Girl and I were very interested, but it didn't work out to meet. Is it possible to regain interest?

[Anonymous]

This girl and I met on a dating app about two years ago. We have a lot in common and we very interested in eachother. Saying things like "you're my guy for everything" and overall really wanting to meet. Unfortunately it didn't work out because we live an hour away and neither of us drove at the time. It kind of fizzled, but she saw a pic of me on my Snapchat story a year later and then asked "do you ever want to hangout" I said absolutely, and we almost could've met, but still neither of us still drove. But she said "it's all good, I'm a very patient person" Which is interesting because I did message her to catch up two weeks prior to her asking to hangout when she saw the pic where she seemed disinterested. I've tried hitting her up a few times and she rejected asking her out to get drinks and didn't respond. But she said "I'll def let you know" when I asked her out the prior week. There definitely was interest and I really feel we could hit it off if we meet in person. I'm driving now and it wouldn't be a problem. I wasn't driving two weeks ago when I asked her out, and she did say "you're kinda far". She wants me to be the driver, and I'm fine with that. But I also want to keep my distance and not be a burden. She's also sort of fickle when it comes to texting where she won't respond to messages and seem disinterested, but then said "I can meet up". Sadly it didn't work out that day. What would you suggest going about this? From what I know, she's not seeing another guy and I have a good feeling we could hit it off. Any way I could go about showing I'm serious about dating her?

[Rosexøxø]

Ideal thing is (if this is something more serious than I perceived): asking her birthday- if soon (hopefully), asking to take her out for an hour (time limit of some sort to show her it’s temporary and she’ll make it home in one piece lol and that it doesn’t have to be long/ awkward/ etc. or whatever).

It would be a special day for her so it’d mean you were serious to meeting up and serious about her.

Then either ask for a meet up or her place address, so if she seems to bail you can still commit to showing up on her bday with a gift, for closure, and offer to take her out somewhere nice. If she refuses address then a simple text a bit before the time of the date/meet, to check in, will be good.

If her bday is not ideally close. Still ask to hang out then for her bday (show you plan to stay for a bit and serious) but also ask to hang out some place simple to balance it out, like movies or something. Don’t just say

“hey let’s meet up.” She could think: well meet up and do what?

lol

so provide a fun suggestive place to hang or a time limit so she won’t be too concerned about those things. Place detail or time detail, shows you’re mature and responsible/mindful as well- which would be a plus.

If it’s just a hook up. Invite her to something simple non-sexual but where you can get sexual. This way if she is some what insecure she won’t be putting the meet off.

Otherwise I’m not really liking her hesitancy and lack of effort, but maybe it’s just something with herself and just at first?

I don't know but you weigh it out.

Best to you!

Also the bday and house meet up is just to get past that meet blockage and weigh things from there. You may have to end things there and if she seemed scared then giving her space and not overdoing it would be IDEAL.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

It's possible to regain interest. My boyfriend worked hard for it so eventually I gave it a try 😂 (we're thousands of miles apart)

What I can suggest right now is you taking actions, 'cause maybe someone's also interested in her now, so make it fast. Maybe you could ask her more inviting questions like, "let's have a dinner?" kinda works out. 👍

[richgentlem4n]

u have a boyfriend now? are u sure with him? haha

[SeriouslyFunny00]

@richgentlem4n 🤣?

[richgentlem4n]

haha let's have a dinner?

[SeriouslyFunny00]

LMAO?

[Avicenna]

You could suggest a date, but I wouldn't have great expectations with this one

[Razp_Sorbet]

Doesn't sound like she's interested. If someone was truly interested in you they would find a way to meet and hang out even if it meant getting a train or bus.

[Anonymous]

It is up to you to make her interested. Try harder.

[Asker]

How should I go about it? If interest was there before, how do I go about regaining it?

[Still-alive]

Is not up to him. she's either interested or not regardless.

[Katebfun]

Let her GO

Move on.

[Iron_Man]

You over think with fear

[Asker]

Could you ellaborate a bit?

[Iron_Man]

It’s like you’re both so nervous to meet each other. You keep making excuses you should just meet.

[Asker]

I'd be down to meet, but she didn't respond when I asked her out a week ago. Is it ever worth pursuing or do I just move on?

[Iron_Man]

Keep pursuing her

[In_Trance]

Probably not