How important are LOOKS to you when choosing/dating a partner on a scale from 1-10?

Question

10 = very important 1 = not important at all

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

It is kind of important but not so much physical perfection as things like how they present themselves, there are some looks I just can't get into so it is kind of a weed out more than I am picking the most handsome guy. My fiance considers himself average looking, he is attractive to me but he doesn't have perfect chiseled features or anything like that. However he takes care of himself, dresses well and is fairly well groomed, acts confident, is good at talking w people in different social situations and just generally seems normal to me (in a good way). I would have difficulty feeling attracted to somebody who had stubble, slouched, was in poor physical fitness, and looked sloppy or rough. So is that looks, I guess so but again notice that I am not talking about body parts other than mentioning physical fitness (and I don't even expect the world there just not bad). JMO!

catiecatie · Accepted Answer

I wouldn’t say looks are everything I look for in a relationship. It’s at least 5-6 though. I like a guy with a good sense of humor so we can laugh a bunch. Personally is another thing. If we don’t match each other then I’m sorry it’s not going to work out. Has to be interested in the same things I do as well or at least have some things the same. I’m not saying everything we need to do has to be the same. It would be nice to have a guy that likes shooting bow or even fishing. Wants to go to sporting events, etc. but everyone has their own interests so I wouldn’t hold that against them.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

1-10 how important the looks are?

or

I will only date a partner who is a (I pick her looks number) 1-10?

Looks are very important in that I must find her attractive to feel romantic/sexual feelings for her but I find lots of women attractive and just a nice, average girl who is cute would have easily caught my eye. Lots of regular, every day girls are very attractive and would have been good options.

Attractive girls have always been easy to find. Finding a moral, high class woman who isn't loose and a lousy, shallow person is harder to find these days.

I'm glad I'm off the market. Finding a good partner seems to be becoming more and more impossible. Dating is a cesspool, wasteland these days.

megabamse · Accepted Answer

To me first impression is the looks, but everything not just face and body. It's the style of clothes, the hairstyle, the makeup if she has any. All that put together don't only tell me she's physically beautiful, but it also tells me about her health, her personality and her mental health. Or at least the indicators of what it may be. But looks alone is never ever enough to be deemed date potential. Nexts is the personality, getting to know her values, all the intelligence as in emotional intelligence, cultural intelligence and so on. So I would say in a way looks are 10 important because that is what it takes to get to the next part. How ever its never enough on its own.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Good looks is one factor in attraction but its not my only factor so if a guy is not good looking but he is attractive in other ways, I will like him just as much as a guy that is good looking.

Avicenna · Answer

Looks are not that important to me- she just needs to not be ugly and/or obese. There are other considerations that have a higher priority.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

10, to say biologically,

Till I am in the age of reproduction- I do care about looks. I deem them to be as important as personality. But if you haven’t got the looks I find very attractive- then I will never want to find out about your personality.

However, as a girl who has dated one of the hottest men to have ever walked on this planet, I can tell, attractiveness has its downsides.

I think I will pay attention to the looks less the more I age and if I no longer intend to have children. But even then, it will be important for me, maybe not the most important but definitely important.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess a 5

Like of course looks will get the person to come to you but after that it all comes down to personality. Like for instance one of my guy friends was telling me about his ex, all his friends thought she was really ugly, but to him he didn't care about how she looked when he finally got to know her he loved her personality at the time.

I dated a guy that was really cute, muscular, tall, he was the type that could get any woman, but he was an ass and a bully. He was just a terrible person.

shades777 · Answer

looks are permanent factor when a man selects a woman, consciously and subconsciouslly thats a permanent natural function being a man.

A man looks for cues of fertility, full lips, wide hips, plump butt, perky tits, big eyes, thats a fertile woman. This is science, hip to waist ratio the better the more attractive.

If your brain is functioning as it should looks should be a 10 always for men and women.
you say otherwise, your brain ain't functioning correctly and your deficit in minerals and oxygen

Anonymous · Answer

It's impossible to answer that question in isolation because human attraction is not that simple.

I date women I am attracted to, and my attraction is based on a lot of factors, of which physical appearance is only one.

Also, physical beauty is a subjective thing, so my rating of a particular woman's physical beauty will be different than other men's rating of the same woman.

I am more attracted to my current partner than I have been to any other woman I've been with, but I would guess other men on average would rate her physical attractiveness as a 6. But there is something about her I find irresistible and our personalities are super compatible. She knows how to treat me like a man (both inside the bedroom and outside) in ways most of today's women don't.

ZackBan · Answer

There are those who say 10 and those who lie.

Fact is we are mammals with animalistic instincts.
What we definite as attractive is actually what we instinctively perceive as beneficial to our survival.

So sure average looks can work just as well but an individual who isn't physically attracted to another will never be any other kind of attracted

CaptainOverthink · Answer

6/10
They matter because I want to be aroused in a heartbeat. But like girls below my visual standard can convince me and sometimes there are just sparks about people.
So I mean there are exceptions to every rule but overall I am not attracted to wobbly wubwub.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

5 maybe. For me though, a Persons's personality can make them attractive or ugly, so I see beauty differently than other people.

Dating strictly on looks never works out. Obviously, I'm not going to have anything in common with someone if I date them because I find them hot.

