for more than he is willing to give to you. You start putting expectations on these things, then he will find another honey.
They are not hard to find, go on any dating site and say you are looking for a sugar daddy. Be selective, but once you settle on one, just make him feel like the most special thing in the world... he will open up the pocketbook. True sugar daddies do not see spending money on women as a waste, they are paying for the fun and romance and that makes it well worth it. They are not against falling in love either, but again it has to be fun and worth it to them... but never ask a sugar daddy out right for anything... because that will cheapen it to them. Just be overjoyed and appreciative of everything he does do for you, and he will eventually start doing more and more over time.
Well defined and your interpretation is clear to understand. I can't be sugar baby because I am very bossy and dominant. I dont like things I like respect and fame more than anything.
Yeah, that's the issue with sexy women... they over value themselves. Bossy and dominant are not ever going work with a true Sugar Daddy... you need a simp for that. But even then, simps grow a backbone at some point... you make being sexy not worth it, or not enough to compensate for the baggage. Because all most men want is happiness without the stress and drama.
I AM a human being god created me in a certain way I can't change myself for some pennies or love. If they can't tolerate my habbits my nature I womt force them to live with me. They have choise to go whereever they want. Drama and stress depend on man if he is abusive or so strict and arrogant or dominant or obsessive so the woman will be automatically become dramatic, stressed etc Its not about happiness its about companionship if you are not agree to finish the stress or trauma of your woman you dont deserve her love.
All that is required for the creepy LOSERS on sugar baby sites is that she be female under age 40. Before answering a similar question, I Google "sugar baby" and opened a fake account. That was free and took 5 minutes. I then spend 15 minutes looking at about 100 men, and then deleted the fake account. I posted the following:
Almost all the men appeared to be ugly, low income, middle age LOSERS that, I believe, are hoping for a younger pretty girl out of their league. Several listed their annual incomes as $1 million and I don't believe that. I was appalled at just how ugly and creepy the men were. I am sure they would all want her. However, they couldn't afford her for what would be a reasonable amount.
If she wants to be a sugar baby, in my opinion, she should go where the rich go. For example, a multi-millionaire's yacht. If he is throwing a party on his yacht and she dresses classy and sexy, but not trashy, I believe she would be admitted. Young men would not be admitted. Then she could meet wealthy guys that are not ugly and creepy that could afford her. Since, I'm not allowed to enter, I'm not familiar with night clubs. However, I suspect their are classy night clubs well to do guys go to that would welcome young pretty women.
I’ve heard sugar daddies describe having sugar babies like having a luxury sports car. They’re going to want something beautiful that they can “take for a ride” whenever they want to, like a luxury sports car.
It’s sort of like hiring an escort, but on a long-term retainer, paying them by the month, and paying them indirectly by allowing them to enjoy a luxurious lifestyle along their side.
Beauty, sex, companionship. I’d say that’s what it boils down to.
I currently pay for all my SO’s living expenses, I fly back and forth to see her and take her places, but our relationship is a real one.
For me to pay for a sugar baby, a transactional relationship, I’d have to be in a place where I’ve given up on love. I’d need to be in a place where I don’t want to want to open up my heart to anyone again. I would be settling for something superficial.
It’s probably best to connect with sugar daddies and sugar babies through Instagram DMs or something like that.
There’s also a risk of becoming a victim of human trafficking. So anyone who attempts to get into it should tread carefully.
But, in order for no one to be arrested for soliciting prostitution, you’d need to set up a date with a guy and then talk about the sugar baby & sugar daddy arrangement in person, so you don’t have a paper trail.
If I were to ever go that route, I wouldn’t personally hire a sugar baby until I’m making over 10M a year though.
Because, I’d want to be able to pay for higher quality. And also, pay for their exclusivity and accommodations.
Starting pay would be 100k/year.
Maximum pay would be 300k/year.
At 300k a year, they would need a A+ personality though. I wouldn’t want to pay that much money only for someone to be rude to me. They’d have to earn their way to 300k by providing an excellent client experience.
But, again. I would really need to be in a cynical place in life for me to be willing to pay for fake love.
More realistically, I’d probably just have friends with benefits and be like, “Hey, wanna go to Bora Bora over the weekend? I’ll fly you out if you’re free.”
I can respect that. Sugar babies/daddies are basically like having a fake relationship in exchange for money.
Sometimes sugar babies want a real relationship, but the sugar daddy wants to keep things transactional.
Or, it’s the reverse.
Sometimes sugar daddies want a real relationship, but the sugar baby keeps it transactional.
At the end of the day, they only “work” well when both only want a transaction.
But, who is truly happy with that?
The best scenario is to not have a transactional relationship at all. It’s best to simply have 2 people who really love each other. And, if the gentleman wants to, he can pay for his woman’s living expenses so she doesn’t need to worry about money any more.
Wow you have just defined it in a very well manner. Human being is a very weak creature he or she can fall unconditionally but in that case they will get hurt for spending time with a wrong peraon and attachment leads to self destruction.
I see it as a situation where a woman stays in a relationship for financial benefits. There is a big grey area, from cases where a woman enjoys having a wealth husband to situations that are essentially long term contract prostitution.
