What matters most to you in a prospective partner, Looks or Personality?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The older you get, the more wisdom and knowledge you gain. As an adolescent I would have easily picked looks. However, the more I aged, I discovered personality is much more important. With that being said, look are still important. Your soulmate is someone you find mentally stimulating, spiritually intriguing, and physically attractive: However, the first two are most important. When a soul can embody you mentally and spiritually, they automatically become more physically attractive. Maybe I am coming to the realization that I am a sapiosexual. Who knows 🤷🏽‍♀️ What I am getting at is, character is what builds a soul. However, looks alone can only go so far. Looks also typically fade with time. Personality for me all the way, but still someone I am attracted to. As well as don’t mind them being on top of me every night.🙃

AmyHew1tt · Accepted Answer

It can't be one or the other to me. The para-phrase 'looks get you through the door but personality keeps you there' is pretty accurate for me. If there's no looks, there's no attraction, aka no romantic relationship, and if there's no personality, the attraction fades.

kmg9150 · Accepted Answer

Personality is irrelevant when if the way they look is a complete turn off. My guess, this goes for females too. I think people just want to believe they aren't “superficial” when saying its all personality…That looks fade and change…. WELL people, so do personalities…. which are easier to hide…..

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I voted personality.
I wouldn't consider anyone that I didn't find attractive, but I wouldn't consider them for a partner if I didn't like their personality. It's personality, common values and long-term desires that will keep you together over the long haul.

8Jessica8 · Answer

Of course personality is more important than looks. I don't know how men would feel about this one but I really do think that of they're being honest.. it's all about the looks for men. If you say a girl has a great personality.. it's almost assumed that she is really nothing to look at. I think women just approach it differently, When a woman is really into a man, he becomes more and more attractive the more that their personalities are parallel with each other

SotiCoto · Answer

I'll put it this way: I'd be willing to be friends with someone ugly but with a compatible personality, but I wouldn't want to fuck someone with a bad personality regardless of how they look.

Mwolf · Answer

Mediocre looking people become more attractive if you like them for who they are, it just happens naturally.

blueonblack22 · Answer

100% of each will never last long but personality lasts longer.

ApplePie409 · Answer

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alice55 · Answer

I guess looks because if he doesn't look attractive to me I won't date him just keep him as my friend. Then Again I won't date someone who have shit personality, I would just remain single.

sgsantos313 · Answer

Nuance is needed

For short-term dating predominantly looks matter for most.

For long-term, you do want to at least the looks threshold for the person you want to get their attention and get a date. However, personality and compatibility will dictate the long-term success.

Using myself as an example, my girlfriend’s looks got me interested and still attract me, but our compatibility is why we have been successful.

mono_gram · Answer

Definitely personality. Looks become a secondary thing when you find someone that you get along with really well and matches your vibe.

dustybiker2 · Answer

You have to deal with the personality even in the dark.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I always say in the beginning looks are the most important thing. However, once it's time to break up with someone, looks are the least important thing!

Unit1 · Answer

I won't lie. both matter. Lucky for me most girls are pretty enough, so ultimately its their personality, that's more of a deciding factor. I love girls very much. ❤️❤️❤️

Dongie · Answer

Can't have both? Very rare but I've met a few who were married. Personality.

HawkPerception · Answer

Personality does matter more, but looks is also important.

NathanDavis · Answer

personality and character traits first and foremost

HappyWoman34 · Answer

A bit of both, tbh. Personality is the priority though.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Looks fade and life is boring. Personality wins. ✨

Miah04 · Answer

Most personality. Looks does matter some. But after the fascination wears off, and they boring. Then what🤷🏾‍♀️

Pohjolan · Answer

Looks are more important initially but personality is more important later on. One can be the most charming person in the world but it doesn't matter if they get swiped left.

sheikalana · Answer

To be fair it's always been a little bit of both to me.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Looks hook me in but personality keeps me around. A 10/10 doesn't mean shit if she has a terrible personality and attitude.

genericname85 · Answer

both obviously. won't take a partner wiht shitty looks or shitty personality xD

Counterclocking · Answer

Both matter. A bad personality destroys a pretty face and an ugly face destroys a good personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Personality, by far. I mean there needs to be physical attraction too, especially initially, but personality, values and character are what make it last and keeps me coming back.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I can't pick lol I have to find her attractive, but I also have to enjoy being around her

Anonymous · Answer

nobody cares about personality if they don't pass the looks threshold first

Blueeyes81 · Answer

It's a 50/50 split. You shift it one way or the other and I don't develop romantic feelings.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Girlish personality and voice, intelligence, generosity, character.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Looks, the ugliest woman isn't going to get an opportunity to display her personality

jahaims · Answer

It doesn't matter how attractive they are if the 2 don't get along a relationship wouldn't work.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  a healthy balance of the 2

Anonymous · Answer

Pretty and no personality is like building on sand.

DishLady · Answer

Personality. Looks change.

EmmaMary · Answer

Personality ever time.

molonski2 · Answer

Looks only takes you so far..

Nikki1989 · Answer

Personality, no contest.

Awantika03 · Answer

Both are important

Sasquach · Answer

I think both are deal breakers for me

LiamJHayden · Answer

Personality. Outer beauty fades

Kelly445566 · Answer

Looks do and personality wins

Brittanyroseee · Answer

Both.

ranjanchickfight · Answer

Personality

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Look$ and some personality

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Personality more.

tzdc21 · Answer

Both.

sheenagwapa · Answer

personality

Anonymous · Answer

Both equally.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Both.

Anonymous · Answer

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