People who do this don't have a clue! lol.

petitedollbabee · Answer

2-3. I’m not going to reject someone for their looks - it’s not a dealbreaker if they’re “ugly”, personality always matters most to me, but their physical appearance is what’s going to initially attract me to them. So it has a little bit of importance.

itsaboutthyme · Answer

If I'm going to be all psychological about it, good looks only activate irrational parts of our brains that make us interested in people whom we barely know. Love isn't fully about physical appearances. Confidence is so much more important.

Anemone978 · Answer

8 but I have low self esteem so I will take who likes me..  The sad thing is I can get 9's but they won't date me.. they have said i'm pretty and cute but I am too fat.. lol

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

9. I'm not crossing the street to meet your personality. You may not even have one. How would I know if you look like a wildebeest who lost a fight with a Roto-Rooter?

Spongebobssocks · Answer

6/10 I have to get to know him a bit to be attracted to him and before that I know what types has the potential to get me attracted to them.

melanieeeB · Answer

10 important. I ain't dating someone that I personally don't find attractive to start with and then he also has to back it up with his personality. Both are important!

inhua · Answer

actions speak louder than words society virtue signals any number less than 5 but in reality they act as a 10

AmyHew1tt · Answer

10. But there are other things that factor in which can make or break attraction, and are just as important.

jshm2 · Answer

About 4.  It matters, but isn't the whole enchilada

Babygirl_S · Answer

I am not really aware of the number. Maybe 7/10 but I'm not sure. I have been obsessed with some guys before that many people called average. Currently I dream of younger Henry Cavill so you can see how much I have progressed.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Between 7-8 for first impression But in the end it's her loyalty, personality, behavior, kindness, open mindedness if I want serious relationship and permanent love for her.

Princess3335 · Answer

I'd say 8/10  Overtime, looks will fade and we will be old and wrinkly together.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I can’t put a number on it since I’m not really shallow, but I do believe that they have to take good care of themselves to look attractive.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

10, but personality, interests, hobbies, talents, and intelligence are also 10s All or nothing.

jst4fun · Answer

I prefer men that aren’t super attractive to most. Maybe it’s insecurity on my regard. 3

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

5. Attraction can be built in many ways, over time.

LazerBean · Answer

8 or 9. It's not the most important, but I'm not looking to intentionally have ugly children.

Biancam13 · Answer

8-9/10, I have to find them physically attractive.

NathanDavis · Answer

a 5 would be fair...

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

6.5... (Which is also the lowest I'm willing to go lol)

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Looks are VERY important. The importance of looks is on level 9. As far as her attractiveness rating, she would need to be at least a 6. That's the bare minimum.

Venymal · Answer

5 - A girl might be good looking, but that isn’t what I find attractive about her. Conversely, just because a girl is good looking doesn’t mean I find her attractive.

SirJohn42 · Answer

Looks are good but its not everything. I look for personslity and what her heart is. I have to be attracted to her. But sometimes for me love is blind. Im such a dope. But know what I want.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not really sure how you assign a number to this. I guess I'll say 6 but that's just because I have to be physically attracted to a partner. But physical attraction is not necessarily determined by physical beauty.

AdithyaR · Answer

1 Looks don't mean a damn to me, I need someone who's intellectual

Jay3344 · Answer

For dating it’s like a 7…but for a relationship that drops to like a 6. Personality is super important in relationships…way more than looks.

Counterclocking · Answer

10 Looks matter to me. No exceptions. It doesn’t matter how good a personality she has. She has to be pretty; no exceptions.

Chthou95 · Answer

They're very important. So important that for most people if you don't pass the looks barrier first, people won't care about your characteristics

Anonymous · Answer

5. Neutral Personality matters more especially if he is honest, caring attentive and strong. It doesn't matter.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Like a 7. I don't want someone I don't find attractive.

magpi_ · Answer

It's a 10 in the sense that I absolutely need to feel physically attracted, not that she needs to be a 10.

bobbyjohnson · Answer

every Man no matter how good looking he is, should Never date a women under a 5... if a child is created with a female with looks under a 5, the future of our race will have ugly people

Tiffany1996 · Answer

5 it’s 50% the other 25% trust and and 25% communication.

LiamJHayden · Answer

2. It would be 1, but I won't date her if she's obese.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

10. In that it's absolutely mandatory I find her physically appealing.

Ryfyle · Answer

6? is not being an entitled land whale to much for people?

Anonymous · Answer

8/10 I’m. Not. Gonna. Fake. It. I don’t wanna argue/have sex/wake up to an ugly ass face

Anonymous · Answer

Its super important for me. If I'm not attracted it can't happen.

Adaeva · Answer

10 and many other factors are also 10.

Anonymous · Answer

look doesn't matter. how much he cares matters. and also destiny is the most important

Nikki1989 · Answer

Maybe a 5.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

5, just like in school. You pass, you pass.

Aphrodite801 · Answer

9, gotta be attractive that’s a must

msc545 · Answer

about 6-7. Mental health is a 10.

Greenbins · Answer

Looks have to be at least a 6

robocop666 · Answer

10, all I look for full stop

4ngelic · Answer

6-7 or so

sheenagwapa · Answer

5 or even below thet

Molly1997 · Answer

8. .

AgentRED · Answer

10 or it’s nothing

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