How do I deal with this neighbor?

[Anonymous]

I had a thing for my neighbor. We were both attracted and interested. I had come off and little too needy and she avoids me like the plague. I read to give her space which is what I'm doing. We live in two different buildings where my bed is next to her living room. Anyway, I decided to avoid her and move on by taking my dogs somewhere else. Now, because she's avoiding me. I feel that I can't even go outside because if we somehow are both out, I worry that if it keeps happening, I might lose my place or whatever.

I'm overthinking but at the same time, how do I know what she's thinking? Trying to respect her wishes, but at the same time, I'm sacrificing my wants. Basically, when she comes out or whatever. I just would try to talk to her. Didn't know that was being needy. The conversations were good so I thought she didn't mind.

[Anarcamus]

You sure it was you being needy? The fact she avoids you like the plague kinda implies more here. Is there someone new? Did you do more than that? Tried asking? Just food for thought

[Asker]

First conversation after rejecting me. She was talking about sexual things and giving me attention and solid eye contact, smiling and doing what typical girls do to show it. Enjoyed our conversation well at least I did. I'd get off work and take my both dogs out (separately). She tend to run into my playful dog because I'd let him off the leash to throw his poop away. He doesn't bite or bark. She'd bring out her dog and they'd play together and have conversations then. As I noticed as it went on (few more times). I noticed she would back up if I tried to get close, so I stopped immediately. If she'd seen me while we were trying to talk. She'd tell me "it's good seeing you again." The last time I seen her. She was going to the laundry room and came back with my dog outside. She'd talk to me. I had asked her if we could talk and she went away while saying "I think I left my stove on." After that I started avoiding her. I ran into her twice more after that but I never said anything to her or even looked, but she never said anything back.

[Asker]

After the rejection, I had ignored her and moved on. A month later that's when the above happened.

[Anarcamus]

Weird question, pit bull and a great dane?

[Asker]

Mixed pit bull/terrier and chihuahua/terrier mix.

[Anarcamus]

Hmmzz okay, sounded exactly like someone I knew. Honestly it sounds more like she's hiding something...

[Asker]

What's your name?

What could she be hiding? That I didn't make a move because of her mixed signals and didn't know what her real intentions were?

[Anarcamus]

She seemed interested and then didn't?
Sounds like someone else pulled her attention and now she's avoiding you. I don't have all the details of course, so I could be wrong. The avoidance of a "difficult talk" even one this straight forward is odd

[Asker]

Maybe she's mad at me for not asking her out, but I couldn't with the mixed signals she was giving me. If she does, then she does.

Should I ask her what her problem is with me?

[Anarcamus]

Honestly I'd wait and watch... if you rush in or push her she is just gonna run.

For now live your life happily and just enjoy the moments you had.

[mstoxicprincess]

worst thing when a guy is needy. girls that r needy r ok…. i hope we’ll cuz i am one of them ;)

[Anonymous]

Stop sacrificing your wants, and stop being a chicken.