How to get a freaking boyfriend/husband?

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I’m 26 and getting a man seem like it’s the most complicated thing ever! I know looks plays a big part but from what I seen on social media I don’t think looks alone is enough to determine if you can get a man or not. I rarely go out but when I do I only go to places like the grocery store, target and ulta. I’m not sure what else I need to do , maybe start getting a few cats?

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

Social media is the biggest problems. Uncontiously it alters the way you think and feel about dating and society and it Brainwashes us massively. Im in the exact same position as you are but im 33 years old and we are influenced way to much in our thinking proces because of alghoritmens on social media.

Do you know what the inventers and makers of Facebook said when they where ask the question what went wrong and if they would let their kids grow up with social media?

They said it started out with good intentions but over the years when algoritmes found there way in it it started to go from good to bad to even worse... And they made very clear that their own children were NOT allowed to have social media accounts during there time as kids.

Understand... because this a very important to understand... Algoritmes are formulas that are based on your interests.

So if you are interested in sweet welbehaved dogs... the algorithm is going to show you a ton of sweet welbehaved dogs. It will not show you anything opposite of that so eventually you will never see the negative side that dogs can have.

You are fed with 1 sided information of your preference constantly without getting to see the full picture from all perspectives of your preferred subject. So overtime you will start believing that dogs are sweet and welbehaved because you are never seeing the other side of dogs who bite their owners etc..

Apply this fact to your dating lifestyle and experiences... If the algorithm notices your liking a lot of negative story's about relationships and bad behaviour or changes in the male behaviour... That will be shown to you by the algorithm and it won't show you the good sides anymore overtime.

Which you might think won't alter your way of thinking contiously but uncontiously it actually will change your oppinion overtime without being able to have influence on it yourself!

You probably heard of a experiment started in world war 2 called mind-control which later became known as MK-ultra... Its a experiment which is still active today actually and its researching all kinds of methods to control and alter peoples minds and the way they are thinking and influenced. They try to control our minds to their benefits and damn... they are far ahead in achieving their goals

Sixgunsound · Accepted Answer

What do you objectively bring to the table as a partner in terms of skills, looks, personality? Are you more agreeable or argumentative? Are you willing to pull your weight in making a successful household? What is your body count? How did your last relationship end? Do you think you are the prize, yes or no? How much and what kind of debt is a potential partner going to have to manage for you when you are pregnant or caring for small children? Is your first instinct when meeting men who don't meet your beauty standards to give him a chance to make his case or reject him out of hand? Why should a man worth your time think you are worth his? These are the kinds of questions you need to be asking if success in competing for men eludes you. Because make no mistake, with a smaller number of men in the world and a still smaller number that are worth your time, it is absolutely a competition with other women to get a quality man. Also, counterintuitive, giving him all the sex he wants is the quickest way to put yourself in the 'hit it while the getting is good until she realizes it isn't going anywhere' category.

MissTinaP · Accepted Answer

I don't know if this'll help, but have you tried going out with friends, to a bar/eatery/club with music and craft beers? A decent amount of guys like craft beers nowadays, and friends could try helping you while you're out.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well. Be the person the kind of men you want wanna date. Ask men out too…. If you wait on men to approach you. You’re limited only to who approaches you

ShadowMonarch · Answer

To be honest getting a guy is easy but if you can't get one maybe there's a problem with your attire or maybe you seem cold, something like could be the case

I'll advise you to wear nice looking clothes
Go out with friends
talk to people
socialize with your family and friends
work on your communication skills
become a cheerful person
Before you know you'll get a man

Other than that I'll also highly recommend that dont choose a guy out of thin air. Make that decision by observing a guy and judge whether is he even worth spending my time or not.

DextroShade · Answer

Let me put you up on game. Just as you put some guys in the friendzone and will sleep with others, men will put some women in the relationship category and most others in the sex-only category. Looks are important, but they only get your foot in the door; you have to demonstrate to a man that you are worthy of a relationship. Be fit, feminine, friendly, cooperative, submissive, and childless. Know how to cook, clean, and be helpful. Don't post racy pictures of yourself and don't have slut tells like danger hair, tats, and piercings. You also will have to compromise on your list of what you want in a man and date an older guy.

If you can't do this then you can become a cat lady, but it's a miserable life.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If you want to meet people you have to get out & greet people & signing up for a 5k or something like that is the way to go. Go for a walk on a nice day at your local park, go to an amusement park or go to the beach. In life if you never try you will never know.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Do yourself a favor.
Go to places where people hang out and talk to a guy.
If you need an excuse to talk to them then just “accidentally” drop something and hope they help you out.
After they help you out introduce yourself and ask them if they know any interesting things to around the city because you’re wanting to leave the house more.
Maybe even sneak in his phone number.

zagor · Answer

Put yourself out there. People tend to be interested in people who are interesting. What kind of things do you enjoy? Join a hiking group if you're into the outdoors, a wine appreciation group if you're into that, etc. Meetup. com has a lot of things in most urban areas. Look online and on community bulletin boards.

Or roll the dice and go online.

SunnyRS · Answer

Two things I can say miss.
One try going out more not to seek a boyfriend or husband but to meet new people and do some activities you enjoy, that will increase your confidence.
Second if you find someone nice be confident and approach them don't wait for them to come to you. Be friends with them get to know them and if you like them shoot your shot, if it doesn't work no problem at least you tried.

TheThingALing · Answer

Looks play a role in better certain guys but don't stop you from being able to date any guy.  For marriage, looks matter less, and your morals, personality, and history matter more

Anonymous · Answer

Now a days men want women who have dignity and class.
so if she has any online presence that is slutty, she will never be a long term girl.

if she carries herself like a cheap desperate sex object, she will be treated as such.

if she has a bodycount in the 2 digits, smokes/drinks, has tatts, etc. She will be seen as a quick fck if at all. Only the riff raff males will see her as anything more.

Crankor · Answer

It's really just being able to get yourself seen. It doesn't happen from a one time passerby. Me personally, I would want to be able to see how that person acts and reacts a little before I even considered approaching them.

Pterodon · Answer

I’ll marry you. All you have to do is be with me an average of 10 years and I’ll make sure you get a good insurance payment upon my death then you’re still young enough to find someone else

Twalli · Answer

Find places where people congregate. Talk to guys. I don't know if the same is true for guys, but every girl has at least one attractive friend. Maybe every guy has at least one attractive friend too.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Well that's your first problem - GO OUT - get active in your community via volunteer work

Sparkie460 · Answer

I've been chatting with a couple different women and they all have the same problem. Guys either don't look at them or they go on one date then they don't hear from them.

Normaldude444 · Answer

Getting is easy. Keeping is hard. Just talk to people at school/work/gym/hobbies.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

If nobody approach or flirt with you I guess you need to make the first move... Or maybe try online dating

TrillXHippy · Answer

I can tell you for a fact without a shadow of a doubt it’s a lot easier for you to get a boyfriend than it is for me to get a girlfriend

Anonymous · Answer

Getting cats is the worst idea. Nobody wants to date anyone with more than one cat; most won't even date someone with one cat.

strateguy632 · Answer

be a friend act like a friend that gets friend

BarryLiverstone · Answer

How do you look out of 10?

Iron_Man · Answer

Try Christian mingles

Anonymous · Answer

So you view men as a wallet or a lover?

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