No, he's trying to determine if you're childfree. But he's asking it really fucking weird if it's "will you have my babies".
If you want kids, let him know you're open to having kids. Don't tell him with him, just say you're open to having kids.
If you don't want kids, or aren't sure, say so and be firm.
Personally I bring up childfree status or not in the first date. I don't waste time with people who want kids - it's unfair for both of us and I'm not interested in trying to convinced anyone. That's not my way. I respect if people want kids, I just know it isn't for me.
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Itās possible that heās just interested in knowing you more and is just trying to figure out if youāre suited for each other. That being said, he should have went about it differently. I think the chances that of this are kind of low however. Iām 39 and still dating, so I meet men on an app and get asked that question a lot (2 years ago a 41 year old guy asked 37 year old me if I wanted to have kids in the next year like he did (which Iām too old for and canāt have kids medical reasons). Red flag right there and I feel like itās the same thing with this guy. As Badapple said, he could be one of those losers who just get aroused by the thought of impregnating girls.
That's a question that should come up if you guys are thinking of pursuing a long-term relationship, but 2nd date seems pretty early to bring it up.
I think you're just going to have to use your judgement. I would definitely tell him you're saving sex for marriage if you haven't all ready. His reaction to that will be more informative.
He might really want to have kids. I asked a 38 year old woman that a few months ago.
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That's a good reason for NOT having a date #3. My niece met this guy, she was in love. While dating he got her pregnant. She married the low life... Only to find out that he impregnated another girl while my niece and him were dating AND after they got married he impregnated another girl. This guy was just into having as many children as possible as quickly as possible. So there are guys out there who just want that thrill of impregnating women. Maybe this guy is one of those types.
One user interestingly said that it might be a test to see if you're worth it.
That's one way to look at it.
A better approach would have been buying a house together... Or even joint account. A person who wants long term relationship will probably be less opposed to those things?
A child? A man can check out from parenting anytime he wants to.Some insecure abusive guys want to know how far they can go. A normal person who wants a healthy relationship wouldn't skip steps like this.
How exactly did he word it?
I think itās definitely weird to ask specifically āwould you want to have a kid with meā so soon. But if he was just asking if you want kids in general, I donāt think itās weird
Clearly a unwise approach even if the guy is old and can handle supporting you and a family. You are just a breeding factory in his mind if he asks that so early.
I think it´s a test. He wants to know if you could imagine starting a family with him. To be fair it´s quiet early in the datings stage such questions but maybe that´s his personality and he doesn´t want to date long without making a move.
The way he said it is odd. Maybe he wants to know early in if you plan on having kids or not, which is a smart thing to do. But if he is planning on making babies after 2 dates it's very weird and you should probably call it quits.
Well of course he wants to see what you're going to say and if you say yes he's going to say if he he's going to come in you and he's going to say goodbye it's ridiculous
That's a bit odd. Asking whether you want children at some point? Normal. With him after two dates? Cringey.
I'm with the girls on this one. Whether he's a player or not, that's a very weird question to ask on the second date lol
He judging your suitability for a long-term relationship and potentially marriage. Your paranoid reaction about it just being for sex shows that you are suitable for neither.
Just another pathetic lowlife player.
Who cares why? Clearly this is a guy to AVOID.
No he really wants kids
What in the HELL? Get away from this joker.
thats definitely not green flags thats for sure
That is so creepy.
He just wants to plant his seed.
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