I have no problem with it if both people are honest about the situation. I can easily imagine a situation where a woman is happy to spend time with a man who might not be her first choice, but is still OK to be with, and in return gets to live a lifestlye she couldn't otherwise afford. Similarly I can imagine a man who is willing to spend money to have a desirable companion.
Most often its young attractive women with older wealthy men.
Sounds like you're looking to trade something for something. You'll be losing a whole lot of power by entering that sort of thing. Also, think about what kind of man wants that or would be privy to such a situation. You're going to get bossed around to be straight up. You might get lucky and not end up with a dude that forces you to suck his big fat friend's sweaty dick against your will, but it's still going to be a shit show. Again... think about what kinds of dudes look for that situation. Any chick with any sort of free will of their own doesn't last long with them at all. There are reasons for that. These dudes are power hungry and don't want to hear what you have to think or step out of line like the most controlling megalomaniac you could think of. It's just a roll of the dice which kind of that guy you'll get. I'm the hit the gym to get the chicks type of dude, but I do understand the make the money to get the chicks type of guy.
Just really consider "What type of guy looks for that situation" as a big question.
People like to call dudes like me a asshole just because I can get chicks with my looks and treat them not all that great or at least not have to play games, but I've known dudes like that though... way worse than me. Slight chance you'll meet one of those fat beta bux dudes that will simp out for you like on television... but in real life, it's usually a top shelf class A dick that can't pick up 50lbs. I mean they'll be so hateful towards women and children it would make you wonder why they even try at all. It's all about power for some people. I would just highly suggest you vet any dude and figure out what they're really like. It can take 3 months of constant time before you see the mask slip and figure out who they really are.
I wish I could have that much time to give my precious time to any guy I would like to prefer singularity for whole life I am an asshole I can't get love or boy or etc
I'm sure you can... but you know as well as I do that a man worth his weight in salt won't put up with much shit after they've already banged a few times. That's a mistake I see a lot of chicks make... they'll think they're on a whole nother level just because they can seduce a guy for a little while. The real winners are not blue pilled and are usually red pilled as all fuck. I don't know you, but just like I would say to one of my daughters... don't let your ego go to your head.
We all need ego-busters sometimes. Mine was my uncle pointing out that my girlfriend gave me some mouth isn't special... that she's probably done that with all the guys on a first date. Then learning the phrase "No girl is ever yours, it was just your turn." You know... the usual based and red-pilled jargon. Don't be overconfident is all I'm trying to say. A guy, a normal guy (not a blue-pilled beta bitch orbiter guy), doesn't work that hard just to give it away if you feel what I'm saying. Vet them and vet them hard. It's the dudes that can pretend to be something they're not that will waste your time the most.
I have never been a sugar daddy but my understanding on those relationshps is that the guys want a girl who is attracive (a "trophy" girlfriend) who will make them proud when thy are out in social settngs. And they want a girl who will submit and do whatever they are told to do when the guy wants sex. If you are a sugar baby and you don't want to do anal or have him cum in your mouth, that's too bad, because you're going to do it.
The consequences of being a sugar baby are that you are simply a prostitute devoted to one "client" and you wll forever know that you are just a whore. Any guy who knows about your history will see you as a lower class girl, someone who can be used. If you give it up and want a relationship but don't tell a guy about your past, then you need to worry about him someday learning that you were a prostitute.
I'm not a sugar daddy however I'm a daddy who has sugar. That being said I'm looking for short thin petite 18 year Olds. Like I'd go out of my way for that. However I can handle something a bit further from my preferences but I won't put in as much effort and I expect her to make our relationship easy. Ie I'd handle a bitch fit from a smoking hot 18 year old but a 29 year old who needs to lose 20lbs I'd tell her to fuck off I don't want to hear her bullshit.
Literally the other day a 29 year old got offended at a "ho" joke. So I called her a ho and kicked her out of my car when she started bitching at me. I won't sit in a confined space with someone being an asshole. That's a boundary of mine and she doesn't have enough value to me to put in any effort tbh.
She was bitching at me saying my joke was rude. And I said no its not. And she said it's like I'm disrespecting hos. And I said I wasn't disrespecting hos, you ho. (She literally ik for a fact turned a few tricks back in the day). And then she went off on me saying I'm a bitch and an asshole and I shouldn't talk that way telling jokes about hos (FYI she laughed hard asf when I told it) and made a big stink wouldn't stfu. So I said get the fuck out of my car before I make you get out my car. She got out and walked down the street. I waited a bit and checked on her see if she calmed down so I could give her ride but she kept cussing and crying now so I drove off. I don't deal with that bullshit.
Well I mean only unreasonably rude women get treated like that. I just have no desire to deal with weird emotional blow ups. Not every girl does that. I don't tolerate one's that do.
If there is sex involved it's simply legalized prostitution more like a sugar whore. Some guys require company someone to be there even if it's for a short while I completely get that excluding the sex. Men have not only been screwed out of marriage we have been screwed out of children too, a whole other subject.
They usually get trashy girls but want the classier sugar baby. There’s just not a lot of classy ones.
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Have to look good and put out usually, once they grow tired of you it’s over
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The requirements are you have to be 18. With cute face and hot body and willing to do anything for money
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If I had to guess, sex whenever they want and you will most likely have little to no freedom. You will have to remember that you are a dime a dozen to them
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